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BIL's new GF laughed at me and called me weird - AIBU

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comeandhaveteawithme · 17/04/2025 12:29

DH's brother got a new girlfriend around Christmas time. At the end of January, he brought her round to an evening gathering at our house.

At first it seemed to be going OK. The girl was really quiet and barely said a word at first which I put down to shyness.

During the evening, our DS (11) came downstairs from his room and said he was a bit scared because he'd heard a freaky noise outside. I said "oh, was it a screeching sound?" He said it was I said "it will be the foxes mating cry, don't worry about it, they always mate at the end of January" DS went back to bed, reassured.

The GF let out a high pitch screech of laughter and said "You KNOW exactly when foxes have sex! That's SO WIERD" with this continued high pitched laugh. Baring in mind she'd barely said a word all night and the first thing she says is that I'm weird, in my own house, I thought it was pretty rude of her.

But I just tried to be polite and said "oh..yeah..Well I'm interested in wildlife and I like foxes so I remember they mate in January and have their cubs in March" and then she sort of wrinkled her nose and gave a side eye so I felt awkward and carried blethering on and said "I quite like hearing them because it reminds me spring is coming". And she laughed again and said "you like hearing foxes have sex, so weird" then the subject changed.

Now BIL has suggested we all go out together for an evening at a pub.

AIBU to not really fancy it? First impressions of the GF really weren't great. She was rude and made me uncomfortable while a guest in my house and pretty much the only thing she said all night was to make fun of me. She also came across extremely immature.

DH thinks I'm too sensitive and should give her another chance.

OP posts:
StrangerOnline · 17/04/2025 12:37

Agree with your DH, you are being too sensitive – sounds like she was trying to fit in and didn’t intentionally make fun of you.
Forget it and move on

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 17/04/2025 12:37

She was rude, but I'd give her a second chance. Maybe she just hasn't met anyone with an interest in nature before, so to her it is weird.

Overtheatlantic · 17/04/2025 12:37

I wouldn’t bother, but I’m menopausal. Seriously though why do you have to make her awkwardness and rudeness okay?

GeorgianaM · 17/04/2025 12:36

Maybe she is t familiar with the goings on of wildlife. I am and sometimes mention the ways of wild animals to very urbanised people and they don't get it.

Perhaps give her another chance and see how she is.

nessiesnotreal · 17/04/2025 12:36

I have said some proper bonkers shit when I have felt socially awkward 😂😂 I think you are overthinking this and taken it too personally.

Draw a line under it and let it go.

SunshineAndFizz · 17/04/2025 12:35

Give her another chance.

Snorlaxo · 17/04/2025 12:35

I think she’s the weird one for having such an OTT reaction to the fact but I wouldn’t say it’s rude. It sounds like she’s socially awkward and her strange reaction is part of that awkwardness.

Tigerlilian · 17/04/2025 12:34

I would give her another go. I can be an idiot when nervous 🤣

Kitchi · 17/04/2025 12:34

ZippyPeer · 17/04/2025 12:33

Sounds like the girlfriend is socially awkward and what she said is more about her than you. I'd probably give her another chance, but if you don't want to, don't.

This.

Ask her lots of open-ended questions so she has to tell you about herself, and maybe you’ll find something in common.

ThisUsernameIsAvailabl · 17/04/2025 12:33

Jeez you’re very harsh. It was the first time you met her. She was probably nervous. Relax.

ZippyPeer · 17/04/2025 12:33

Sounds like the girlfriend is socially awkward and what she said is more about her than you. I'd probably give her another chance, but if you don't want to, don't.

TimeForTeaAndToast · 17/04/2025 12:30

I think you should let it go.