To regret moving DP in to my house

Nah, if he isn’t now in the “going all out to impress” stage then it will not get any better - ever! You will never be able to live together unless you want to be treated like Cinderella before she went to the ball.

As a test, just say you don't think it will be a good idea to put him on the mortgage and he should let his parents reinvest the 'money' (I doubt it exists, it's all part of his manipulation).

His response to that will be his true, unfiltered self (which he is more-or-less already showing you, but you still want him...EEK!)

As if he’ll do chores once a he’s on the mortgage. This isn’t asking him to pay to renovate a kitchen, it’s his own shit in the toilet bowl! And yet you’re worried about him dumping you?! DUMP HIM.

I told the gist of the original thread to my 17 year old DS earlier, who does way more in our house than your DP, and he thought it was a wind up. So either this is a wind up, or as others have said you’ll be back here in a few years with a couple of babies complaining about your useless husband. Or leave him and find someone better.

Just dump him. He's never going to pitch in. Definitely don't out him on the mortgage. Just get rid

I'm sorry OP but he's a disaster. Get him out pronto .

If he is willing to dump you over this, then so be it OP, you're not the problem here. All he has to do is grow up a little, you are sacrificing so much more.
I'm so sorry you're going through this.

You should be dumping him. Do not put him on the mortgage.

You think he might dump you???

No. No, YOU dump HIM, he can move out over the Easter weekend or better still, tomorrow.

Can you not see this will never get better?

Also his comments about the money his parents are giving him show that he is only thinking about himself. He is not interested in waiting in the interest of the relationship. Just cares that he might miss out on money for a year.

so many red flags….

Do NOT put him on the mortgage until at least two years have gone by. Why? Because it is very rare for somebody to pretend they are something else for that long. However, he has already shown you who he is. Repeatedly.

Are you going to ignore what he keeps telling you? No equal partner "chips" in with chores as and when. He's not great father material either.

At least you’ve found out early on that you’re not compatible. Better to find out now while you have no real financial ties.

He’s shown that not only is he unwilling to pull his own weight, but that his response to you raising this issue is to sulk rather than having reasonable discussion like an adult.

To echo the start of my last post on your first thread:

Ha, ha, ha,

He might be a bit more interested once you hand him ownership of somewhere north (and potentially the equivalent of travelling to the Arctic Tundra, depending upon where you live) of a hundred thousand pounds?

He's not even got it in him to pretend for more than a month that he gives a shit about you, not even with the prospect of his gullible girlfriend giving him more money than he's ever going to begrudgingly hand over for groceries, bearing in mind he's being housed for free as well.

Fuck's sake woman, if you want an ungrateful but aesthetically pleasing male in the house, get a sodding cat.

I think, no matter how frustrating and upsetting this situation is, the thing to keep in mind here is how lucky you've got. He's not on your mortgage, you've not had babies with him and he is shooting you his behaviour.

I guess you could give him a few weeks to see if he "chips in" 50% of the housework. I suspect he won't but if you were feeling generous you could give him the benefit of the doubt. But don't get sucked back into living like you are now forever.

I've never read a thread here that I feel so strongly about. I really really hope she does what's best for her.

It's very upsetting when a relationship you have invested time and dreams into doesn't work out. It would however be more upsetting to be financially tied to this man and lose your home because he claimed he couldn't help with housework without being on the mortgage.

Do not entangle yourself financially with this man.

You’ve listed a pile of stuff that would see any woman with a healthy amount of self respect running for the hills from this man. Over any of them even individually, let alone together.

what is happening for you that you are having to question this?

This, this and this again.

Please see him for the loser he will always be, and get him out of your house and out of your life. Life is too short to waste on him and alone is a billion times better than sharing your life with this awful human.

He’s a leech. Don’t let him pressure you into putting him on the mortgage. In fact, if it were me, I’d get rid.

For goodness sake OP, please don't settle for this. Remember - when someone shows you who they are, believe them. He's not even trying to hide what a lazy, entitled cocklodger he is. If you tolerate this, you will end up resentful and miserable - and swindled!

It's a bank holiday weekend. He can move back to his parents and they can give him the deposit for his own place.

He just wants to own YOUR hard worked for home with the built in maid and booty call.

He is treating you appallingly, not willing to do anything off his own back, and STILL EXPECTING you to sign over your home.

This is not a loving, supportive partner. He is a leech.

Throw this one back

Wait till he calls her a nag when she actually tells him what needs cleaning.....

He says he feels a bit awkward with getting stuck in given he doesn’t own the house and thinks he will be more comfortable once he is on the Mortgage

ABSOFUCKINLUTELY NOT

He says he feels a bit awkward with getting stuck in given he doesn’t own the house and thinks he will be more comfortable once he is on the Mortgage and asked me when that will be. I said I want to wait and see how things go over the next few months as we get used to living with each other.

You took his piss poor attempt at manipulation seriously? And you are frustrated he didn't offer any suggestions about how things are split. He hasn't made any suggestions because he has no intention of doing anything whether he's on the mortgage or not.

The manchild is sulking and gaming in the spare room rather than packing his bags because you haven't told him to fuck off.

I think you are going to lose your house to this bloke.