For not taking 2-week old to his granddads birthday?

Two weeks is so young. Baby has the rest of their life for these kind of events. I wouldn’t go. There is a virus going around atm which is horrible round of diarrhoea. It’s knocking grown adults out. I know 3 people that have had it (and no overlap seeing me so I’m not the spreader 😂). Each of them has no idea how they caught it.
Your baby needs you to protect them whilst they’re so small. I personally think keep the visitor numbers small for now. And certainly wouldn’t be playing pass the baby.

You should go. Every birthday for grandad is special and your baby will be fine. Just don’t pass them around.

I took DS to a wedding at 4wo so I’d go. But it’s totally up to you, don’t feel guilty or pressured.

What pressure? it was my choice to be out and about living life not being stuck in doors like a hermit

I personally would go, make sure grandad gets to hold him and someone takes pictures, then discreetly head home shortly after

Do as you feel comfortable doing. If you are not comfortable, just don't go. No one should pressure you to do otherwise.

I had the freedom to stay at home and be waited on hand and foot if I wanted. I didn't want. I wanted to be out and about. There was no pressure on me to do either and I chose the not sitting around option.

For the people talking about rest and recovery and her needing to stay at home to recovery - the OP has said she's recovering well, she's been going out and about with the baby, and her reluctance is about the baby, not whether she's up to it.

@Chocolate85oh how lovely that this ‘freedom’ is actually putting pressure on a new mother whereas you can have the freedom of being a new mother and not worrying about this pressure.

This is a really narrow minded comment.
I'm glad people have the freedom to choose what works for them. It’s naive to think that one approach is best for all; for some of us we are shown support and are happy to recover with our families and/or friends around us. Each to their own.

Exactly this op!

I wouldn’t take him out either. I’m so glad I’m from a culture that actually supports a mother to be recovering and doing anything and everything to do that. Absolutely ridiculous to be expected to take a tiny baby out among so many people, not to mention the mother who might be feeling all sorts and overwhelmed.

Wow i feel like iv just been transported back to 2020

I wholeheartedly agree with Clickytee and RitaN.

Go with your gut. I didn’t and do regret the pressure that was put on me that I caved. Nobody knows what it’s like but you, even your husband. Your hormones will still be wild too. Set your boundaries early doors. I wouldn’t want to go either, more so because who feels like getting dressed up and socialising at 2 weeks especially after a c section? Might be ok for some but for you it’s not and you’re perfectly entitled not to go.

Not a chance I would go to a party 2 weeks postpartum. This is a special time for you and your baby. Don’t listen to anyone that tells you to put everyone else’s needs and feelings above your own. Do what YOU want and prioritise your own comfort.

I had a Christmas baby so he had a constant stream of visitors in his early weeks as family and friends had time to meet him, and he'd gone to a low key new years party by 2 weeks.

I loved it. I'd had a painful, incapacitating pregnancy which was dull and londly followed with a difficult, high recovery birth so just sitting around and all that social stimulation was great.

Second time round, DC1 was at nursery.
Admittedly he did end up with chicken pox when DC2 was 7 weeks, which he went down with at 9 weeks but his immunity from birth and breast milk was good so he was just grouchy for a day and mildly spotty.

Traditionally it's not normal to isolate to a tiny nuclear family for weeks after birth. There's time for rest, but there traditionally has always been some support and therefore external social mixing.

At 2 weeks, we were still establishing breastfeeding, my nipples were so sore I couldn't wear anything but a loose tshirt and was leaking everywhere. However, I'm super close with my family and I really wanted to show off my baby, so if they lived round the corner, I would have popped in for half an hour (no longer than that).

You're the one who's been pregnant for a loooong time, has given birth, and is caring for this little bean. You get to say whether you are up for it or not. Everyone else can fuck off

I wouldn’t go, you’re still recovering

I would go. I don't think babies need to be kept away from people. They have immunity from their mothers that lasts a few week anyway.
But if you don't feel confident about it its your decision.

I have a two week old (second child) and also had a c-section. I would be sharing your reservations OP. Please don’t be influenced by others commenting that you are being over protective or guessing it’s your first child. A mother’s instinct IS to be protective. The most important thing is listening to your gut and not feeling pressured by anyone - even family- to go to this party if you feel uncomfortable with it. The fact is, people who say their children were fine in crowds of people at only a few weeks old are only able to say that because nothing untoward happened to their child. Their response would be very different if they had become ill as a result.

Another thing to consider, is that you can only dictate so far how much physical contact people at the party will have with your baby. For instance, if in a car seat they can still place their fingers in your baby’s hands while cooing over them (we all know babies automatically grasp fingers in their hands and hold on tight). Or they might stroke your baby’s face etc. I feel like this will only serve to make you feel more anxious. Please just listen to your own instincts. You have every right to set your own boundaries for your child’s health and you do not have to please people.

I think you should only go if you want to go! With my first baby, I wouldn't have felt comfortable two weeks in. With my second, I would have. I think you should be supported whatever you decide.

I didn’t meet with anyone but immediate family for the first 2 months of my LOs life. I personally don’t think it’s over protective as they’re so new and prone to sickness.

Some people aren’t, but they aren’t the baby in questions Mother.

Hurt their bones.... Bloody hell.
What nonsense.

Did you know they're only supposed to be in their carseat for 20 mins at this age and they're only ever supposed to sleep in the carseat when it installed in the car. (It's to do with the angle of the carseat and the babies airways)

Its so frustrating this isn't highlighted in the hospital before you leave and they just assume everyone knows!

:)