For not taking 2-week old to his granddads birthday?

Over protective in my view. One of mine was born a week before Christmas and saw way over 20 people at a party. I never gave a second thought to any of my newborns being round other people.

Honestly, go with your gut. People seem to forget how intense those first few weeks/months can be - especially if you’re establishing breast feeding or recovering from a difficult birth or c section. Plus, baby’s immune system is so immature at two weeks old that a large gathering could feel too risky at this stage. I get not wanting to disappoint people, but let them manage their disappointment. There’s no right or wrong, just what is best for you. Good luck with whatever you decide!

My SIL brought her 2 day old baby to Christmas!

I’d take him.

You are not being unreasonable at all. There are all kinds of viruses going around right now. Why would you want to expose a two week old to a crowd?

It doesn't matter if the grandma thinks you are being overprotective. You are a mother now and it is your decision, not hers.

@EdithBond what do you think mums with other children do? They can't stay home for 6 weeks 😳
6 hours would drive me insane never mind 6 weeks

I wouldn't have been up for a party two weeks after giving birth, never mind taking my new baby to one. You could just show your face I suppose but I don't think you are unreasonable.

I had planned to go to a close family party when my DD was 12 days old. Planned to wear a sling to ensure she wasn't grabbed and passed around. In the end I didn't go as was too much for myself and such a young baby.
Also as I'd had to have antibiotics following a post birth procedure in theatre, I was told not to mix with others for a week or 2 due to infection risk.
Don't feel bullied into going, especially when you've also had a c section, as you both need recovery and adjustment time.
At one time woman were kept in hospital for 2 weeks following birth......

I wouldn't have gone, not just for baby's sake, but because I was in no fit state myself. If you are that's amazing, but don't put pressure on yourself!

If you don’t feel comfortable going then don’t feel bad about not going. The baby is still so small and you need to prioritise what you and the baby need. Everyone is different and will always be some mums who are out and about lots when babies are tiny and those of us who don’t want to or don’t feel up to doing that and both are perfectly fine.

I don't think you are overthrowing it and I wouldn't go either. Your baby is going to be the entertainment at this gathering and it will be very stressful for you.
Start as you mean to go on and don't be a people pleaser either.

For heaven’s sake just go!

No issues whatsoever. Go and enjoy yourself, take pictures of the baby with the birthday boy. Enjoy the joy your little one will bring.

At two weeks u took my son to a family party with about 50 people it was a great way for my baby to see everyone without me having to host… not sure the issue? If you’re feeling ok and physically up to it I don’t see why you wouldn’t go?

Unless you've got some scientific evidence for this, do not share false information to an already anxious mother.

Unsettled yes, maybe, if they're constantly being passed around.

Hurting their bones?! Have you seen how they're removed during a c-section? It would take some rough handling to 'hurt' a newborns bones.

Babies have antibodies passed on from their mother's during pregnancy. And also breast milk if BF.

If small babies have such poor immune systems why don't they all get seriously ill with snotty toddler siblings all over them

You've had a c section as well? I would not be going. Why do they want to see you breastfeeding a tiny baby, because that's all he will be doing. The lazy fuckers can come and visit you in due time. Also your pelvic floor needs a rest, you aren't supposed to be even walking around much.

If your partner ever has bollock surgery I'd be planning a massive family do two weeks later so he can parade himself around.

Please don’t leave him in the car seat, it’s a very unnatural position and baby should be in it for more than 30 mins. Use the sling if you can. If it was mid winter I’d probably say don’t go but now there’s less bugs I think I would go for a short time and have baby in sling (I’ve had a section too)

I would not go. I was pressured by my babies dad to have visitors I was not comfortable with/go out etc -i wish id have said no.

Once baby is 4+ weeks old ad you have a routine, then mabey yes!

It’s your baby, it’s your post partum journey. Do what you feel comfortable with.
if you’re confident enough to go, then go.
if you feel that maybe leaving the house whilst probably still wearing an adult nappy to socialise with 20 people is too much, then stay at home.
congratulations on the baby x

Yes, popping in for an hour should be OK.

If your baby was just a few days old I could understand your reticence but at 2 weeks? It's fine.

I also had a c-section. As long as you aren't standing for too long or in a car, you'll probably be fine. The baby will be absolutely okay.

I took my newborn to an event at that age. i put him in a baby carrier to prevent passing him around to people asking to cuddle him. Thankfully he mostly slept so it was easy to keep him to myself. And he’s my second child.

Go but wear him in a sling

OP how much of this is about germs and how much about what you've posted here?

There's obviously a back story to this about yours and DH's relationships with his family. Are you feeling that normally they don't bother with you and taking the baby would be rewarding them for poor behaviour? I would understand that feeling if there's history.

What's DH's feelings about his family?