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To tell the neighbours the cat isn’t my problem

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 06:51

We have neighbours who own a cat. The cat is a bit of a pain in the backside and continually came in our garden. Obviously, we couldn’t stop it and it treated our garden as its own causing some damage to toys and crapping in the flower beds.

We have recently got a lab from a rescue who, as we quickly discovered, doesn’t like cats. As soon as we brought our dog home and let it in the garden it immediately chased this cat down. The dog didn’t catch the cat and is likely never going to but likes to terrify the cat. Thankfully, the cat seems to be trying its luck a little less and our garden isn’t suffering so much mess and damage. Most of the other houses have had dogs for a fair while so cat hasn’t gone into the other gardens, ours was the only one it went into because of the dogs.

The neighbours have now complained that they are worried that my dog is going to harm their cat and possibly kill it. Now, as I’ve said, the dog is likely never to catch the cat and my garden is very secure so will never escape. The neighbours have said they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured and they will complain to the council.

neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. The issue is, I often don’t see the cat before I let her out.

My dog is pretty chilled, never any bother in any other way other than when the cat comes in.

AIBU to tell the neighbours that it isn’t my problem if their cat is scared. It’s my garden and my dog’s home and if they have an issue then they’re the ones who should keep their animal in? I’ve suggested for them to put rubber spikes or similar on their fence to hopefully prevent the cat, who is a twat, coming in but they have said the expense to do that should be on me and they don’t like to do things like that!

OP posts:
MarvellousMonsters · 18/04/2025 23:41

It’s not your problem. If they don’t want their cat getting injured they need to keep it indoors and walk it on a lead and/or build a catio. Cats kill millions of birds and shrews etc, it’s time they weren’t let out like that.

August1980 · 18/04/2025 20:48

No. The cat isn’t your problem. Your garden is your dogs garden and they don’t get to dictate when your dog gets to enjoy/pre/play in the garden!

Yourcatisnotsorry · 18/04/2025 20:33

Cat owner here, it’s their responsibility to keep their pet safe. So long as your dog can’t get out of your garden and you have it on a lead when outside you’re behaving responsibly.

Jillybloop393 · 18/04/2025 20:25

Back in the late 80's I lived in a house that had a paddock at the end of my garden. It was my paddock and I owned several dogs that had access to the paddock - I'd let them loose in there several times a day. The paddock was fenced securely with double height stock wire, and my dogs were unable to go through/over the wire. However, the neighbour across from me whose garden butted up to the fence, had cats, and they used to sometimes be in my field. They weren't always visible - I had stables, a dung heap, patches of nettles and thistles that they could easily conceal themselves in. My Labradors used to chase any cats they came across - in sixteen years they never caught one, but I had a little Jack Russell Terrier who had a different approach. He'd quietly go round the field on his own, check all the hiding places, look in the stables. Sadly, his method worked, and he did kill (extremely quickly!), a cat. I was extremely embarrassed, and more than a little upset - I had to take the dead moggy and present it to the neighbours, and explain what had happened. They were wonderful about it, said that they had to have a few cats around to keep the rats and mice down (we were in a rural location), and as long as I always informed them if it happened again, so they at least knew why they were missing a cat, all would be fine. I was really concerned that if they changed their minds, my dog could be in a lot of trouble, so I 'phoned the police myself and reported the incident. I was told by the police that as long as I wasn't encouraging the dog to catch the cat, delaying the cat's efforts to escape, or actually releasing the cat from a box with my dog hot on its heels, then I had nothing to worry about. As I said, this was back in about the early '90's, and the law may now be different. Before I get absolutely slaughtered on here, I would like to add that from that day, I would always let the Labradors out first to circuit the field and hopefully scare away any cats before letting the terrier out.

Bambiwithlonglegs · 18/04/2025 19:55

The cat will learn that your garden is off limits from now on but obviously if you see the cat in your garden before letting the dog out give it a heads up like clapping! Also if you see the cat in your garden any time, keep clapping to get it out so it learns that way as well. 👍

FormidableMizzP · 18/04/2025 19:16

Dumbdog · 17/04/2025 08:24

My dog doesn’t shit in the flower and vegetable beds like the neighbours’ cats do.

