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To think I can't be the only person who doesn't know a single trans person

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VioletSpeedwell · 17/04/2025 22:58

Seriously.

The news is full of people worrying about how the SC ruling will affect people who identify as trans.

Where are they? Not in my office (large organisation), my family or social groups. I don't come across any in the village where I live or when I go into town.

DD is at university and doesn't know any trans people.

Surely, I can't be the only one?

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 18/04/2025 07:02

TropicofCapricorn · 17/04/2025 23:14

So how is often is a dress needed to be worn for the man to be trans?

It makes no sense for clothes, hair and name choice to be the determining factor here. I have short hair and rarely wear a skirt or dress. So what! I'm still a woman and no one would ever be in doubt about that.

MovedByFanciesThatAreCurled · 18/04/2025 07:02

KrisAkabusi · 17/04/2025 23:03

How do you know? Unless you see them naked, you can't tell with a lot of people.

You absolutely can

Blitzkrieg · 18/04/2025 07:01

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literallyarabbit · 18/04/2025 06:58

orangegato · 18/04/2025 06:20

They are the shoutiest most entitled minority. Their few number does not correspond to all the shit they cause for women.

Agreed. TWAW is the ultimate male privilege.

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:57

Important to note that this ruling has clarified that trans men should have access to all their female based rights around pregnancy and maternity and so on. This is an important clarification.

FlakyCritic · 18/04/2025 06:56

Neurodiversitydoctor · 18/04/2025 06:48

This isn't about bathrooms this is about womens' sport and prisons. Also public changing rooms.

It's about all 4, bathrooms included.

Sorryagain · 18/04/2025 06:56

BMW6 · 17/04/2025 23:05

I know one, sadly obviously a middle aged man in awful clothes and unflattering and obvious wig. No real woman would leave the house looking like that. Screams "I'm a bloke".😔

What a toxic comment

EdithBond · 18/04/2025 06:55

One of my fave travel writers (Jan Morris) transitioned in 1970s. I had a trans lecturer at uni in 1980s. Went to raves and clubs with trans women, and worked with a trans man, in 1990s. Since 2010s a trans woman’s worked in my local Sainsbury’s. My cousin is trans.

Guess it depends if you know they’re trans, where you spend your time and if those places feel safe for trans people.

FlakyCritic · 18/04/2025 06:54

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/04/2025 06:38

Well, aren't you the clever one? Do you have x-yay eyes?

Are you truly telling us you've lived your whole life and are unable to tell a man from a woman?

Really?

FlakyCritic · 18/04/2025 06:53

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 06:45

It’s far from ‘simple’ as you’re fully aware.

It’s denying they exist and I know they neither use changing rooms or women’s bathrooms because the last thing they want is to make anyone uncomfortable.

Honestly, don’t believe the hype and distraction. Trans people are not the problem.

Calling females, females is not denying males eXiSt! Many transwomen acknowledge they aren't actually women. Is their 'exiStEnCe' denied, too?

You're right, it's not trans people that is the problem, it is MALES. Now you finally get it. Pity too many on here still think this is about trans, when it isn't. It never was. It's about males, no matter how they identify.

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:51

Neurodiversitydoctor · 18/04/2025 06:48

This isn't about bathrooms this is about womens' sport and prisons. Also public changing rooms.

And domestic abuse shelters, and rape crisis counselling, and intimate care for sick/disabled women.

FlakyCritic · 18/04/2025 06:50

If transwomen are devastated, it just proves they feel entitled to encroach into areas they don't belong. The ruling simply said a woman is a biological sex. Yeah, so? And? What's devastating about that?

If they are 'devastated' they can't access female only spaces then they have a hide to be as they should never have been there. Many transwomen don't use female spaces - are they devastated? Don't they think us females have been 'devastated' that these entitled CFers have been violating our boundaries and spaces, and now they are devastated they may be told to stop doing that?

