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To tell the neighbours the cat isn’t my problem

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Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 06:51

We have neighbours who own a cat. The cat is a bit of a pain in the backside and continually came in our garden. Obviously, we couldn’t stop it and it treated our garden as its own causing some damage to toys and crapping in the flower beds.

We have recently got a lab from a rescue who, as we quickly discovered, doesn’t like cats. As soon as we brought our dog home and let it in the garden it immediately chased this cat down. The dog didn’t catch the cat and is likely never going to but likes to terrify the cat. Thankfully, the cat seems to be trying its luck a little less and our garden isn’t suffering so much mess and damage. Most of the other houses have had dogs for a fair while so cat hasn’t gone into the other gardens, ours was the only one it went into because of the dogs.

The neighbours have now complained that they are worried that my dog is going to harm their cat and possibly kill it. Now, as I’ve said, the dog is likely never to catch the cat and my garden is very secure so will never escape. The neighbours have said they will charge us for any vet bills if their cat gets injured and they will complain to the council.

neighbours have also said that if the cat is in my garden then I shouldn’t let the dog out for a pee. The issue is, I often don’t see the cat before I let her out.

My dog is pretty chilled, never any bother in any other way other than when the cat comes in.

AIBU to tell the neighbours that it isn’t my problem if their cat is scared. It’s my garden and my dog’s home and if they have an issue then they’re the ones who should keep their animal in? I’ve suggested for them to put rubber spikes or similar on their fence to hopefully prevent the cat, who is a twat, coming in but they have said the expense to do that should be on me and they don’t like to do things like that!

OP posts:
LasagneLasagne · 17/04/2025 08:32

Cat owner here.
If your neighbours are worried about your dog hurting their cat, they need to keep their cat indoors.
Your dog is allowed in YOUR garden at any time you choose.

jellyfishperiwinkle · 17/04/2025 08:32

But if you have a dog that you think may kill another animal, it is your responsibility to supervise it outside and work on the issue

My cats have killed an awful lot of mice over the years. It's what they do.

Pearl69 · 17/04/2025 08:31

I’m a cat owner - it’s really not your problem. Cats aren’t stupid, it’ll soon learn not to come in your garden and will crap in its own (as mine does). Your neighbours are being entirely unreasonable. Ignore them and enjoy your new best friend.

Fargo79 · 17/04/2025 08:31

Honestly I wouldn't even entertain the conversation. Probably would have replied the first time to say that obviously my dog will be in the garden whenever I damn well please and their cat is solely their responsibility. After that l, I would have curtly declined to discuss further. Cheeky, entitled arseholes. Letting their pet use your garden as a toilet and now demanding that you tailor your behaviour and that of your pets in your own home! Absolutely not. Wouldn't even be a conversation.

LeapingSpringLambs · 17/04/2025 08:31

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:24

But equally my dog has the right to use its own garden. I’m not saying I would charge them but they also can’t expect me to pay vets bills if their cat enters my property. If it injured itself in something in the garden I also wouldn’t expect to have to pay.

Absolutely I totally agree with you. I wouldn’t get into a debate of words with them though. They’re being totally unreasonable. I would just say that it’s great that cats are so clever they’re allowed out on their own unlike dogs or some such twaddle. Maybe add if they’re worried about vet bills then good insurance is a must!

if they did come chasing payment for vet treatment, I would say that your dog is covered under your household insurance (it should be but you probably should check) for unlawful damage it causes (all dog owners should have this cover anyway incase their dog causes a traffic accident etc) . Then say that the insurance won’t pay out because the cat came into your property. I’m pretty sure that would be the legal situation.

S0j0urn4r · 17/04/2025 08:31

Contact your local dog warden for advice. I have 2 sighthounds who would chase a cat in the garden (or anywhere else). Cats don't come into our garden. You could put a bell on your dog's collar as an 'early warning system' maybe?

Headingtowardsdivorce · 17/04/2025 08:30

I've voted yanbu but I'd add that if I were you, I wouldn't actually say anything to the neighbours, I'd just nod and make vague hmming noises. No point in dragging this out into an argument.

Look like you're agreeing and then carry on as normal. What are they going to do?

Quiethouse · 17/04/2025 08:29

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:16

I might just do this! Harm goes both ways after all.

