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To tell the neighbours the cat isn’t my problem

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 06:51

We have neighbours who own a cat. The cat is a bit of a pain in the backside and continually came in our garden. Obviously, we couldn’t stop it and it treated our garden as its own causing some damage to toys and crapping in the flower beds.

We have recently got a lab from a rescue who, as we quickly discovered, doesn’t like cats. As soon as we brought our dog home and let it in the garden it immediately chased this cat down. The dog didn’t catch the cat and is likely never going to but likes to terrify the cat. Thankfully, the cat seems to be trying its luck a little less and our garden isn’t suffering so much mess and damage. Most of the other houses have had dogs for a fair while so cat hasn’t gone into the other gardens, ours was the only one it went into because of the dogs.

The neighbours have now complained that they are worried that my dog is going to harm their cat and possibly kill it. Now, as I’ve said, the dog is likely never to catch the cat and my garden is very secure so will never escape. The neighbours have said they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured and they will complain to the council.

neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. The issue is, I often don’t see the cat before I let her out.

My dog is pretty chilled, never any bother in any other way other than when the cat comes in.

AIBU to tell the neighbours that it isn’t my problem if their cat is scared. It’s my garden and my dog’s home and if they have an issue then they’re the ones who should keep their animal in? I’ve suggested for them to put rubber spikes or similar on their fence to hopefully prevent the cat, who is a twat, coming in but they have said the expense to do that should be on me and they don’t like to do things like that!

OP posts:
thismummydrinksgin · 17/04/2025 13:30

Even if your dog was out of control, it’s in its OWN garden. That you pay for and maintain.

Bonbon249 · 17/04/2025 13:26

Another cat lover/owner here - I think your neighbours are being CF here. They can't expect you to prioritize their cat over your dog. They could build a catio so their cat gets fresh air safely.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 13:22

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:19

This wasn't general advice. The OP knows her dog chases cats. And the cat has lived happily beside other dogs according to the OP. The neighbour clearly hates the dog and could do many things to 'prove' her unsupervised dog is dangerous or uncontainable if she leaves it unsupervised eg opening a gate, throwing something at it before recording it, letting it out then kicking it.

I've had dogs before, any that cannot be trusted (an example would be a strong prey drive) are supervised.

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My dog has chased the cat in my garden, we actually only have one that comes in. The cat hasn’t ’happily’ lived alongside dogs, it just learned from a young age not to go in their gardens as the dogs were already there! The dog cannot get out of my garden, the single fence sized gate is locked at all times and we never use it and no one else can open it.

my dog doesn’t have a strong prey drive whatsoever! She chases the cat in her own bloody garden. She’s not out of control attacking every thing in sight. Judging by many comments here then there are a lot of dogs who do the same!

you seem intent on believing I have an out of control dog!

OP posts:
Balloonhearts · 17/04/2025 13:21

Legally speaking, the op is not responsible for someone else's animal being killed on her property by her dog. Cats are permitted to roam but it is at their own risk. If they are on your private property and your dog gets them, you are not liable.

Just the same as if you hit it with your car, you are not required to stop and are not liable for injuries. It's an accepted risk of allowing them to roam.

I'd tell the neighbours you won't be paying for anything and if they are concerned about its safety then they need to keep it on their own property. It's their animal and their responsibility.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/04/2025 13:20

We have dogs and a cat, and neighbours with dogs, and I wouldn't dream of suggesting my neighbours put their dog on a lead in their own, secure back garden. If my cat is dumb enough to venture into a dog’s territory, and gets chased, it’s his own daft fault.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 13:16

DangerousAlchemy · 17/04/2025 11:52

I agree with you OP and I voted that YANBU but not sure why you posted? Just for validation on your viewpoint? Some suggested you could keep your dog on a lead to check for cat. You said you weren't going to do that. Every sugestion you've said no. Yes it's your garden but as kitten season is approaching I would hope your dog wouldn't chase down and hurt a pregnant or nursing mum or young kittens . It's a balance between being considerate to other animals and doing whatever you like in your own garden.🤷‍♀️ I say this as someone who fosters cats/kittens for a small charity. Your neighbours cat will soon learn but don't start a war with your neighbours over this. Every stupid thing they ask of you be reasonable & calm.

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I haven’t said no to every suggestion. What I have said no to is putting a lead on my dog in my own back garden and going out to inspect every cat hiding place (and there are many) before I let her out. I don’t understand why that’s such a shock to you? I have also suggested they take steps to prevent the cat coming in but they’re refusing yet they’re the ones with a problem.

my dog chases the cat in the garden, much like a lot of the dogs people have commented about on this thread!

OP posts:
Greekcatmug · 17/04/2025 13:09

Just let your dog out. Your neighbour is being ridiculous.
I have 2 dogs and a cat. My dogs love my cat but they won’t tolerate another cat coming into their garden as it’s their garden and they’ve got their own cat.

