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To tell the neighbours the cat isn’t my problem

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 06:51

We have neighbours who own a cat. The cat is a bit of a pain in the backside and continually came in our garden. Obviously, we couldn’t stop it and it treated our garden as its own causing some damage to toys and crapping in the flower beds.

We have recently got a lab from a rescue who, as we quickly discovered, doesn’t like cats. As soon as we brought our dog home and let it in the garden it immediately chased this cat down. The dog didn’t catch the cat and is likely never going to but likes to terrify the cat. Thankfully, the cat seems to be trying its luck a little less and our garden isn’t suffering so much mess and damage. Most of the other houses have had dogs for a fair while so cat hasn’t gone into the other gardens, ours was the only one it went into because of the dogs.

The neighbours have now complained that they are worried that my dog is going to harm their cat and possibly kill it. Now, as I’ve said, the dog is likely never to catch the cat and my garden is very secure so will never escape. The neighbours have said they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured and they will complain to the council.

neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. The issue is, I often don’t see the cat before I let her out.

My dog is pretty chilled, never any bother in any other way other than when the cat comes in.

AIBU to tell the neighbours that it isn’t my problem if their cat is scared. It’s my garden and my dog’s home and if they have an issue then they’re the ones who should keep their animal in? I’ve suggested for them to put rubber spikes or similar on their fence to hopefully prevent the cat, who is a twat, coming in but they have said the expense to do that should be on me and they don’t like to do things like that!

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AnneElliott · 17/04/2025 11:53

I’m a cat person but your neighbour is batshit. The cat will learn not to go into the other garden (probably already has as cats are pretty savvy). And cat will learn to sit on the wall and preen and wind up the dog (like mine do).

my batshit old neighbours asked me if I could train my cat not to step along the wall as their dog used to go ballistic. I was a bit Hmm as I’m assuming they’ve never owned or tried to train an actual real life cat!

DangerousAlchemy · 17/04/2025 11:52

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:34

Gosh, I wouldn’t likely it say it but not should they expect me to pay. As I’ve said, the dog hasn’t caught the cat. She chases it barking but no growling. She’s hasn’t shown reactiveness to anything other than the cat being in the garden.

I agree with you OP and I voted that YANBU but not sure why you posted? Just for validation on your viewpoint? Some suggested you could keep your dog on a lead to check for cat. You said you weren't going to do that. Every sugestion you've said no. Yes it's your garden but as kitten season is approaching I would hope your dog wouldn't chase down and hurt a pregnant or nursing mum or young kittens . It's a balance between being considerate to other animals and doing whatever you like in your own garden.🤷‍♀️ I say this as someone who fosters cats/kittens for a small charity. Your neighbours cat will soon learn but don't start a war with your neighbours over this. Every stupid thing they ask of you be reasonable & calm.

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:51

Abi86 · 17/04/2025 11:42

Exactly how long have you practicing law? And what discipline are you practicing in?

I work in family law. I am merely saying given my own experiences of batshittery professionally, and knowing from here that neighbours can be the worst offenders, I would protect myself and my dog. How about you?

ukathleticscoach · 17/04/2025 11:49

We have 2 cats.

Our neighbours have a dog that runs out into its garden and our cats just get out of the way. I think they still go in the garden. Cats are usually faster than a dog over 20m.

If they are worried they should get a cat fence topper fitted on their side.

They are just being ridiculous

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:49

faerietales · 17/04/2025 11:41

Do you really think a dog chasing a cat in its' own garden is being badly behaved?

I think a dog that chases cats every time they access the garden are a PITA yes. Especially ones that are not doing it due to prey drive (as the OP says). They can be fairly easily trained to stop IME.

aster10 · 17/04/2025 11:45

God, some people just take a piss to see what they can get away with. Or have just one brain cell. Reminds me of a neighbour of mine - she was stuck in her car on our street once because of someone unloading something, I was pushing a pram on a narrow pavement and when I got next to her she started to scream at me and said that I am going to damage her car with a pram and she will send me the bill. (I was not, and I would not be able to get to my house in any other way due to the narrowness of the road). It took me a lot of effort to just say, in as few words as possible and in as calm tone as possible, “I am not damaging your car”. You could also just say - my dog will have full use of my garden. Or simply “No”.

Abi86 · 17/04/2025 11:42

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 10:09

I was trying to advise around the law. Your OP mentions your neighbours concern that your dog could kill the cat. Surely you see people with no control over their dogs daily, doesn't mean they are good dog owners or wouldn't be on the wrong side of the law if their dog caused harm. Lots of people believe 'I can do what I like on my own property' but it isn't true.

Exactly how long have you practicing law? And what discipline are you practicing in?

Bellyblueboy · 17/04/2025 11:42

The cat will just stop going into your garden. Cats aren’t stupid. You have every right to let your own dog enjoy your garden!

my neighbor lets his bloody dog run free - I get mad when it comes into my garden and chases my cat. But have no issues if the dog is in his own garden (my cat now completely avoids that garden!).

faerietales · 17/04/2025 11:41

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:35

Clearly my definition of 'well behaved dogs' and 'prey drive' are different to some others on here. I'm not surprised.

Do you really think a dog chasing a cat in its' own garden is being badly behaved?

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:40

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:35

Clearly my definition of 'well behaved dogs' and 'prey drive' are different to some others on here. I'm not surprised.

You sound very uptight. OP has stated her dog is very well behaved, does not, has never chased animals out in public. The dog reacts to a cat coming into her own private back garden. That’s not weird or aggressive, that’s normal dog behaviour. I genuinely don’t understand your reaction over this. You seem very anxious.

