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Asda driver STILL moaning at me about a visit in January

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TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 14:44

I'm not sure if I've done the right thing or not so would you give me opinions on this please:

So for background I work from home and often have to use the phone for work, especially first thing when the business opens at 9 am for the first half hour or so it's generally busy that way.

I've been using Asda deliveries weekly for 6 or 7 years or so now, and always have the same 10-11 am slot unless work need me to go out on an appointment, then I move it to the next day.

All the drivers have been great and super polite and if on occasion they've come early it's been no problem, they apologise and I just don't mind as I'm usually right there anyway and whenever it's happened, which isn't too often, by chance I haven't been on the phone or out at an early work appointment

So back in early January one driver came half an hour early, at 9.30 am ish but this time although I'd booked a day off for a funeral I was in the shower getting ready for a funeral thinking it was ages until the shopping and instead, of just knocking on and then waiting he banged and banged and I rushed my arse off to get out and dress myself, meanwhile he was banging loudly and ringing my phone over and over, I scrambled to the door and said 'Sorry i was getting ready for a funeral today and I booked the 10 - 11 am slot' and instead of apologising for being so early he said "I thought it wasn't like you not to have your act together!' I squinted at him and said 'Well there's always a chance I wouldn't be free to take a delivery at this time anyway because I'm often on work calls but it's always worth knocking of you're early it's just that I can't guarantee to answer until about 9.45 am ish when the morning rush dies down or I could be still out for a work appointment until then'

So still no apology or 'Ok I understand' he was actually a bit annoyed he said 'Yes but we can come 19 minutes early that's in the rules' I said 'Really I'll have another look on the website, sorry I didn't know that, but it's actually tricky for me to stay off the phone for that long in the early part of the morning' (I did look and it doesn't say that at all as far as I can see, so he might have made it up, and also he was half an hour early and banging the door down which I doubt is allowed). Anyway then he suddenly just started chatting nicely, he mentioned my going to the funeral and he was saying he isn't allowed time off for a funeral unless it's immediate family and his stepdad didn't count so he couldn't go' so I just felt really sorry for him then and just forgot about it, but I was slightly worried if I was ever stuck on the phone with client, if they can come that early and just knocking and banging like that and then moan at me! Anyway I soon just forgot about it altogether and assumed he was probably sorry when he'd thought about it.

But he came again this week with a woman (they were working together), I didn't recognise him because I'd forgotten all about it and it was months ago, but he immediately reminded me in the same sort on moany tone (in front of her) that last time he'd come 15 minutes early (he didn't, he'd actually come half an hour early) and 'You were in the shower, not ready!" I said 'Oh yes I remember, it was the day of the funeral and you came very early' he said 'I was running VERY early you see, and I would have been just waiting and waiting round the corner' I said 'Oh yes I understand, and it's fine usually and definitely worth knocking on with me, because I usually wfh but sometimes if you're very early, I won't be able to get off a work call at that time or I might be out on an appointment but I'll ALWAYS be back well before the slot booked, (he'd clearly forgotten that I'd explained this before) then he started just chatting again, changing the subject and being alright with me again.

So because he'd remembered it all this time and brought it up again to moan at me FOUR MONTHS later (at what I felt was a non-issue), I feel a bit more bothered by it this time, so the point is I've written a note on the delivery notes just explaining my situation (basically a short version of what I said to him both times, that if they are running very early, it's definitely worth knocking on and is normally fine and I'm usually ok to receive it, but I might still be on a work call at that time, and not able to get off the phone or even still out at a work appointment, so please don't keep knocking and ringing the phone if you arrive very early, but that I'll always be ready by about 9.45 am once the busy period at work is usually over.

It's obviously meant as a message just for him really if he does come again, because he'd forgotten that I'd explained all that to him last time and he was still openly annoyed with me about funeral day which bothers me a bit, i just don't want him banging the door and whinging at me again, but since it's never been necessary to spell any of that out for all those years before with any of the other drivers, I wondered what they would make of that message because it's now on there for all of them? What do you think? Is it patronising to them explain my position? Does it come over like I'm stating the obvious (because I'm assuming most of their other customers are in the same position as myself ie wfh and plan their spot around working)? If you are a delivery driver would you roll your eyes at that note and think OMG this is literally my job, bloody hell, I KNOW!, or just think 'Ok that's fine, thanks for the heads up, I won't keep banging on the door if I'm really early'?

Sorry that was a bit long, not busy today, and fully available for a delivery right now if I had one :-)

Oh one other thing, ASDA normally text with a rough ETA on the morning of the delivery but they don't on his days for some reason.

