For not taking 2-week old to his granddads birthday?

The best thing I did for my mental health post baby was getting out and about. I went to the supermarket with baby on the way home and to an outdoor festival when she was 3 days old. I was never told by medical staff not to take baby out.

Honestly, you’ll be fine although if you don’t want to go it’s probably an ok excuse.
i went to a wedding on day 3 with one of mine. It was fine. I just carried her (she was passed around a lot from memory). I’d also had a section so I think DH must have dropped me off at the wedding but it was no issue. She got a lot of attention!

I would think about whether you’re up to going out for a family gathering. Many women get cabin fever at home and are absolutely fine to be out and about but a few weeks post c-section this is not what I wanted to be doing and I gently declined a few invitations. Yes some people thought it was OTT but I decided to prioritise my wellbeing and physical comfort (which I didn’t after my first two deliveries!)

But of course, it’s a personal decision, you’re not wrong if you take him out and you’re not wrong if you decide to stay home with him.

Why don't you usually get invited? Are these your DH's parents? Do you normally have a good relationship with them?

If your relationship isn't great, I can see why you are reluctant to attend.

I'd go for a bit.
Did you take baby out for the meal? Likely they interacted with more germs there than a birthday party.

Last thing you want is to come home pissed off and upset because great auntie June felt entitled to slobber all over their cheeks

There was a thread on here a fews days back about a 1 day old baby in the pub and most people thought it was fine .
I know you feel you're only getting invited because of the baby and everyone wants to meet the squishy newborn.
But if the invitation was not forthcoming you'd be "well this is a bloody liberty , I've had a baby and DH side of the family have forgotten I exist. I've been left out of a family party"

Do what the hell you want OP.
youve just had a baby.
do what you think is best for you and baby.
stuff everyone else including people on here!
if you dont want to expose them to lots of people and think you’ll feel pressure to let them be held and slobbered over by a bunch of people, then don’t go.

only go if you feel you can speak up and enforce your boundaries around holding and kissing (if you have them) and dont think you’ll be ignored by ignorant people feeling entitled to kiss them.

BUT - only go if you feel well enough and you think it’d be OK to just drop in for an hour or two.

I think it would be fine to go. Are you BF? If so, the baby gets lots of immunity from you.

I just wouldn’t have been ready to be out and about and socialising at that stage with my firstborn, never mind the baby.

You’ve just been pregnant for nine months and given birth. Your wishes take priority at this stage.

Classic example of the “let them” principle.

I know his grandmother is going to be upset and think I’m being silly or overprotective

Ok, so let her. Let her be upset and let her think that. I know it’s a really vulnerable time but you need to focus less on what other people are feeling and concentrate on yourself and your baby.

Also... your partner can wear the sling if you do want to go.

We took our baby to my mums 60th when she was about 10 days old. Was such a great opportunity to meet the extended family so we didn’t need anyone to come to our house 😂 our second is 6m old and still hasn’t met everyone. People are less ott second time around and your schedule is busier so I would make the most of showing baby off if I were you. That being said, it’s very individual so depends how you feel!

I think the fact you’ve said you don’t trust your husband to take the baby by himself is something that needs some consideration. Communication is key bringing children up with someone and if you don’t trust him to respect your wishes already, it could do with addressing. Equally he is also the baby’s parent and does he have a say? Obviously don’t know all of the info so it may not be as it seems, but parenting is so much easier in unity!

Definitely think the most important thing is how you feel after c section especially on the day. Is it close enough to pop in but not stay long? I enjoyed introducing our first baby to family, and attended a couple of big family occasions within the first month. I also arranged for family to gather at my nans so we could introduce them all at the same time rather than hosting lots of visits. I remember having a bedroom where I retreated to when I needed a rest / baby needed feeding. But it still all comes down to how you personally feel.

Only go if you feel fit enough. Second, third etc babies are out on the school run, toddler groups etc withing days and are fine.

However the mothers recovery from birth or csection is very individual and can vary from day to day. Its important for recovery to only do what you feel ready for.

You’ve had a c-section so give yourself a break - there’s no need to take a tiny baby to a party to be passed around.

I'd be there like a shot and then leave as soon as I wanted to

I think you’re overthinking it.. what’s wrong with your child being on show? My dd was the first grandchild on both sides so MIL made a huge party to show her off at.. it was lovely to get so many compliments about her.

I'd go, it's not exactly in the middle of December with bugs everywhere. Just don't pass him around too much and it will be fine.

Mine were passed around grandparents and visitors quite happily from a couple of days old. And to cafes and museums and on public transport. Never occurred to me not to ir that it would be a reason not to go to this party.

I wouldn’t personally, but you could go for an hour maybe just to say hello etc
At the end of the day it’s your choice to do what you feel comfortable with - pretty much for most things when they’re small!!! 2 weeks post csection isn’t to be underestimated so be kind to yourself!
oh and congrats!!!!! Xx

I think it’s two separate issues - I never worried in particular about big gatherings and like others, enjoy showing baby off, so my risk tolerance there may be different to yours. But there’s no way I’d have been up to a party two weeks post section, especially for a first baby - I was still setting alarms to make sure I didn’t miss painkillers at that stage!

I was at first time mum and breastfeeding groups within days, into work within the first 2 weeks (as I wanted my husband to help so had to be whilst he was on paternity leave) and lots of visitors. Isn’t that…normal?! People bring very new babies into my large office all the time.

I wouldn't go if you don't feel up to it - you've had a c-section, you're still recovering and possibly establishing breastfeeding and not getting much sleep! I think that's a good enough excuse and if they get the hump about it, let them. It's not your problem! They will all get the chance to meet your baby when you decide the time is right for them to visit you. Until then, rest and recover and enjoy these first few weeks with your new baby 💐