Obviously you can say what you like to your neighbours, but this wouldn't stand up in court. You're not going to be able to prove the cat did it unprovoked. What would be more likely to happen is that the neighbour would argue the cat did it in self defence around your dangerous dog, which could land you and your dog in hot water. As PPs have said, the cat isn't likely to be caught and will run away. But if you have a dog that you think may kill another animal, it is your responsibility to supervise it outside and work on the issue. If an elderly cat or other sick animal got into your garden, you need to make sure your dog doesn't kill it.

PizzaEater54 · 17/04/2025 08:29

I was going to suggest rubber spikes. We have a young cat and our neighbour a large dog. The dog is gentle and the neighbours have trained him well (he follows commands) but it's only natural when he has seen our cat in past there has been a frantic chase which has upset our cat. The rubber spikes have deterred our cat from climbing over.

Riaanna · 17/04/2025 08:29

LeapingSpringLambs · 17/04/2025 08:23

I wouldn’t. Cats can’t trespass in law. They have the right to roam.

That is not true.

www.cats.org.uk/help-and-advice/getting-a-cat/cats-and-the-law

ShodAndShadySenators · 17/04/2025 08:28

If your neighbours will worry about their cat's safety, the onus is on them to cat-proof their garden to keep their cat in - I don't see how they can think that's OP's responsibility?! Their cat, their problem. They can choose to contain their cat for their own peace of mind but that is their cost and effort to bear. Not anyone else's!

Nor is anyone else responsible for vet bills for their cat as they allow it free rein outside. If OP's dog got over the fence and attacked the cat in its own garden, then yes, but not when the dog is safely contained within her own property. Your neighbours ABVU.

Also, the cat will hear your back door opening, and that should be warning enough to vacate the premises in case it's the dog coming out. It might not have learned yet (some cats are not bright) but it will in time.

(I took my cat to the vets as she wasn't weight bearing on one leg. I couldn't go in with her (covid) so had to wait outside to hear what the vet thought. Her claws were scuffed and the vet's verdict was that she had been in exciting times and had no doubt had to make a very fast exit with full traction, causing muscle strain and superficial scratching. It's certainly a strong possibility that she had gone into a dog's garden and found that the resident dog had objected. That's her (and my) risk. One of those things!)

jellyfishperiwinkle · 17/04/2025 08:27

They sound a bit daft. We have a greyhound and cats. The greyhound will chase other cats, though she had had enough bops on the nose from our cats over the years to know they can be rather sharp if she gets too close. Though she has never wrestled with a cat on the lawn as one of my cats did the other day.

Next door they have often had lurchers who hunt rabbits and would kill a cat. My cats avoid that garden.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:26

Dumbdog · 17/04/2025 08:24

My dog doesn’t shit in the flower and vegetable beds like the neighbours’ cats do.

On the lawn, pick it up, simple.

Less fun to be preparing the bed for planting and need to poop scoop much more dangerous (toxoplasmosis) shit.

Exactly! A pile of poo in the garden is easily spotted and it’s a quick job to look for. Inspecting all the places that cats go is far more arduous. I also know when my dog has been out to do her business as the door isn’t typically left open. If it is then I would check more regularly, especially if we are going to use the garden.

OP posts:
Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:24

LeapingSpringLambs · 17/04/2025 08:23

I wouldn’t. Cats can’t trespass in law. They have the right to roam.

But equally my dog has the right to use its own garden. I’m not saying I would charge them but they also can’t expect me to pay vets bills if their cat enters my property. If it injured itself in something in the garden I also wouldn’t expect to have to pay.

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Dumbdog · 17/04/2025 08:24

MixedBananas · 17/04/2025 07:28

Dogs make.mess in the garden to.....unless you toilet trained your dog?

Just tell the neighbours to jeep cat out the garden and there w9nt be an issue.

My dog doesn’t shit in the flower and vegetable beds like the neighbours’ cats do.

On the lawn, pick it up, simple.

Less fun to be preparing the bed for planting and need to poop scoop much more dangerous (toxoplasmosis) shit.

LeapingSpringLambs · 17/04/2025 08:23

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:16

I might just do this! Harm goes both ways after all.