I won't put a poll because it's just the question, shall I take the delivery note off or not?

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TheJoySpreader · 19/04/2025 10:38

Yourcatisnotsorry · 18/04/2025 20:59

If you’re being paid to work 10-11 yabu to get regular shopping deliveries then anyway.

I'm not paid like that at all. I can manage my own time here but even if that wasn't the case, I don't go and make coffees or anything like that because I don't much like hot drinks so I have a water bottle by me. If we're busy I work through lunch time and eat around 3 pm. Sometimes I am out on client appointments in the evenings or anytime really.

I am most reliably quiet and able to take a break during late morning. I want the 10-11 spot because averagely between around 9.45 ish and 11.30 ish is the only time of day that's reliably convenient for me with the way that work is.

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buckeejit · 19/04/2025 09:07

Leave the note & if he mentions it again, say ‘you were half an hour early, you were in the wrong & you were aggressively knocking. I don’t want to hear about it again. If you’re early & I don’t answer after knocking then please wait.

Lovehascomeandgone · 19/04/2025 07:40

Appreciate that’s annoying, just book a 11-12 slot instead, job done.

LillyPJ · 19/04/2025 03:16

EBoo80 · 17/04/2025 14:47

You are massively overthinking this whole situation.

Overthinking and overwriting. We don't need a word by word report of every word in every conversation!

Galwaygirlxxx · 19/04/2025 03:11

Yeah first time he was a dck but second was just having a laugh

Yellowtrouser · 19/04/2025 01:04

Worst that has happened to me was the Sainsbury's delivery being 20 mins late on a Fridau night and therefore turning up in the middle of the Traitors final!😟

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 19/04/2025 00:37

Yourcatisnotsorry · 18/04/2025 20:59

If you’re being paid to work 10-11 yabu to get regular shopping deliveries then anyway.

No, she's not. People are entitled to breaks, you know. If you are working on screens, it's recommended you take regular breaks. Being able to accept a delivery is one of the benefits of wfh.

Though in fairness I tend to get my deliveries in the evening, because I don't know whether I might be in a call or a meeting and unable to answer the door.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 18/04/2025 20:59

If you’re being paid to work 10-11 yabu to get regular shopping deliveries then anyway.

AppropriateAdult · 18/04/2025 19:55

You’re being far too apologetic and conciliatory, OP.

He’s being a twat.

After a couple of early deliveries here (Tesco) I just put a delivery note stating “Please do not deliver before the requested time slot”, and it never happened again.

SammyTales · 18/04/2025 19:10

Sounds a little like he might be a bit neuro divergent and wrongly sees it as a way to chat and connect... I think just smile and say how that was a long time ago if he mentions it again!

Hmm1234 · 18/04/2025 18:36

Report report report. Complain directly to Asda if they uphold your complaint I’m sure they’ll offer you some vouchers

TeaAndTattoos · 18/04/2025 03:43

I think I probably would‘ve just turned round and said to him that was 4 months ago why are you still whinging about it now.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 17/04/2025 23:44

LSmiff · 17/04/2025 15:18

You have your job to do & he has his. Just book an evening delivery, or get your own shopping.

Alternatively, of course he could do his job which is to deliver in the allocated slot

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/04/2025 23:43

Screamingabdabz · 17/04/2025 14:57

If you book 10-11 that’s when I’d expect it to be delivered and I wouldn't take any of their ‘we can be early’ bullshit. If I was amenable to an early call, fine, but his creating a hullabaloo on the morning of a funeral would’ve resulted in robust words and possibly a complaint. You’re the customer and you’re entitled to a bit of customer service. You sound far too accommodating.

I agree with this!

He was totally out of order to be banging down the door half an hour before the delivery was due, never mind moaning to you about it several months later.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 17/04/2025 23:33

SallyWD · 17/04/2025 17:58

I've already posted to say I think the driver was very annoying, however, you really could save yourself stress if you had shopping delivered when you're not working. It's so much easier. I tried to get it delivered when working from home a couple of times but it's sods law that my boss would spontaneously call when the shopping arrived!
Also I felt guilty about doing it during working time. It does take quite a lot of time. Can't you do it at the weekend or in the evening?

It really only takes a few minutes to pack it into bags and leave it in the kitchen. You can pop in and out to unpack, freezer food first. BUT if it happens to arrive at the wrong time, then that's a problem! My DH also works from home and my son in uni is often here during the day as well, so it's not just me.