It shows that it's about violating womens boundaries and male entitlement, and they aren't genuine. If any trans (especially transwomen) that you know are 'devastated' about this ruling I'd give them a strong talking to and tell them women were devastated they were in our spaces to begin with, to use the male or gender neutral spaces and shut up and get over themselves and stop being so selfish. Males 'devastated' that they can no longer violate female only spaces - pure male entitlement. Absolutely no thought whatsoever the effect they've had on females. It's all about them.

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:49

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 06:45

It’s far from ‘simple’ as you’re fully aware.

It’s denying they exist and I know they neither use changing rooms or women’s bathrooms because the last thing they want is to make anyone uncomfortable.

Honestly, don’t believe the hype and distraction. Trans people are not the problem.

No one is denying anyone exists. In fact the ruling clarifies that people shouldn't be discriminated against because they are/have transitioned.

The law has also clarified that they should be treated as their biological sex for legal purposes, which is simply acknowledgement of reality.

If they aren't using opposite sex spaces, then what would change?

Neurodiversitydoctor · 18/04/2025 06:48

Crazyworldmum · 17/04/2025 23:54

I see your point . I know a trans person , he/she them has been using female bathrooms in the office for 15 years without a single issue . I don’t care , nobody cares . This whole thing has been blowed out of proportion so badly it’s actually stupid ! I don’t actually care o will possibly share a bathroom with trans person once a year . They will be happy being who they are and I will be happy seeing them happy . I wish celebrities didn’t invest so much money on court cases and crap and hid under the feminism umbrella . Most women do not mind . So many other feminist issues needing addressing I can’t grasp what this tirade is all about

This isn't about bathrooms this is about womens' sport and prisons. Also public changing rooms.

FurierTransform · 18/04/2025 06:47

You're not the only one op. I've never met a trans person either.
Maybe they all choose to live in Brighton or similar.

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:46

I have a family member who transitioned and then detransitioned and is now unfortunately left with long term physical effects from taking testosterone, even though she stopped more than a year ago.

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 06:45

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:40

Why would it devastate them that the law will treat them as the sex they actually are? This is simply acknowledging biological reality.

It’s far from ‘simple’ as you’re fully aware.

It’s denying they exist and I know they neither use changing rooms or women’s bathrooms because the last thing they want is to make anyone uncomfortable.

Honestly, don’t believe the hype and distraction. Trans people are not the problem.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/04/2025 06:44

Well done, OP, you've managed to get quite the number of ignorant haters together on this thread. Sadly, many of these are people bringing up children, so lovely to know that such attitudes are being taught.

AuraBora · 18/04/2025 06:42

ToBeOrNotToBee · 17/04/2025 23:13

1 at work, very obviously female with female socialisation still pretty clear. It's actually quite funny to watch a woman with boobs, a beard and short hair go all high pitched and try to twirl imaginary hair when speaking to a (straight) man they fancy.
And 2 transkids in my extended family. Both now not trans but unfortunately for both, have had irreversible damage done to their growing bodies by way of puberty blockers and hormones.

This is so sad. Poor kids!

snickersbarchild · 18/04/2025 06:41

All these devastated people - why not put your efforts into campaigning for third spaces???

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 06:40

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 06:36

Yes, I work with two trans women. Both so gentle and kind. They are both utterly devastated.

Why would it devastate them that the law will treat them as the sex they actually are? This is simply acknowledging biological reality.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/04/2025 06:38

BMW6 · 17/04/2025 23:06

Lol oh you can just tell immediately.

Well, aren't you the clever one? Do you have x-yay eyes?

TheseCalmSeas · 18/04/2025 06:36

Yes, I work with two trans women. Both so gentle and kind. They are both utterly devastated.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 18/04/2025 06:35

OP, how do you know?
Are you expecting them all to look like Danny La Rue?
Or wear a lanyard?

tilypu · 18/04/2025 06:35

I'm so surprised at how many people don't know any.

Two of my friends' sons are trans men. My daughter is really good friends with a trans man. I work with a trans woman (I'm new, there may well be more). I've met four transwomen through previous jobs. My lodger is a trans woman (friend of a friend that needed somewhere to stay).

There's nothing unusual about my life, I'm just a normal person doing a normal job.