To regret moving DP in to my house

@Withoutfearorfavour enter hang dog smile and vague attempt at cleaning.
Edited to add: I read the first post of this thread and he has a games console in that spare room so he’s hardly suffering is he?
And there is plenty of money in that low interest account so let him go and find somewhere.
And being ‘even more firm’ means letting him stay after abusing the house - again - I am not sure posters can offer advice which is heard.

That is not an option that’s available to him and not a decision that he can make.
He needs to leave now otherwise you will call the police.
Do Not back down on this otherwise he is not leaving tomorrow I promise you

Locks changed as soon as he’s gone, OP. Please don’t hesitate.

Frankly, not your problem.

It's harsh but he's brought it on himself.

Think of the relief when he's gone.

Big hugs …. I’m so sorry @JadeySmiles you must be in shock and sad. What a misogynistic prick he turned out to be. Once he is out give yourself a big cuddle and bubble bath and time to be sad. Then you can be grateful that you didn’t add him to the mortgage….

Why can't he go to his parent's house? They surely have a sofa he can doss on? He's trying to grind you down OP and is hoping you'll relent tomorrow.

Do you have a strong willed friend or family member who can come round? Hes an absolute loser - he can go home to mummy and tell her why hes been kicked out. He leaves, or you call the police - your house, your rules,.and right now he is trespassing

And please don't be worried about the police turning up.

It'll be two officers quietly in a car, it won't be a riot bus and wham-rams, sirens screaming, lights flashing.

If your neighbours ask, you had a problem, they helped you resolve it, you don't take any shit. What on EARTH could be embarrassing about that?

But you know his Mummy and Daddy have a chunk of money for him, in an easy to access account, so he can absolutely afford any hotel he likes.

Or if they're keen he doesn't waste those funds on a hotel, he can crash on their sofa.

He has lots of options.

He does not prefer them to cocklodging with you.

He, his finances, his living arrangements, are no longer your problem.

Not your problem to fix. Stop feeling sorry for him, he's brought it on himself.

What kind of scene are you expecting if the police turn up? Is he going to kick and scream at them while they drag him out in handcuffs in front of the whole street? No of course not. You tell him he either leaves or you will call the police, he whinges, you start dialling, he won't wait for them to turn up. Problem solved.

Not your problem.

Let him stay then and tomorrow, when he's got over his hangover, he'll persuade you he's very sorry, he'll pull his socks up, it won't happen again and you'll believe that this time you've really got through to him.....until the next time.

Your problem because?

You've given him ample opportunity to get his act together / prove to you he can pull his weight. HE has shown he gives zero fucks for you/your opinions/ your standards. If no room at parents or a house share, paying for a hotel is the consequence of his behaviour/choices. Call the police.

Don't be more of an idiot that you admit you have been already. He knows that you're worried about what others would think - it's exactly why he's refusing to leave quietly.

The police won't smash the door down. They'll come quietly, knock on the door and suggest that he leaves the easy way. He'll be too chickenshit to tell them to fuck off. Because they're male, usually.

Cells are free, though. So if all else fails, he'll have somewhere to go if Mummy can't sub him a few quid - considering he's apparently got savings from not paying his way in terms of rent, pretty sure he'd be able to afford something anyhow.

"I don’t want the police to turn up and make a scene, I own my house and it will embarrassing in front of the neighbours."

You've always got an excuse.

Your neighbors will respect you when they see you act decisively ending a bad situation.

He can get somewhere pretty quick. He has savings he can get a room share short term worst case scenario. I'd be minded to get him out asap before he talks you round. He can sleep on parents sofa - will motivate him to find somewhere sharpish. Call the police if he won't leave. Do you have anyone that can help?

You’ve got to be bloody kidding. This has to be a wind up.

Make a bloody scene. Stop being so passive. He has got a hangover and you are cleaning the walls? His mates seem to come running to go the pub or trash your house. And now he’s making calls?
What advice did you seriously expect to get on here?

Is he bothered that the relationship has ended because of his actions OP?

Where he goes is not your problem. He has family and friends and he's saved a couple months rent so it's not like he's broke.

If you want him out, tell him he's got two hours to pack his shit and leave. If he's not out, the police will assist him to leave and his shit will be placed outside the door.

Please don't let him make this your problem - because it's not! He can stay with friends or at a hotel or on a park bench. IT'S NOT YOUR PROBLEM.

He doesn't have a legal interest in your house.

Call the police and advised that he's refusing to leave at the end of your relationship. Scary, isn't he?