I wouldn’t. Cats can’t trespass in law. They have the right to roam.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 17/04/2025 08:21

Don't listen to the "garden checkers". Nobody is obliged to check their gardens at 7am or 10.30pm in the darkness of December.

sueelleker · 17/04/2025 08:17

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:01

She doesn’t react to other animals, it’s pretty common for dogs not to like cats 🤷🏼‍♀️.

We've always had dogs and cats together, and they got on fine. One of our dogs would pretend to chase other cats in the street, for fun. One day we were coming back from a walk (on a lead), and he went to chase a cat on the pavement-only to stop and look very sheepish when he realised it was ours!

LillyPJ · 17/04/2025 08:17

Viviennemary · 17/04/2025 07:12

I think if their cat got injured by your dog they could take legal action even if it happened in your garden although this does seem unfair. In any case I doubt if anything will come of it as the cat will most likely stop coming into your garden

Unfair? That sounds plain ridiculous! Do you have any evidence that that's the case? (I do know the law can sometimes seem daft.)

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:16

forrestgreen · 17/04/2025 07:58

I’d tell them their cat is trespassing and they need to make sure it doesn’t enter your property again. Then twist their words back at them. If their cat scratches or bites your dog you will immediately bill them for vets bills and pain and suffering etc

I might just do this! Harm goes both ways after all.

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sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 17/04/2025 08:14

The cat will eventually stop coming in your garden with the dog being a permanent fixture. You can use a mixture of white vinegar and water sprayed around the garden which will repel cats, spray it round your fence/border. It's not your responsibility, would they be happy for you to let your dog in their garden to shit in it? And if their cat attacks your dog, are they going to pay your vet bill (I know highly unlikely but you could ask them the question)

Savingadime · 17/04/2025 08:13

Cat and dog owner here and your neighbours are being very unreasonable. One of my cats is a social little thing. He wears a tracker as he often camps out at pensioners houses!
He soon learns to avoid gardens with dogs in them. If he gets chased, well, so be it! I wouldn’t keep him indoors because it would significantly lessen his quality of life. I would rather he lived 10 years having fun, being a cat, hunting, than live 20 years sleeping all day indoors.

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 08:11

Lyannaa · 17/04/2025 08:06

How do you know your dog isn’t reactive to other animals? I find it highly unlikely that your dog is only going to chase the neighbour’s cat and nothing else and I do agree with the pp that reinforcing this behaviour is wrong and is going to cause you problems. It’s the cat owners responsibility to make sure their cat stays safe but it’s your responsibility as a dog owner to train it! Irresponsible dog owners cause the community more issues than irresponsible cat owners.

I’m working on training, she doesn’t react to seeing squirrels or birds in the garden. Literally shows no interest in them but they obviously scarper when they see her. In no way will I let her off lead until I am confident with recall. I may not have had a dog for a few years but she isn’t my first dog. Other than the cat in the garden, she doesn’t show any ‘prey’ instinct.

OP posts:
LeapingSpringLambs · 17/04/2025 08:10

Miniminxymoo · 17/04/2025 07:58

The dog isn’t reactive to other animals or people, just cats. So far hasn’t caught it so have no idea is she would actually hurt the cat. She just barks (no growling) and runs after it. Interestingly, doesn’t bark if it’s on the fence just if it’s physically in the garden.

I really don’t think you need to worry about it. Your certainly don’t need to take cat chasing as a worry your dog is reactive to other dogs or humans. Our dog chases cats that aren’t our own and sometimes forgets himself and chases ours too in the garden! When our next door neighbours dog got a couple of our ducks, he just held onto them until our neighbour got him to drop them and popped them back into our chicken/duck enclosure. He did no harm. Dogs do kill cats but it’s rarely labs and usually if the dog catches the cat by surprise. The cat isn’t going to be surprised your dog is in your garden after 3 months! If you’d got your dog last week I would suggest what I did in previous post but after 3 months I would put it from your mind. cats are creature of habit and don’t like to change their territory once established but they’re also hugely adaptable. It might be that you usually let your dog out at set times so it’s gone for a “time share” (cats do this with territory between themselves all the time) but it will soon learn not to.

OneFineDay13 · 17/04/2025 08:08

What an entitled pair of twats hour neighbours are. I am a cat owner of two and would never take this attitude. It's your garden they can piss off

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