On the lawn, pick it up, simple.

Less fun to be preparing the bed for planting and need to poop scoop much more dangerous (toxoplasmosis) shit.

Actually toxoplasmosis is carried by warm blooded vertebrates, humans and birds as well as cats etc. Whereas dog poop is known to be highly toxic to humans and the envionment which is why people are now required to pick up after their dogs.

Some dogs will eat poop from other animals or birds, and roll in it.
We had a dog who loved to roll in duck poo. It's all part of life's rich tapestry and why we have medication and vaccinate.

Nikki75 · 18/04/2025 18:49

Your garden ... your dog...your property.
If the cat is silly enough to try its luck then that's the cats and its owners problem not yours.
And if the cat uses your garden as a toilet , I know not nice but put its mess back in there bin .

Hotflushesandchilblains · 18/04/2025 18:48

And as for the people saying your dog is reactive. I have cats and dogs, all live together perfectly well, and the dogs are very gentle with cats. Except the arsehole cat from next door who beats up my cats if he manages to corner them in my garden. Him they will chase out as soon as they see him. And quite rightly too.

Lyraloo · 18/04/2025 18:47

As a cat lover and owner myself, I absolutely agree with this. Tell them to get lost and good luck trying to get the council involved. Their cat is their responsibility and absolutely nothing to do with you.

carchi · 18/04/2025 18:39

Your neighbours are the unreasonable ones. What an absolute nerve to tell you how to conduct your and your dogs life in your own property. I own two cats and if they are stupid enough to go into a garden with a dog then that's their bad choice and I would never hold anyone else responsible for their actions. As for charging you for vets bills maybe you could do some research to make sure that you are not legally responsible. Print the information off and post it through their door.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 18/04/2025 18:36

So, my cat got attacked last year (and now has a permanent limp, was lucky not to have been killed because I intervened so quickly). It was on the street in front of my house, and the dog had escaped due to carelessness so I did hold the dog owners liable for the vet bills. But if the dog had been it its garden, and my cat went in, I would have accepted I was liable. If they are worried about the cat, they need to take steps. End of.

Khayker · 18/04/2025 18:16

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:09

Just to add, sorry should have said this, I shoo it out if I see it as I won’t make the dog wait. Often it’s in places I just don’t see it though. I won’t go out and inspect the hiding places though and don’t feel I should have to.

Edited

If your neighbours were in other countries, they would have no choice but to keep the cat in their garden due to preditors. Where I have a home in USA, very rarely see cats, most are indoor cats for that reason. Taking a bit of a liberty to try to make you responsible for their roaming pet. Its their responsibility.

LisaD76 · 18/04/2025 18:07

While cats have a protected right to roam dog owners cannot be liable if a cat gets injured while trespassing in the dogs space, it would be different if your dog attacked it on the street, but your dog is in a secure garden. You will probably find they will come to some sort of accord after a while, your dog will get too close and get its nose swiped making them wary or the cat will realise the dog is getting too close too often and scarper sooner. I have had cats and dogs and the cats owners are batshit if they think you should pay vets bills for their wandering feline.

CamillaMacauley · 18/04/2025 18:02

I have 2 cats and a dog and I agree with you OP. This is their issue. Chances are your dog will never catch the cat. Cat will soon get the message and avoid your garden. I never see a cat in my garden since having a dog. Could a compromise be that before letting the dog out you will open the door a crack and shout a warning to any hidden cats? Not sure what you’d shout! 😁. But they’ll soon associate the noise with an imminent dog.

AlleycatMarie · 18/04/2025 17:58

I’m a real cat lover but your neighbours are being totally unreasonable here @Miniminxymoo . The cat will learn to keep out your garden and you should not have to keep your dog in when the cat is out!