TinyFlamingo · 17/04/2025 11:39

Honestly the cat won't visit often, it'll learn quickly but talk about entitled cat owners being so dramatic. (I say as a cat owner) They are probably annoyed it's going in their garden now rather than yours!
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godmum56 · 17/04/2025 11:39

Lostcat · 17/04/2025 11:36

👍🏻

not in the OP's own properly secured garden. Lets say neighbours expensive watch ends up in OP's lawn and the mower goes over it. OP had no control over its being there and did not know it was there......I mean yes you could make a claim but I can't see it going anywhere....same if the property is a cat...OP had no control over its being there and was unaware that it was there.

Velmy · 17/04/2025 11:39

Sounds like a stupid cat and even stupider neighbors.

You can absolutely not be held legally responsible for your dog injuring a cat on your property.

If you're bothered enough, pay a solicitor to write to your neighbors explaining their legal position.

Lostcat · 17/04/2025 11:36

TheWombatleague · 17/04/2025 11:32

But a cat is seen as property, if op's dog damages that property then op is open to having a claim made against them for civil liability. That's the flip side of having the right to own a dog, in that you're responsible for its actions.

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faerietales · 17/04/2025 11:35

IAmNeverThePerson · 17/04/2025 11:32

if Ddog sees a cat she goes nuts at the kitchen door. I always ensure the cat has had a head start but i would let her out. I thought that was standard.

Jesus, I hope not.

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:35

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:29

😂😂😂 in her own secured garden, her well behaved dog is allowed to play. No risk assessment needed.

Clearly my definition of 'well behaved dogs' and 'prey drive' are different to some others on here. I'm not surprised.

IAmNeverThePerson · 17/04/2025 11:32

if Ddog sees a cat she goes nuts at the kitchen door. I always ensure the cat has had a head start but i would let her out. I thought that was standard.

TheWombatleague · 17/04/2025 11:32

godmum56 · 17/04/2025 11:10

But it can't, even hopefully, prevent anything happening. What would prevent damage to that cat by that dog in that garden is for the CAT OWNER to prevent the cat from entering that garden. Do you not get it that dogs and cats have prey instincts and the law accepts this. Cat owners are not required to prevent their cats killing birds and other animals and dog owners are not required to protect cats from their dog in their own properly secured garden. As I said its the other side of the cats' right to roam.

But a cat is seen as property, if op's dog damages that property then op is open to having a claim made against them for civil liability. That's the flip side of having the right to own a dog, in that you're responsible for its actions.

EvilNextDoor · 17/04/2025 11:30

Your neighbour sound bat shit - I never check my own garden to see if any body else’s cats are in it why would I? If they want their cat to roam its a choice they have to make…or cat proof their garden to keep it safe!

I have both dogs & cats…

My dogs have incredibly high prey drive and would probably chase and kill a cat if they could…I don’t trust them with my cats in house and next doors have finally learnt it not in their best interest to come into our garden.

And I don’t have little cats they are big…small dog size

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:29

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:27

Isn't it sensible to risk assess situations?

😂😂😂 in her own secured garden, her well behaved dog is allowed to play. No risk assessment needed.

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:27

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:26

Still ridiculous advice to OP. Her dog doesn’t chase animals as you state. And you’re wildly speculating here on what the neighbour might do, it’s silly.

Isn't it sensible to risk assess situations?

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:26

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:19

This wasn't general advice. The OP knows her dog chases cats. And the cat has lived happily beside other dogs according to the OP. The neighbour clearly hates the dog and could do many things to 'prove' her unsupervised dog is dangerous or uncontainable if she leaves it unsupervised eg opening a gate, throwing something at it before recording it, letting it out then kicking it.

I've had dogs before, any that cannot be trusted (an example would be a strong prey drive) are supervised.

Edited

Still ridiculous advice to OP. Her dog doesn’t chase animals as you state. And you’re wildly speculating here on what the neighbour might do, it’s silly.

Lostcat · 17/04/2025 11:26

godmum56 · 17/04/2025 11:05

In your own properly secured garden? I also believe it would be a stretch to go from "prey instinct" which is normal in dogs AND cats, to aggression. Civil actions (suing) are open to pretty much anyone about anything and as I said earlier, you might get vets fees or the price of the cat back but in the dog owner's properly secured garden? Not a hope in hell.

Yes that’s what I mean - presumably would be difficult to justify negligence in dog owners own garden. Should be possible elsewhere though . People shouldn’t be allowing aggressive dogs to roam. I’m not sure killing a cat is a “prey instinct”? I would consider that an unusually aggressive dog.

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:19

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:06

Absolutely ridiculous post. OP has categorically stated her dog does not chase other animals. It barks at the cat in the garden. It’s her garden, the dog does not need supervising the whole time it’s out there.

If you’re going to post ‘general’ comments, then don’t aim them at the OP when they don’t apply to her.

This wasn't general advice. The OP knows her dog chases cats. And the cat has lived happily beside other dogs according to the OP. The neighbour clearly hates the dog and could do many things to 'prove' her unsupervised dog is dangerous or uncontainable if she leaves it unsupervised eg opening a gate, throwing something at it before recording it, letting it out then kicking it.

I've had dogs before, any that cannot be trusted (an example would be a strong prey drive) are supervised.

Whattodo1610 · 17/04/2025 11:15

godmum56 · 17/04/2025 11:11

for what?

Read the op 🤦🏻‍♀️
Obviously neighbours are stupid. I was answering a comment made by someone who also has not read the op. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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