My partner recently started a new job. As part of this there is a death in service payment.
Whilst filling out the paperwork on this section he said he said “do I put you I sort of feel I need to put my dad” I replied it’s your hypothetical money after you die to do as you wish, he then proceed to put me down and then his dad with a 50% share each.
It made me feel uncomfortable and I have really struggled to process his decision and actually work out what bothering me about it.
I also have a similar thing at the business I work at and have an equal split between my DP and DC.
I don’t know if I should have considered putting one of my parents down as they are not financially secure similarly to his father, all be it they would both stand to do well out of inheritances.
I feel that from very early on I have tried to make provision to make sure should something happen to me, he would be supported financially alongside my DC.
This has been my choice and fully appreciate it his choice to do as he’s sees right.
I just can’t help but to feel hurt by his decision. am I being unreasonable here?
I don’t know of it is because of the way he said it made it feel like he feels obligated to put his father down as a beneficiary or
how would you all feel wise mumsnetters if you were in a similar situation.