My job is very unpredictable in terms of when I might be on calls or in meetings, and I don't feel like I could excuse myself to go and get my shopping!! I just book evening slots. I order from Tesco, Sainsburys and Asda and the vast majority of drivers are chatty, polite and courteous.

TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 21:20

Plmnki · 17/04/2025 20:57

Just use Ocado. They don’t employ total wankers.

Thanks, that’s good to know, I might switch if it happens again

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TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 21:19

SapphireSeptember · 17/04/2025 20:50

As an aside, step parents are generally considered immediate family, so if Asda wouldn't let him have time off for his step dad's funeral that's really shitty of them. I hate companies being petty about that sort of thing. Everything else he was being unreasonable about.

I couldn’t agree with you more, I can’t see why a person can’t go to anyone they love’s funeral

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Plmnki · 17/04/2025 20:57

Just use Ocado. They don’t employ total wankers.

SapphireSeptember · 17/04/2025 20:50

As an aside, step parents are generally considered immediate family, so if Asda wouldn't let him have time off for his step dad's funeral that's really shitty of them. I hate companies being petty about that sort of thing. Everything else he was being unreasonable about.

TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 19:46

NotYoCheese · 17/04/2025 19:43

"He was still half an hour early though so still was wrong to bang on the door and complain"

@TheJoySpreader
He was, which kinda blows that theory out of the water! I'd have been tempted not to have got out of the water for him - if you don't answer I presume they have to come back in your proper time slot?
Though of course, sounds like you'd now still be hearing about the time he had to wait to deliver at the right time... 😂

Oh my god, can you imagine how long it’d take for him to shake that off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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NotYoCheese · 17/04/2025 19:43

"He was still half an hour early though so still was wrong to bang on the door and complain"

@TheJoySpreader
He was, which kinda blows that theory out of the water! I'd have been tempted not to have got out of the water for him - if you don't answer I presume they have to come back in your proper time slot?
Though of course, sounds like you'd now still be hearing about the time he had to wait to deliver at the right time... 😂

TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 18:59

Doors247 · 17/04/2025 18:54

I had this, I was in the garden with the jet wash and they came 20 mins early.
But at the time they came to the door I came In to use the toliet so said you were lucky I heard and laughed and he was like 'we are allowed to be 15 mins early'

And last week I was told to get my old man to help me take the shopping in as it was to heavy for me!
I told him I was quite capable to do it and my old man was at work! What a cheek.

It’s crazy how they tell you ‘I’m allowed to be early’ but they don’t actually tell anyone that on the website so they just expect people to not be out just by psychic abilities 😵‍💫

I think really it’s just like a PP mentioned, some of them just assume it means that, but it’s really a guideline for how early they are allowed to ask us if we can receive it, but it’s not actually a part of the time window like they seem to think

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Doors247 · 17/04/2025 18:54

I had this, I was in the garden with the jet wash and they came 20 mins early.
But at the time they came to the door I came In to use the toliet so said you were lucky I heard and laughed and he was like 'we are allowed to be 15 mins early'

And last week I was told to get my old man to help me take the shopping in as it was to heavy for me!
I told him I was quite capable to do it and my old man was at work! What a cheek.

TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 18:22

TryingToRecover · 17/04/2025 18:15

Ah ok! I just thought it seemed familiar.

I bet this happens a lot, judging from people’s experiences on this thread, seems a few have had this type of thing

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TheJoySpreader · 17/04/2025 18:20

BrilliantineStickInsect · 17/04/2025 16:50

I get Asda deliveries and they’re always early too,
I don’t mind it as I work from home and it’s just lucky I haven’t been in a meeting when it’s happened. Tbf I try to book a lunchtime slot to counteract the possibility of that happening.
My last delivery though, I had to cancel as I had to go to a last-minute medical appointment - phoned customer services who assured me they’d contacted the store and cancelled it - lo and behold, the driver turned up early and was completely non-plussed when I said I’d cancelled it. Thankfully I had 10 minutes before I had to leave for my appointment so I could take the delivery in but it was evident that customer services either didn’t contact the store, or the store ignored it.

This is it, I just want it to come at our quietest time of day which is in that slot, I’m often busy before that time and after it but it’s always the best time of day for a break, clients tend to phone on their lunchtime so that’s busy for us

It’s much easier than booking it after office hours and also I sometimes have client appointments after hours, basically we all book the most convenient time for ourselves and most people do have to work, so I think they should be used to that

That’s bad as well that they didn’t cancel your slot!

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