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Should you ask another mums permission before giving their Dc sweets/cakes?

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Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:25

Just curious about this.

Recently planned a nice activity for children I know, it included a sweet treat in it, children were happy. Should I have asked the Dc’s parent if they could have the treat? It was small.

I have neighbours we know and friends bringing my Dc chocolate or sweets and i’m okay with it and encourage the children to say thank you and be grateful as it’s a nice thought behind it.

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WhatMe123 · 16/04/2025 23:34

Please ask 😁. Dd2 has severe allergies and this is a nightmare when people hand her food as she's too young to check it herself

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Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:34

I didn’t mean in case of allergies, but parents who wouldn’t want them having chocolate
For me with my Dd it’s not an issue as I see it as a thoughtful thing

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GivingUpFinally · 16/04/2025 23:33

If I knew the child and parents. Know there isn't an allergy etc. I give treats, sometimes a very big treat and always let the parents know at pick up or drop off and of course I apologise for filling them full of sugar and e numbers. They do the same back.

It's not an every day thing and when kids are together doing stuff it's nice to go out of the ordinary.

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Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:32

Gettingacoffee · 16/04/2025 23:32

Given by the parent?
Probably okay then.

My nut allergic child can only eat certain brands/types of chocolate though.

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Yes at the house

Kids are 6 upwards

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Gettingacoffee · 16/04/2025 23:32

Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:30

I’ve seen them have it before

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Given by the parent?
Probably okay then.

My nut allergic child can only eat certain brands/types of chocolate though.

WithOneLook · 16/04/2025 23:31

Depends on the age of the children. If it is small, a one off, and the children are old enough to have an awareness of their own health needs (older primary age upwards ISH) then I wouldn't necessarily worry about getting permission. If they are toddlers I'd absolutely ask permission.

Gettingacoffee · 16/04/2025 23:31

Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:29

Chocolate

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Dairy allergies, nut allergies could be an issue with chocolate. Diabetic or Vegetarian?

Housemouse245 · 16/04/2025 23:31

I would ask if they’re in the vicinity but if I was caring for a child alone I wouldn’t bother. If they have dietary requirements surely they’d have discussed that with you before you took care of their child?!

Yellowhammer09 · 16/04/2025 23:30

Then no, I wouldn't. I'd probably give them only a small amount though.

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Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:30

OttersAreMySpiritAnimal · 16/04/2025 23:28

Yes I'd ask just in case of allergies, diabetes or other health conditions.

I’ve seen them have it before

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JMSA · 16/04/2025 23:29

Nah, it’s fine.

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Goinglocodowninacapulcoo · 16/04/2025 23:29

Mummmmmmmaaaaaayyyyyyy · 16/04/2025 23:26

I would ask as it depends what the treat is.

Chocolate

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Gettingacoffee · 16/04/2025 23:28

Good idea to check in case of allergies, diabetes, if they’re vegan etc

OttersAreMySpiritAnimal · 16/04/2025 23:28

Yes I'd ask just in case of allergies, diabetes or other health conditions.

Mummmmmmmaaaaaayyyyyyy · 16/04/2025 23:26

I would ask as it depends what the treat is.