For not taking 2-week old to his granddads birthday?

for those saying some communities do this - in the majority of traditional cultures women are in bed for at least the first two weeks being fed and cared for!!

only in the Uk where I see absolutely exhausted mums of newborns out with toddlers in the park looking broken ...

god some horribly insensitive comments !!

op you do exactly what you feel like!! stay in bed !!

The baby would be fine but at 2 weeks post partum you should be thinking of your own health. Are you fit for it and do you want to go? Personally after 2 out of the 3 births I had, there is no way I was going anywhere after 2 weeks. If anyone wanted to see the baby they could visit me.

Just for info, the sooner you move around after a c-section, the better for your recovery. I had to walk half a mile to a midwife appointment after a week. It was bloody hard but after 2 weeks I was a lot better. I could certainly have managed an hour of sitting down in someone’s house, especially if I’d been driven there.

I would definitely go if I felt ok. I assume he’s your first?

I took my baby at 5 days to my friends engagement party. I was most nervous that lots of random people would ask to hold the baby and pass him around like a parcel but people were very respectful and only took him when offered.

but just do whatever u feel comfy with xx

One of my dc caught whopping cough in the postnatal ward
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Two weeks from C-section - I would say no on that alone!

I don’t think Yabu. I welcomed visitors when ds1 was born. He caught bronchiolitis after one turned up coughing and spluttering and was admitted to hospital at 3 weeks which was awful.

With ds2, I was much more strict. We would go out everyday but if anyone had a cold, they weren’t holding him. I also had a big tub of hand sanitiser at the ready. At a party or large gathering, likelihood is one of them may be ill or have a bad cold.

I would just pretend to have a sickness bug on the day if you want to avoid any conflict.

I’d have been the same because I had such bad postnatal anxiety I couldn’t leave the house, not because there’s actually any real risk of harm to the baby. There are communities in Britain where babies are taken to large gatherings from 1 week old and absolutely nothing happens.

Keep the baby in the sling (wear a bit of padding if the scar is sore or let her dad wear her) but otherwise crack on. It’s not as if mothers with lots of other older kids stay home for the first month. You can always ask people to wash their hands first and go home if it all feels a bit too much.

Edit to add: if you’re breastfeeding, then you are your baby’s immune system. Your body will produce antibodies in response to any germs in your baby, which your baby will then ingest via the milk. Basically a tiny bit of baby saliva goes into your body via the milk ducts, your body makes antibodies and then your baby swallows them. Amazing, eh?

You have just had a c section! Of course you shouldn’t be going. You need to recover and relax with your new born. Especially as you seem to be the hired entertainment.

If you are often overlooked then your dh is probably thrilled to finally be noticed, but that doesn’t mean you should go.

BTW you can't leave your reborn in a carseat for long. Safer passed around. You do know if you have another dc your pfb will be germ ridden and kissing their sibling don't you?

I threw a party for about 30 people when my first was 3 weeks old because I wanted to show her off and I had a crappy pregnancy and wanted to celebrate. So personally I'd go for it without hesitation.

I wouldn't personally worry about germs, many babies have toddler siblings, and they are basically walking petri dishes of germs, who see them day in, day out 😁.

Provided you feel well enough there's no reason you can't use a sling 2 weeks post section, though it does depend on your recovery. My first I wore at about 2 weeks because I didn't have a sling until then, my second was on day 3 what making breakfast for the toddler. I found in the first few weeks that a stretchy sat higher on me than a structured carrier, and because it's was an x across my torso, there wasn't a waistband as such, so went no where near my scar.

If you find it uncomfortable though, your husband can wear baby instead. Don't use a car seat though - it's not good for them to be in there when not needed, and a lot worse than them having cuddles from excited families members.

The baby will be fine. Have fun showing off your baby.

A gathering is an excellent place for people to meet your baby - let them hold the baby!

What sort of do? Might you be sat outside.

I wouldn’t have even thought about it tbh.

If you are breastfeeding, the baby gets some protection from you. Even if you don't , he will still have some protection from pregnancy.

I would go and not pass him around.

Just to highlight, it is actually not recommended to have such a small baby in a car seat for more than 20-30mins. It can cause breathing issues due to positioning.

DD was taken to a completely different hospital at one day old to a ward where my dad had just died. Had no choice but to go and take her. She was surrounded by cooing nurses, they had a cuddle. It was a little light on the ward where people mostly died.

OP, just for some reassurance (hopefully!) my third DD caught her first cold at 3 weeks old and was fine. I mean, snuffling and fussier than usual but certainly not very ill. I didn't take her to a doctor or anything. So it's not a given.
But equally, she's your first and you don't have to expose her so don't if you don't want to.

Honestly if you’re planning to have more than one baby you need to realise that an older sibling is going to expose their baby sibling to plenty of germs 😅

Your dh never used to get invited to his dad's birthday gatherings?

You never get invited to your H’s fathers birthday?

I've just had my second and it'd be a big fat no from me. Why do people say this to first time mums? There's so much pressure to go because they want to see the baby, when you most need your rest and bonding.

I would go early to see grandparents and then pop baby in a sling so that people can see but not pass them around and then leave after an hour.

I think you’re overthinking it. With DS we were out around the shops at five days, and DD had to go with us to nursery every day from five days old, and went to a carol service at four days old. Didn’t even occur to me to not do those things. All post CS too.