Delphiniumandlupins · 17/04/2025 13:06

I have had cats and dogs, living together in the same house. In the house the cat is always in charge, grooming the dogs etc. In the garden the dogs sometimes chase and the cats run. Barking adds to the fun. Both cats and dogs seem to understand the rules. If a cat was ever cornered, with no escape, I am confident the dog would retreat, possibly scratched. Also, although it's not impossible, labradors are not really designed to "kill". Unless it's a particularly stupid cat (like a ragdoll) it will stay out of your garden if it thinks your dog is a threat.

Lostcat · 17/04/2025 13:04

AlertCat · 17/04/2025 12:35

To my knowledge, cats are classed as wild animals when they’re out and about, whereas a dog is its owner’s responsibility- that’s why it’s an offence to stop if you run over a dog but not a cat, and why you can’t force your neighbours to do anything about cats crapping in your garden. So the neighbours can say what they like but if their pet isn’t under their control they won’t have a leg to stand on. It goes both ways- they have the benefit of not being held accountable for their cat’s behaviour but the disadvantage that it’s not legally protected if it’s allowed to roam.

This is a really helpful summary/ analysis

Dumbdog · 17/04/2025 13:01

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 09:59

Whilst that is true, if OPs dog had previously killed a cat and the owner had evidence. The OPs dog then escaped and barked or growled at a person (or the neighbour claimed it did) this could be used as evidence of previous incidents with the dog.

they can’t even get to grips with the bully ban, I don’t think anyone’s lab is in danger from a hypothetical bark or growl.

ThatLemonBear · 17/04/2025 13:00

If your neighbours are worried, they can cat proof their own garden to prevent Tiddles roaming the neighbourhood and getting into trouble. I’ve done this for my cats and it’s the purr-fect solution in my view, they get to explore the garden but I know they are safe. It isn’t cheap though

AlertCat · 17/04/2025 12:35

sesquipedalian · 17/04/2025 12:07

“neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. ”

Whaaaat? Your garden, you will use it as you see fit. If THEIR cat encroaches on YOUR garden, their problem. As for “they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured” - CF to the max! It’s hardly negligence if your dog is prowling the confines of its own domain, and their cat happens to be there.

To my knowledge, cats are classed as wild animals when they’re out and about, whereas a dog is its owner’s responsibility- that’s why it’s an offence to stop if you run over a dog but not a cat, and why you can’t force your neighbours to do anything about cats crapping in your garden. So the neighbours can say what they like but if their pet isn’t under their control they won’t have a leg to stand on. It goes both ways- they have the benefit of not being held accountable for their cat’s behaviour but the disadvantage that it’s not legally protected if it’s allowed to roam.

Lickityspit · 17/04/2025 12:34

I’m usually team cat but in this instance you are not being unreasonable at all. Cats are fairly good at getting out of trouble and will get the message soon enough it’s not welcome in your garden

godmum56 · 17/04/2025 12:31

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:51

I work in family law. I am merely saying given my own experiences of batshittery professionally, and knowing from here that neighbours can be the worst offenders, I would protect myself and my dog. How about you?

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I will protect my dog by not letting batshit neighbours have an inch. I have had personal experience of batshittery including council complaints from a neighbour (not next door, my next doors are lovely) regarding my dogs and when I stupidly tried to deal with it by limiting my dog's freedom to access MY OWN secured garden, they just got worse as bullies will. It was only when I lost it, involved the police and had a serious but helpful conversation, with the head of the Environmental Nuisance department at the council, that the harassment stopped. If it happens again I will not attempt to molify. As a side note, since then the council have changed the way they handle noise nuisance complaints and don't automatically assume that the complainant is right as they did TWICE in my case. I'd like to think that was partly due to me because when I was dealing with my own issues, every single piece of advice I could find assumed that the complaint was valid and the pet owner was in the wrong. When I was asked by the Council to review the interaction, I pointed this out, and shortly afterwards, they changed their process.

faerietales · 17/04/2025 12:28

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 12:10

I can understand if you live away from others and have confidently trained your dog to alert you, without being at risk of harming anyone that your dog can be really useful. But a dog in a built up area that does this due to a lack of training, and as OP says does this continually whilst presumably making a racket, I wouldn't class as a well behaved dog.

How can a dog harm someone in a locked, secure garden?

We live in a tiny little terrace. The vast majority of our neighbours have either dogs or cats (most have both). Nobody has any issue with dogs in the garden who bark occasionally at a car, or someone walking past the gates, or yes, a cat who's decided to wander through.

Dogs aren't robots - they are animals and they should, within reason, be allowed to behave as such. I'm off work this week and we have our backdoor open so our dog has free range of the locked, secure garden. Our cats are free to roam and wander round the neighbourhood too. We've never had any issues in the decade we've lived here.

