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To regret moving DP in to my house

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JadeySmiles · 17/04/2025 22:30

Hi all, the previous topic isn’t accepting new posts so I thought I’d update here.

We have had the conversation about split of
chores, DP said he can chip in ‘as and when needed’ but he didn’t have a suggested split as I hoped which was frustrating.

He says he feels a bit awkward with getting stuck in given he doesn’t own the house and thinks he will be more comfortable once he is on the Mortgage and asked me when that will be. I said I want to wait and see how things go over the next few months as we get used to living with each other.

He was a bit funny with this and suggested I’m backtracking on an agreement. But we didn’t ever set a timeline. He says his Mum has
told him the funds she/his Dad are gifting are currently in a low paying interest account and if he doesn’t take them soon they’ll fix them for a year so he needs to hurry up if he wants them.

I said this doesn’t change my feelings and we need to see how things go. He seems to be sulking now and has been on his games console in the spare bedroom since dinner, which he criticised and said he’s getting fed up with the same vegan meals. I told him he’s welcome to cook for us tomorrow!!

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outerspacepotato · 23/04/2025 12:52

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To regret moving DP in to my house
LadyLolaRuben · 23/04/2025 08:09

Have you gone back home OP and he's now out the house?

DRose3 · 23/04/2025 02:06

Hope you’re safe and okay OP.

Mrsmouse71 · 22/04/2025 23:26

Or could she be dead?

To regret moving DP in to my house
YourWinter · 22/04/2025 20:40

Maybe he’s changed the locks and she can’t get in!

LillyPJ · 22/04/2025 18:32

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 22/04/2025 17:12

I think either he’s talked her into giving him another chance, or he’s completely trashed the house. Either way she won’t be coming back to this thread because she’ll get a load of abuse if she does.

I'd love to know the outcome, whether it's fact or fiction! My guess is she went back in the morning, he was still there making a half-hearted attempt to clean up, gave her a sob story and she gave him 'just' one more chance... But I hope I'm wrong.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 22/04/2025 17:12

I think either he’s talked her into giving him another chance, or he’s completely trashed the house. Either way she won’t be coming back to this thread because she’ll get a load of abuse if she does.

TheFormidableMrsC · 22/04/2025 17:03

iseethembloom · 22/04/2025 14:31

Not a wind-up at all. Perhaps @JadeySmilescan sense other posters gawping at her, suggesting she is dim, and accusing her of fiction in an attempt to lure her back in the hope she’ll prove otherwise by way of further lurid details.

Maybe @op wants to keep a bit of her life back for herself.

I think she’s just gone back to school 🤷🏻‍♀️

WeHaveTheRabbit · 22/04/2025 14:38

iseethembloom · 22/04/2025 14:31

Not a wind-up at all. Perhaps @JadeySmilescan sense other posters gawping at her, suggesting she is dim, and accusing her of fiction in an attempt to lure her back in the hope she’ll prove otherwise by way of further lurid details.

Maybe @op wants to keep a bit of her life back for herself.

You can't possibly know whether it's a wind-up or not. None of us (with the exception of the OP) can say that.

iseethembloom · 22/04/2025 14:31

Not a wind-up at all. Perhaps @JadeySmilescan sense other posters gawping at her, suggesting she is dim, and accusing her of fiction in an attempt to lure her back in the hope she’ll prove otherwise by way of further lurid details.

Maybe @op wants to keep a bit of her life back for herself.

lazycats · 22/04/2025 13:40

Wind-up thread. Sorry to all the people who spent more than 5 minutes reading it.

LillyPJ · 22/04/2025 13:36

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GoodCharl · 22/04/2025 13:16

So what happened op. Presumably youve returned to YOUR house? Is he out? 🙄

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 22/04/2025 09:54

He will conform until about 4 .months after he's got his name on your property deeds. Then he will start backsliding but will have spurts of conforming. Once you have a child he won't conform at all.

TwistedWonder · 22/04/2025 08:15

GoodCharl · 22/04/2025 07:32

Is this for real?!

Of course it’s not - another time wasting fantasist

ShouldIEvenBother · 22/04/2025 08:14

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GoodCharl · 22/04/2025 07:32

Is this for real?!

ReadingSoManyThreads · 21/04/2025 20:06

JadeySmiles · 20/04/2025 21:37

I’m at my friends now, thanks everyone for the supportive messages x

@JadeySmiles are you ok today? Did he leave? Please let us know you're ok x

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WeHaveTheRabbit · 21/04/2025 14:21

There was a whole bunch of threads about an awful husband who’d gone on a stag night to Blackpool with his football team.

Those threads were ridiculous. I was surprised anyone was taken in by such obvious fiction.

iseethembloom · 21/04/2025 14:14

@ophow are things? I’ve been thinking about you. Please let us know how things are.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 21/04/2025 14:13

Wow. This has got to be the most ridiculous thread I’ve ever read. OP has left her home to give a disgusting man-child a bed for the night. Why? Just why? I hope to god the house hasn’t been trashed and turned over. But what’s the likelihood it’ll be clean and tidy when OP returns?

OP you need to get this man out of your house and your life. You also need to get some therapy to uncover why your bar is so low.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 21/04/2025 13:29

YourWinter · 21/04/2025 11:26

It reads more and more like fiction tbh, nobody is that dim.

I am never sure.
There was a whole bunch of threads about an awful husband who’d gone on a stag night to Blackpool with his football team. Whole cast of characters.
It got taken down in the end.
It is hard when you want to support someone but this one….
Takes no notice of 90 per cent of the very decent advice.

Alwaysinamood · 21/04/2025 12:48

Really hope you’re house isn’t in a mess today 🙏🏻🙏🏻

OliveWah · 21/04/2025 12:39

Ahhh, @JadeySmiles, I'm so sorry he has turned out to be such an arse. You were more than fair in giving him the opportunity to clean up his act around the house, and the fact that instead of helping to keep the home tidy, he has completely trashed it says a lot about him and just how lacking in simple respect he is. If anyone should be embarrassed, it's him - what grown man would ever think this was an acceptable way to behave?

I'm sorry this has happened, but at least it's come to a head now rather than in a year when you've got him on the mortgage. Keep this break up quick and clean, you owe this disgusting minger nothing. Enjoy your lovely, clean home! Flowers