SkylarkKitten · 18/04/2025 17:55

The law states cats can free roam. The law states people can't cause intentional distress to animals.

You are not preventing the cat from free roaming
You are not intentionally causing injury to the cat

Your neighbours can call the council, police or High Court judge. They'll be told to keep their cat indoors if they want to prevent harm from external situations. You don't have to change your behaviour and your dog should be able to go in your/its garden at will.

I love cats, so feel sorry that the cat has lost its territory. However, it will learn to adapt and find an alternative location.

WhatMyNameis · 18/04/2025 17:53

I hope you laughed in their face?

asrl78 · 18/04/2025 17:52

AlertCat · 18/04/2025 08:03

Why do you think this? If you are correct, why aren’t cat owners held liable for picking up their cats’ poo from other people’s gardens, or for road accidents their cat causes? Why for cats do you think owners have rights but not responsibilities?

Cats are classed as wild animals, dogs aren't hence there are different regulations. Also, it is not cats that cause road accidents, it is crap drivers. If a cat runs in front of your car you do NOT try to swerve around it, do what you can within the bounds of safe driving but if you run it over, hard luck on the cat, better that than killing another road user, you don't have to report it to the police, although you might want to find the owner and tell them the sad news.

welshmercury · 18/04/2025 17:45

AlertCat · 17/04/2025 20:12

But there is no need. Cats are not like dogs, that’s why you don’t need public liability insurance for them and you don’t have to pick up their sh*t. OP would have as much liability for it in her garden as for a hedgehog.

The neighbours said if the cat got injured they would give OP the vets bill. If cctv they could prove what happened. Dog owners are meant to have insurance. Think the neighbours would need to raise a civil case though.

Buffs · 18/04/2025 17:43

They are absolutely, completely in the wrong. It is your dog’s garden,the cat will have to use somewhere else for its loo.

FormidableMizzP · 18/04/2025 16:44

YANBU. I have 2 cats and am getting a dog. They do learn to live with each other.
People saying you'd be liable if their cat was injured are being ridiculous. In the 1st instance they would need proof it was your dog that caused the injuries i.e. witnesses, CCTV. Even then highly unlikely.
Their cat, their problem. There are screens they can put in their windows and fence topper screens to keep their cat in their garden - at their own expense.
Honestly, I don't know where these people get such insane ideas about others being liable. Cloud cuckoo la la land. Well done for saving a dog's life.

Miniminxymoo · 18/04/2025 15:37

Humpsr · 18/04/2025 14:55

OP, putting up a camera that records your own back garden, like a video bell might be handy.

Absolutely batshit suggestions that you tether your own securely kept dog, to accommodate visiting cats🙄.

If I were you I would put up a sign warning cats about the dog😁

Edited

I did think those suggestions were a tad bizarre. The garden is the one outside place she can call her own and just enjoy freely. In the warmer months, she can have the freedom of going outside when she wants if the door is open.

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GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 18/04/2025 15:26

I love cats and own cats and yanbu.

When you let your cats roam as I do it’s a risk you choose to take. If my cat gets injured by a dog that is in its own garden it is my cat’s own stupid fault! I certainly wouldn’t hold the dog owner responsible.

You are not liable for the cost of keeping their cat safe.

Humpsr · 18/04/2025 14:55

OP, putting up a camera that records your own back garden, like a video bell might be handy.

Absolutely batshit suggestions that you tether your own securely kept dog, to accommodate visiting cats🙄.

If I were you I would put up a sign warning cats about the dog😁

Lostcat · 18/04/2025 14:11

Miniminxymoo · 18/04/2025 12:28

This is it, I can make my garden as secure as possible so the dog doesn’t escape and it’s safe for both her and the kids. I can’t however stop animals coming in from above. Other than erecting a dome over my property I just can’t control every risk. The neighbour won’t even attempt any sort of preventative from their side so what do I do.

I’ve had both cats and dogs, I would be devastated if anything happened. However, my family and my dog should be able to enjoy the garden we own freely.

That’s totally fair OP.

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