It's not like the dog is running around in public causing a nuisance, it's locked in a secure garden and "warning" the intruder cat off. That's normal.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/04/2025 12:25

DissDissOrDiss · 17/04/2025 06:54

Cats gonna cat and dogs gonna dog.

Their cat will soon learn to keep its distance and if it doesn’t, it’s as daft as its owners.

First reply nails it 100%!

TheDefiant · 17/04/2025 12:23

I have cats and your garden for your dog is not the neighbours to make rules about.

I do hate people who walk their dogs without a lead and who let their dogs chase my cats into our garden…the dogs follow into OUR garden to chase the cats. We had one dog follow the cat right to the cat flap while the owner was losing their tiny mind trying to recall. If dog doesn’t recall well…keep it on the lead!

Your garden, your dog, your rules. Though probably best to do whatever you can to make sure no cats are harmed as that would be traumatic for you all. Don’t take special measures though.

Abi86 · 17/04/2025 12:23

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:51

I work in family law. I am merely saying given my own experiences of batshittery professionally, and knowing from here that neighbours can be the worst offenders, I would protect myself and my dog. How about you?

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So, you’re a family lawyer?

me? I wouldn’t give a shit about the neighbours threats. Cats should be contained in my opinion.

babyproblems · 17/04/2025 12:22

The cat will stop coming into your garden. I would be reasonable and block any holes to make the cats entry to the garden harder, but it will stop coming by its own accord once it knows the dog is there!

We have a rescue dog, exact same situation, the cats realise very quickly it’s not a good idea to cross the garden! Your neighbors are being a bit precious. I’d preserve the peace by being polite and reasonable!

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 12:10

faerietales · 17/04/2025 11:55

Why is a dog chasing an intruding cat in its' own being a PITA, though? I genuinely don't understand why it's such a problem.

My dog lives with three cats and doesn't chase them. They share food, sleep together and cuddle together quite happily. But when we get intruder cats in the garden, he absolutely will chase them. Though, if they stand their ground or come back again, he will soon get used to them and treat them like "his own".

Dogs are predators. Cats are their prey. It's natural behaviour. Yes, it may technically be trainable but I personally haven't bothered to train it out of mine and don't see the need to. I want him to alert me to anything new or strange in my garden, for starters.

I can understand if you live away from others and have confidently trained your dog to alert you, without being at risk of harming anyone that your dog can be really useful. But a dog in a built up area that does this due to a lack of training, and as OP says does this continually whilst presumably making a racket, I wouldn't class as a well behaved dog.

sesquipedalian · 17/04/2025 12:07

“neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. ”

Whaaaat? Your garden, you will use it as you see fit. If THEIR cat encroaches on YOUR garden, their problem. As for “they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured” - CF to the max! It’s hardly negligence if your dog is prowling the confines of its own domain, and their cat happens to be there.

CactusSammy · 17/04/2025 12:06

I like cats. I have one.

But if it comes in your garden, it takes its chances. Your neighbours are being ridiculous.

Lostcat · 17/04/2025 12:05

godmum56 · 17/04/2025 11:39

not in the OP's own properly secured garden. Lets say neighbours expensive watch ends up in OP's lawn and the mower goes over it. OP had no control over its being there and did not know it was there......I mean yes you could make a claim but I can't see it going anywhere....same if the property is a cat...OP had no control over its being there and was unaware that it was there.

Yes I agree it would be hard to prove if it happened in your own garden

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 17/04/2025 12:05

Haven’t read the full thread but your neighbours are entitled arseholes. DH is severely allergic to cats and unfortunately there are loads around here. When cocktail sticks in flowerbeds
didn’t work we got a dog. If she frightens a cat in her own garden, that is absolutely reasonable. The neighbours have chosen to have a pet that they allow out to roam. It can be hit by cars, fall out of trees or find out the hard way what happens when it goes into a dog’s territory. This is not your problem. I’d be telling them to fuck off!

faerietales · 17/04/2025 11:55

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 11:49

I think a dog that chases cats every time they access the garden are a PITA yes. Especially ones that are not doing it due to prey drive (as the OP says). They can be fairly easily trained to stop IME.

Why is a dog chasing an intruding cat in its' own being a PITA, though? I genuinely don't understand why it's such a problem.

My dog lives with three cats and doesn't chase them. They share food, sleep together and cuddle together quite happily. But when we get intruder cats in the garden, he absolutely will chase them. Though, if they stand their ground or come back again, he will soon get used to them and treat them like "his own".

Dogs are predators. Cats are their prey. It's natural behaviour. Yes, it may technically be trainable but I personally haven't bothered to train it out of mine and don't see the need to. I want him to alert me to anything new or strange in my garden, for starters.

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