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To tell the neighbours the cat isn’t my problem

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 06:51

We have neighbours who own a cat. The cat is a bit of a pain in the backside and continually came in our garden. Obviously, we couldn’t stop it and it treated our garden as its own causing some damage to toys and crapping in the flower beds.

We have recently got a lab from a rescue who, as we quickly discovered, doesn’t like cats. As soon as we brought our dog home and let it in the garden it immediately chased this cat down. The dog didn’t catch the cat and is likely never going to but likes to terrify the cat. Thankfully, the cat seems to be trying its luck a little less and our garden isn’t suffering so much mess and damage. Most of the other houses have had dogs for a fair while so cat hasn’t gone into the other gardens, ours was the only one it went into because of the dogs.

The neighbours have now complained that they are worried that my dog is going to harm their cat and possibly kill it. Now, as I’ve said, the dog is likely never to catch the cat and my garden is very secure so will never escape. The neighbours have said they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured and they will complain to the council.

neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. The issue is, I often don’t see the cat before I let her out.

My dog is pretty chilled, never any bother in any other way other than when the cat comes in.

AIBU to tell the neighbours that it isn’t my problem if their cat is scared. It’s my garden and my dog’s home and if they have an issue then they’re the ones who should keep their animal in? I’ve suggested for them to put rubber spikes or similar on their fence to hopefully prevent the cat, who is a twat, coming in but they have said the expense to do that should be on me and they don’t like to do things like that!

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vjg13 · 17/04/2025 07:47

The cat will eventually mainly avoid your garden. The only time to be more vigilant is if you’ve been away and the cat has become more complacent. I have sighthounds and local cats do still occasionally come into the garden, my garden is secure but plenty of cat escape routes.

LoopyLou94 · 17/04/2025 07:45

As long as the dog NEVER leaves the garden without a lead, YANBU. And I say this as a cat owner with a strong preference for cats!

faerietales · 17/04/2025 07:44

LandSharksAnonymous · 17/04/2025 07:36

Oh I agree. It’s not her problem at all.

There’s only one solution:OP must buy a dozen more dogs and they can work in shift to keep her garden cat free.

Theres always the risk the cats and dogs will gang up together - one of our cats has befriended the neighbours dog! He eats his foods, sleeps on his bed and our neighbours say he acts like he owns the place 😂

shewasasaint · 17/04/2025 07:43

When I got my lurcher I made sure my small garden was secure but did worry about the neighbours’ cat. The neighbours sensibly said I’d done all I could and the cat would soon learn to avoid it.

The dog shot out when I opened the back door and the cat escaped over the fence. Since then she sits on the roof of my shed in the sun and jumps down into her own garden if the dog comes out.

I would be very distressed if anything happened to the cat but would be astonished to be held responsible in my own garden.

tallcurvey · 17/04/2025 07:42

@Miniminxymoo

they are nuts.

tell them you will charge them 100£ a day for their cats use if your garden.

LibrariansGiveUsPower · 17/04/2025 07:42

OP make sure you’ve got indemnity/liability insurance for your dog. All dog owners should have this.

There is possibly for fine & prison sentence if your dog is deemed out of control (on public or private land) but it only applies where there’s humans or service dogs involved.

cat in your garden would be a civil matter and you neighbour could claim for vets bills/damages (which would be covered under liability insurance).

https://law.stackexchange.com/questions/61877/what-happens-if-my-dog-kills-a-cat-in-my-garden-uk

Your neighbours however should consider cst proofing so their cat can’t escape .

LadyNairne · 17/04/2025 07:41

I actively use my dogs to scare cats out of my garden. Their habit of burying poo in flower beds is disgusting. YADNU!

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:39

LandSharksAnonymous · 17/04/2025 07:36

Oh I agree. It’s not her problem at all.

There’s only one solution:OP must buy a dozen more dogs and they can work in shift to keep her garden cat free.

My kids are determined to have a pack of dogs, my hubby however has a one dog rule 🤣

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:37

AlteredStater · 17/04/2025 07:28

I've a cat and those cat owners are being completely unreasonable. Surely their cat is bright enough to avoid the garden now it knows there's a canine about. I take it they don't complain to the other dog-owning neighbours? Their cat will adapt.

Nope, they don’t complain. The other houses already had dogs when they brought the cat, as a kitten, home so it learnt from a very early age. Now it’s just got into a habit of being in our garden as ours was the only ‘safe’ one until now.

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LandSharksAnonymous · 17/04/2025 07:36

faerietales · 17/04/2025 07:28

I mean, legally that’s true in the UK. Cats do have the right to roam.

That doesn’t mean it’s the OPs’ problem though!

Oh I agree. It’s not her problem at all.

There’s only one solution:OP must buy a dozen more dogs and they can work in shift to keep her garden cat free.

Gettingbysomehow · 17/04/2025 07:36

Next doors three cats never come into my garden because they are afraid of my little girl cat who sounds like an air raid siren going off when they dare to come anywhere near 😂

HRTQueen · 17/04/2025 07:36

The cat is antagonising your dog and trying to assert authority over what he/she sees as her territory cats are fuckers for this (I have always had cats)

if the cat was scared it wouldn’t be in your garden

until the cat is scared (unlikely to happen) the terf war shall continue

the neighbours are being ridiculous if they are that concerned they need to either cat proof their garden or keep the cat in

GirlWhatHaveYouDoneYoureAPinkPonyGirl · 17/04/2025 07:35

How ridiculous, they need to keep their cat in their garden, not expect you to be cat surveillance!
Suggest they invest in cat proofing for their garden. They sound as entitled (to your land) as their cat!

