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4yo unattended in pool

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Anon01010 · 17/04/2025 21:06

My ex recently started taking our 4yo old swimming. 4yo has had two lessons I believe and had no prior experience in pools so is still learning. They do an open swim session after. 4yo has just informed me his father showed him how he can swim the whole length of the pool under water, leaving 4yo unsupervised in the pool. Am I right to be worried/annoyed by this or should I just let it go?

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CheeseNPickle3 · 17/04/2025 21:18

A 4 year old child who can't swim should never be out of sight or out of arm's reach in a pool.

Actually even if they can swim they should be close and never ever left unattended.

Jessica5678 · 17/04/2025 21:17

I’d be furious - neither of mine could swim at age four, they remained within arms reach at all times in a pool, especially if it’s deep enough for an adult to swim under water in. Probably not a lot you can do to stop it. The lifeguard may have words though, at our local pool you’d get shouted at for being too far away from a non swimming child.

Seagreensmokeyblue · 17/04/2025 21:16

I would be very worried by this. It only takes a few seconds for a child to get into difficulty or even drown if left alone in the water.