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To think this isn't what these groups are for.

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Themumoneiuse · 17/04/2025 14:30

I'd like to preface this by stating that yes, I am luteal, so likely highly irritable.

Son's year WhatsApp group (for parents). My. GOD.
The drivel!!!
For context, my son is in school nursery, so has only been in this class 6 months. I do not know these parents from Adam, don't know their names, don't know their children. I work full time so very rarely get a chance to do the school run (fortunately/unfortunately), so have never spoken to these people.
These parents (60 members the group has, as it's the whole year one and not class!) think it's appropriate to share mundane stories about their kids and what they shoved up their nose, broke a glass, reset their iPhone (AGAIN?!). They even have taken to posting about political things and petitions for the local area - albeit things NOT linked to school.
I cannot take it. Yes, I know I could leave. But honestly I've found my daughter's one (year 3) very helpful. No one posts irrelevant shite in that, it is information pertinent to school, the class, and the children, and has been a nice way to have links to other parents, without all the unnecessary nonsense.
The self restraint it is taking to not to message 'NO ONE GIVES A SHIT', or on a good day 'can we keep this relevant to school please'. I know I'll look the twat. I have the chat muted but obviously don't want to miss messages that are actually important so have to read through this crock of shite daily.
It's like Motherland, but sadly it is reality.
Anyway, just had to rant!

OP posts:
hopeishere · 17/04/2025 16:10

Themumoneiuse · 17/04/2025 16:07

It's a common phrase where I am, a more polite way of saying 'I'm a raging hormonal cunt bag'.

Where are you?

Just post “can we keep this school stuff only please” am sure you’ll get some thumbs ups.

Themumoneiuse · 17/04/2025 16:07

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/04/2025 15:59

Oh ok, thanks. What a weird way of saying it

It's a common phrase where I am, a more polite way of saying 'I'm a raging hormonal cunt bag'.

OP posts:
ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/04/2025 15:59

faerietales · 17/04/2025 15:41

PMS.

Oh ok, thanks. What a weird way of saying it

MyKingdomForACat · 17/04/2025 15:44

I found they talk the same shite in person. Then again, we didn’t have WhatsApp back in the day. Avoid, avoid

faerietales · 17/04/2025 15:41

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/04/2025 15:41

Just mute it. What does ‘I am luteal’ mean?

PMS.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 17/04/2025 15:41

Just mute it. What does ‘I am luteal’ mean?

CoffeeCantata · 17/04/2025 15:40

I feel your pain.

I have dumped WhatsApp except for my family group because all 3 of my hobby groups have one as well as various friendship groups. The volume of silly rubbish (memes, jokes, daft updates no-one cares about etc) was doing my poor head in so I just left them all.

My life is so much calmer! I get nagged all the time to re-join but I just won't. I don't care what I miss out on - I don't want all that stuff clogging up my life and trying to get my attention.

Sundaydrizzle · 17/04/2025 14:57

I could have written this post. Some days there are 80/90 messages. It's bonkers, I assume the mothers have no other friends and very little going on in their lives. I obviously keep the group on mute, but even seeing the messages there annoys me.
Elder child's year group is just the normal "Don't forget it own clothes on Firday" etc

wizzywig · 17/04/2025 14:38

Mute and archive my sweet

andtheworldrollson · 17/04/2025 14:37

That would drive me nuts