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Builder poo

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shamble · 17/04/2025 20:59

Long time lurker, first time poster. DH thinks it’s quite funny, and IABU, but I’m really irked by this and I want to know what others think.

We’re having a loft conversion done, and have just had the en-suite shower room installed. Plumbing functions. The carpenter was in today and had the house to himself as we were all out.

He went to the existing bathroom, fetched a toilet roll, took it up to our brand new unused en-suite toilet, and took a dump. Nothing wrong with toilet in existing bathroom, it’s perfectly nice.

what was that all about? Does he hate us? Is he just a thoughtless male? Did he want to christen our toilet for us and leave skid marks as a gift? AIBU to be pissed off and want to complain?

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Calliopespa · 18/04/2025 01:02

UnctuousUnicorns · 17/04/2025 21:01

Not this one again! 🙄

Exactly. How many builder poo threads can we take?

Ivesaidenough · 18/04/2025 00:54

@LittlerCharlotte no, they were self employed so no one to complain to really. I mentioned it in the feedback when the carpet company asked, but no response.Confused

Clafoutie · 17/04/2025 23:25

BlondeMummyto1 · 17/04/2025 22:58

Maybe he thought the family bathroom was off limits but the one being worked on was OK to use.

Yes, I imagine it was more something like that some sort of contempt. He should have cleaned it thoroughly though.

Annascaul · 17/04/2025 23:17

Hastentoadd · 17/04/2025 23:16

Maybe he wanted to test that it functioned properly

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All part of the service, Madam…

Hastentoadd · 17/04/2025 23:16

shamble · 17/04/2025 20:59

Long time lurker, first time poster. DH thinks it’s quite funny, and IABU, but I’m really irked by this and I want to know what others think.

We’re having a loft conversion done, and have just had the en-suite shower room installed. Plumbing functions. The carpenter was in today and had the house to himself as we were all out.

He went to the existing bathroom, fetched a toilet roll, took it up to our brand new unused en-suite toilet, and took a dump. Nothing wrong with toilet in existing bathroom, it’s perfectly nice.

what was that all about? Does he hate us? Is he just a thoughtless male? Did he want to christen our toilet for us and leave skid marks as a gift? AIBU to be pissed off and want to complain?

Maybe he wanted to test that it functioned properly

TeenLifeMum · 17/04/2025 23:15

Iceboy80 · 17/04/2025 22:15

It's a toilet, you piss and shit in it. Is it more because he was the first to use it Grin

You must have low standards if leaving skid marks is acceptable and normal.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 17/04/2025 23:10

Maybe he thought it would be less stinky confined upstairs.

gardenfairywithattitude · 17/04/2025 23:08

@feelinghopeless2025 "To the poster who said what if the skids are under the water- if that’s happening with regularity you need to eat more fibre"

😆😆.

feelinghopeless2025 · 17/04/2025 23:06

shamble · 17/04/2025 22:27

@Neurotoxic no, toilet has just been plumbed in. No toilet brush available as I wasn’t expecting anyone to use the toilet. The room has no door, apart from anything else. But I have to ask, do you use your toilet brush for that? Is it weird that I find that gross? I use toilet roll to clean skid marks off toilets. Toilet brush is to clean a visibly clean toilet. Otherwise surely the toilet brush gets utterly manky and pooey? How do you clean your toilet brush?
starting to wonder if my cleanliness issues are bordering on weird.

I also do this OP, and only use the toilet brush to scrub the visibly clean toilet.

To the poster who said what if the skids are under the water- if that’s happening with regularity you need to eat more fibre.

LittlerCharlotte · 17/04/2025 22:59

Ivesaidenough · 17/04/2025 22:56

I wonder if this is a weird thing some workmen do? We had some carpet fitters, we went out while they moved all the furniture to fit the carpet.
When we came back, we paid, they left.
When we went into the toilet later they had pissed literally all over the room. No attempt to get it into the toilet at all. It was not just weird, it frightened me a bit tbh. It felt very aggressive.

This is really weird behaviour. Did you complain?

BlondeMummyto1 · 17/04/2025 22:58

Maybe he thought the family bathroom was off limits but the one being worked on was OK to use.

Darkclothes · 17/04/2025 22:56

Mum2jenny · 17/04/2025 22:44

You use toilet paper to clean your arse, why not use it to clean your poo off the toilet bowl? Same shit, just different location!

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What if the skid extended under the water line? Would you still plunge your hand into the water with no gloves on???

Ivesaidenough · 17/04/2025 22:56

I wonder if this is a weird thing some workmen do? We had some carpet fitters, we went out while they moved all the furniture to fit the carpet.
When we came back, we paid, they left.
When we went into the toilet later they had pissed literally all over the room. No attempt to get it into the toilet at all. It was not just weird, it frightened me a bit tbh. It felt very aggressive.

misssunshine4040 · 17/04/2025 22:50

That’s disgusting I would be so angry.
Of course they are human but they are employed to do a service not shit in the brand new goods and not even have the decency to clean up properly.