TheAmusedQuail · 17/04/2025 07:35

Cat owner and lover here. It's your dogs garden. Cats are VERY intelligent animals. It'll very quickly learn your garden is no longer its territory.

Plus the chance of a proper lab (as in, purebred, rather than a crossbreed) mauling a cat are small. Added to the fact that actually, cats are more than a good match for a dog, if it came to a fight, which it probably won't.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:35

Gremlins101 · 17/04/2025 07:32

I have a greyhound who chases cats. The neighbours cats come in our garden if he is inside and I actively use him to chase them out (knowing the time he takes to wake up, get his lazy bum off the couch etc, will give the cat time to get away).

Frankly (I like cats but) I don't like their cats pooping in our garden as it's a health risk for the kids plus the dog likes to eat it (YUCK). I would be mentioning the danger of their cats poop to your neighbour by the way.

My neighbours are nice though and there's never been any fuss. They know their cat is brazen. I also yell at their yappy dog sometimes and they don't mind 😄😄

Just an aside but I make sure to worm my dog very regularly for fear of parasites passing from the cat poop.

Yes, regularly worn and flea and I’m part of a care club at the vets so have it supplied. I also protect against lung worm as it’s rife in our area

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:34

MixedBananas · 17/04/2025 07:28

Dogs make.mess in the garden to.....unless you toilet trained your dog?

Just tell the neighbours to jeep cat out the garden and there w9nt be an issue.

When the dog poos in the garden I immediately pick it up. It’s also easy to see where she does it.

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Gremlins101 · 17/04/2025 07:32

I have a greyhound who chases cats. The neighbours cats come in our garden if he is inside and I actively use him to chase them out (knowing the time he takes to wake up, get his lazy bum off the couch etc, will give the cat time to get away).

Frankly (I like cats but) I don't like their cats pooping in our garden as it's a health risk for the kids plus the dog likes to eat it (YUCK). I would be mentioning the danger of their cats poop to your neighbour by the way.

My neighbours are nice though and there's never been any fuss. They know their cat is brazen. I also yell at their yappy dog sometimes and they don't mind 😄😄

Just an aside but I make sure to worm my dog very regularly for fear of parasites passing from the cat poop.

Humpsr · 17/04/2025 07:31

Neighbours are CF.
Tell them you are sick of their cat damaging your property and shitting everywhere and to keep it out of YOUR garden.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:30

Whaleandsnail6 · 17/04/2025 07:25

In my experience, you dont have to do that for long...the cats do wise on there is a scary dog in the garden.

As I said further up, I have a greyhound. When we first adopted her, I would go in the garden with her on a lead but after a couple of weeks, I started just doing a cat check before letting her out

I know op doesn't "have" to make sure there isnt a cat in the garden before letting her dog out, but I do think its the right thing to do.

If my dog harmed or killed a cat, I would be heartbroken and feel guilty, I wouldn't just think " ah well, shouldn't have been there anyway/not my responsibility " so I just think its taking precaution

I obviously wouldn’t want the cat to get hurt but I’m also not going to out the dog on lead every time I let her out for a pee. It’s not fair on my dog and also turns a quick pee into a big deal of leashing the dog up, putting boots on when the garden is wet and having to take extra time to do all of this whilst the dog is busting for a pee

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Watermill · 17/04/2025 07:30

First response nails it as usual.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 17/04/2025 07:28

I would make it very clear to your neighbours, in writing, that you can not be responsible for the safety of their cat in your garden. Point out that the garden is secure so there is no risk of the dog escaping, and suggest that they take any measures needed to keep their cat away.

AlteredStater · 17/04/2025 07:28

I've a cat and those cat owners are being completely unreasonable. Surely their cat is bright enough to avoid the garden now it knows there's a canine about. I take it they don't complain to the other dog-owning neighbours? Their cat will adapt.

MixedBananas · 17/04/2025 07:28

Dogs make.mess in the garden to.....unless you toilet trained your dog?

Just tell the neighbours to jeep cat out the garden and there w9nt be an issue.

faerietales · 17/04/2025 07:28

LandSharksAnonymous · 17/04/2025 07:25

Put your hard hat on, OP. Someone posted a similar thread last week was basically told ‘cats have a right to roam and shit in your garden.’

Personally, I think it’s your garden. So, fuck ‘em.

I mean, legally that’s true in the UK. Cats do have the right to roam.

That doesn’t mean it’s the OPs’ problem though!

butterflycr · 17/04/2025 07:28

It's very aggressive of them to threaten you with vet bills, sounds like it's getting quite nasty. Nothing has actually happened to their cat and this is a very common neighbourhood scenario with pets, so they need to calm down.

Tell them that you will do a cat check before letting the dog out, and if you see the cat there you will try to shoo it away first. That is reasonable.

But ultimately, it's your garden, and their cat is not your responsibility - especially if your dog isn't aggressive and has no history of harming other animals. Most dogs will chase cats, it doesn't mean they are going to maul them or actually do anything even if they catch them (which they usually don't!)

Cats learn quickly and it will soon stop coming in the garden if it has been chased away. They are overreacting. But there is a compromise, which is you shooing the cat away if you see it. I wouldn't go any further than that and certainly wouldn't agree to keep the dog in.

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