Inappropriate behaviour towards my 15 year old daughter

Please report to police. He may be on the sex offenders register already, in which case they’d definitely be interested to hear he’s targeting children. Your daughter is safe, but his next target might be too scared to say no to him.

You are incorrect.
This is very much is sexual abuse/ assault. Sexual assault occurs when someone touches any part of another person's body in a sexual way, even through clothes, without that person's consent.
They are absolutely not clueless, they know very well what they are doing 🙄

OP speak to 101 and see what they advise, don’t let in slide.

Not exactly advice but when this happened at the pub I worked at (15 year old pot washer), the girl’s very no-nonsense dad went round and thumped the offender. He didn’t do it again.

Your poor DD. I feel for her.

I think it is worth telling the police. They might not charge him but two uniformed officers coming around to ‘have a word’ will put the fear of god into the creep like nothing else.

I would be urging your daughter to raise a complaint. She understands this isn't acceptable and she shouldn't walk away from a job without first raising this with her employers.

Your exh's partner should want to know about this and to take steps with the man responsible to ensure he doesn't do it again.
Employers now have to take reasonable steps to prevent serial harassment at work, never mind deal with it when it happens.
https://www.gov.uk/government/news/new-protections-from-sexual-harassment-come-into-force

It would be interesting to see some of the responses if this was a male teacher and 15vyr old student. Most men I know go out of their way NOT to appear as though their behaviour towards young girls were inappropriate.

Yes, you just took it as part and parcel of working with men back when we were teenagers, and yes you learned to shimmy away or deflect comments, but we shouldn't have had to then and shouldn't have to now.

She shouldn't have to quit to be safe.
Speaking up means he gets reprimanded and it doesn't happen to anyone else.

She loses out on a job whilst he carries on earning and behaving the same way.

What happens if similar employee at her next place, she can't keep quiting, but you have to build up her confidence to stand up against men like him, because unfortunately, they're everywhere.

Why is this thread full of handmaidens like huffle making pathetic excuses for this adult male lech? 🙄

I would report to the employer definitely at least.

Dd1 has worked since she was 14 the first cafe was run by my friends Dh so that was fine. Second a restaurant with a really good young male manager female staff treated with respect and unquestionally defended by management if a customer became difficult. Dd was really happy there. So this doesn’t have to happen.

I’m absolutely amazed how many people don’t see this as something to report to the police. At what point do you think men cross a line? Do we have to put up with predatory behaviour against a child and excuse it until what point? Who knows what else this guy is doing.

Some of you sound like you are living in the 70s in terms of your outlook.

This. 100%

She's 15. As a parent I'd be asking why my child was being sexually harassed in the work place.

It’s obviously really creepy and inappropriate behaviour. She’s probably best off reporting it to her employers as she’s unlikely to be the only woman he’s tried this on with.

Poor girl. I used to work in a taxi office with 3 old men when I was 16. The owner was clearly a predator, he used to drive us to the coast skipping school, gave us copious amounts of wine (that was pre pregnancy for me). One day when driving me home at 3am after a shift he put his hand down my trousers. I was 7 months pregnant at that point. He pretended to be touching the bump. My dad went to tell him I had quit the next day, but I never told my parents the real reason, just that I was too tired being pregnant. His wife had a go at my dad as it meant her pervert husband had to go into work that evening on his one day off. I felt quite bad about that. He is long dead now. I have a 17yr old DD and i’d never let her work in a place like that, but guess the early 90’s were a different time. I don’t recall my parents ever checking I was ok working late at night with these old men. To be fair the other 2 were fine, never said or did anything inappropriate. Just the owner.

Aye lay money he's not touching Billy the barman.
He shouldn't be touching her full stop , creepy bastard touching a child.

She's underage. Report.

Similar things happened to me when I was young, comments at work from a much older man like "Do you have a boyfriend? Let me know if you guys break up wink wink"... touching my arm, winking at me, etc. I think the best thing you can do apart from reporting it (obviously), is advise your daughter on how to respond, because you never know when she'll come across some creep and they usually target people who are young, shy, vulnerable... it could help her in the future to learn to be assertive. A while ago in a fairly empty park some old guy came up to me, stood far too close to me and started telling me I had a nice smile. I got really angry and yelled "Don't you dare harrass me" loudly. He backed off and looked taken aback, I think he was expecting me to freeze and get anxious and I was proud of myself for shouting at him. Don't take this as me blaming her for not being assertive, it's really hard to know how to respond, especially at age 15, I really feel for her and I remember how creeped out I used to feel when that kind of thing happened to me and you should definitely report it. I'm just saying it's empowering to have confidence and assertivity at age 40 that I didn't have aged 20 and I wish I could help as many young girls as possible to have more confidence than I used to have.

She hasn't quit yet. She has told her mum she wants to. She certainly doesn't have to go to work to do her next shift with this man though.

Hemlocked I don't think she has any chance of a constructive dismissal claim when she hasn't raised a complaint with her employer and given them a chance to sort it out. I understand why she has chosen to leave but at this point it is a choice. If her employer fobbed her off, leaving her no other options to make it stop other than leaving, then she'd have grounds for constructive dismissal. Except she probably hasn't been working there 2yrs though and employees generally have very few rights until then, so maybe not.

This I would go through the employer first on my daughter's behalf to ask them to take disciplinary action against this man. He should be sacked. The police if she wants to.

If she wants to assert herself in that situation, I’m assuming this man is older, she can simply say:
Stop touching me. It is inappropriate and unwanted. Is this clear? (And she should slightly raise her voice too).

Also, please remind her that if she ever needs to physically defend herself - go for the nut kick & run technique.

Surely as it's her Dads friend you talk to the Dad who speaks with his friend? Why are you thinking of going to the police? Handle it like an adult and don't throw the friend who likely has no idea about this and did you a favour under the bus

It would be worth calling ACAS. They have a free helpline. It may be possible for your daughter to claim constructive dismissal due to sexual harassment. She has basically been forced to leave her job due to this man. As for the male employee, this may be considered gross misconduct and he can be suspended or his contract terminated over this.

Because your daughter is 15 it is also predatory paedophilic behaviour so may be worth mentioning to the police in order to have it logged.

I have a woman who works for me who touches me and I hate it. I absolutely hate strangers touching me.

You need to teach your daughter how to respond. This will not be the last time someone is inappropriate, particularly if she wants to work in the services industry. Step away and say clearly "please do not touch me".

Of course this can be reported to the police. I skips absolutely report it. This is how men get away with this shit.