Vile

Mum2jenny · 17/04/2025 22:44

Darkclothes · 17/04/2025 22:36

I use toilet roll to clean skid marks off toilets. Toilet brush is to clean a visibly clean toilet. Otherwise surely the toilet brush gets utterly manky and pooey? How do you clean your toilet brush?

You use toilet paper to clean skid marks! Do you use gloves? I use the toilet brush- as I thought that is what its actually for. Mine is a silicone paddle, not a brush. I have bleach in the container at the bottom where the paddle lives. I wouldn't be sticking my hand in my own, let alone someone else's toilet bowl to clean it with loo roll without gloves on. 😱

I also just throw the brush in the dishwasher every week or so- just kidding 😆

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You use toilet paper to clean your arse, why not use it to clean your poo off the toilet bowl? Same shit, just different location!

Darkclothes · 17/04/2025 22:36

I use toilet roll to clean skid marks off toilets. Toilet brush is to clean a visibly clean toilet. Otherwise surely the toilet brush gets utterly manky and pooey? How do you clean your toilet brush?

You use toilet paper to clean skid marks! Do you use gloves? I use the toilet brush- as I thought that is what its actually for. Mine is a silicone paddle, not a brush. I have bleach in the container at the bottom where the paddle lives. I wouldn't be sticking my hand in my own, let alone someone else's toilet bowl to clean it with loo roll without gloves on. 😱

I also just throw the brush in the dishwasher every week or so- just kidding 😆

Tryinghardtobefair · 17/04/2025 22:36

shamble · 17/04/2025 21:23

Idontjetwash we crossposted. I would’ve liked him to have gone in the bathroom he got the toilet roll out of. There’s something about going out of his way to shit in someone’s brand new unused toilet that I find…weird and contemptuous?

I would understand if he got the loo roll from the hall, or from a shelf. But to go into the bathroom, bypass the toilet, get a loo roll, and go to the ensuite... Seems. Odd.

Maybe he was self conscious? Some people have poo anxiety 😅

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 17/04/2025 22:32

GettingMySpringOn · 17/04/2025 21:12

You do know builders are humans and need to use the toilet, like wise for plumbers, carpenters, mechanics, electricians and whoever else.
As long as it's cleaned so what.
I would be annoyed if a mess left.

When we had renovations they offered to have a portaloo on the drive. There were 5 men.
I said no we have a toilet! Always made sure there was plenty of loo roll and toilet cleaner in there.

Read the OP!!

gardenfairywithattitude · 17/04/2025 22:31

shamble · 17/04/2025 22:27

@Neurotoxic no, toilet has just been plumbed in. No toilet brush available as I wasn’t expecting anyone to use the toilet. The room has no door, apart from anything else. But I have to ask, do you use your toilet brush for that? Is it weird that I find that gross? I use toilet roll to clean skid marks off toilets. Toilet brush is to clean a visibly clean toilet. Otherwise surely the toilet brush gets utterly manky and pooey? How do you clean your toilet brush?
starting to wonder if my cleanliness issues are bordering on weird.

I can recall a thread quite some time ago where posters nearly came to blows over the topic of "bog brush v no bog brush".

Maybe someone could find it/repost a similar one so we can have another free-for-all ?

AprilShowers25 · 17/04/2025 22:30

DH thought it was funny, why didn’t he clean it then?

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shamble · 17/04/2025 22:27

@Neurotoxic no, toilet has just been plumbed in. No toilet brush available as I wasn’t expecting anyone to use the toilet. The room has no door, apart from anything else. But I have to ask, do you use your toilet brush for that? Is it weird that I find that gross? I use toilet roll to clean skid marks off toilets. Toilet brush is to clean a visibly clean toilet. Otherwise surely the toilet brush gets utterly manky and pooey? How do you clean your toilet brush?
starting to wonder if my cleanliness issues are bordering on weird.

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UnctuousUnicorns · 17/04/2025 22:24

Noperope · 17/04/2025 21:31

I visited a house with one of those recently. Felt almost Victorian.

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My first family home was turn of the (20th) century, so not far off, one of a red brick terrace with an entry at the back.

Neurotoxic · 17/04/2025 22:23

Well was there a toilet brush available?

Coconutter24 · 17/04/2025 22:20

Idontjetwashthefucker · 17/04/2025 21:15

Where does it say that?

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Did he want to christen our toilet for us and leave skid marks as a gift?

it says it in the OP

Iceboy80 · 17/04/2025 22:15

It's a toilet, you piss and shit in it. Is it more because he was the first to use it Grin