To speak to my neighbour's about her disabled child?

"Yes I know exactly about autism. There is no excuse for causing no sleep for the neighbours."

But you don't know this teenagers autism. Could you describe my teenagers autism?

Its a huge spectrum i doubt you know all the different presentations and nuances of autism.

I’ve not thought of unicorns. Is this something you’ve tried? Do you think that the op should put up and shut up? From your laughing emoji further down I feel sorry for your neighbours if you have neighbours.

DC has severe autism. We have been discharged from all NHS services as it has been agreed there is nothing else that can be done. Any existing need is met via EHCP (special school) and the Early Help services which funds a few hours respite. Not even social services are interested and trust me, there is a lot going on with my child and their high needs. 'disability specialists' - what on earth are these? You really do not have the foggiest clue what the reality looks like. Manifesting magic unicorns doesn't make them real!!!!!

Actually I do know. Unlike you I don’t have to shout down others with you don’t know all the time. Yes I know exactly about autism. There is no excuse for causing no sleep for the neighbours.

"At this level of disability specialists are involved."

You mean they have will have seen a paediatrician once.

Not al all times ,they are only involved for specific issues ,once those issues are resolved they will discharge the child.

At this level of disability specialists are involved.

Its clear from your very ignorant answer you dont understand what severe autism is if you did you would know not every one is capable of learning and can understand redirection.

This!!!

It’s a recommended medication for autism. The child has to under be under specialist care.

I would have a word. She needs to be redirecting him and making an effort to let her child know what is and isn’t acceptable because he is capable of learning despite his issues (I have experience with my niece). You and your family shouldn’t be suffering because of this. I get he has additional needs and what not but sometimes this is an excuse just to let kids do as they please without boundaries being put in and letting them crack in despite the impact their behaviour has on others. This child is going to need such boundaries if he has a chance at coping and regulating properly when he’s older.

"The LA won't even provide a school place for many of them."

Yes my son has been out of school since last summer.

Do you know how hard it is to get to someone who can prescribe melatonin? You can't just walk into your GP and ask for it.

I've been trying for years for my son.

It's a massive failure of the system for sure, but it's just not as simplistic as "trying medication".

Do you think it acceptable to be causing noise at night that means no sleep for the neighbours?

How much respite care do you think is available? ,i consider us fortunate that we get a package of respite but in reality it is one or two days a week in the school holidsys at a special needs play scheme 9-3
Every other saturday at the same scheme for five hours and two overnights a month
As for melatonin it doesnt work for every child and its supoosed to help a child get to sleep not keep them asleep .

"Good to try it out though. The doctors would have options for sleep meds."

GPs cannot prescribe melatonin because it is off licence for children. It would have to be done by a paediatrician and they are reluctant to prescribe it. There has been a large move away from trying to medicate severe autism including drugs prescribed by psychiatrists.

Do you really think the parent won't have already tried melatonin? Do you have any experience of looking after a severely
disabled teen in this climate? The LA won't even provide a school place for many of them.

Good to try it out though. The doctors would have options for sleep meds.

Melatonin isn't some magic potion.

"Are you saying that even when asleep from meditation that the kid would be banging on the walks?"

Sleep medication isn't a sedative. There are lots of children it doesn't work for.

Are you saying that even when asleep from meditation that the kid would be banging on the wall? Melatonin is part of autism care.

Potentially moving the child's room to a room with no adjoining walls. Doing the million and one suggestions on this thread regarding padding, helmets, diversions etc. She will undoubtedly be receiving quite a lot of money from the state due to her child's disability whilst OP will be entitled to none of this. The person best placed to tackle the issue is the neighbour and not OP.

If none of the above works then the child is clearly inappropriately housed and the neighbour must seek alternatives. This may involve specialist placements or simply looking for. Semi detached or end terraced house that has a room the disabled child can use.

OP must advocate for her own family. Move if she can but also pursue other available options including seeking formal action from the LA.

"Are you saying that medication and respite care are lies? Do you cause your neighbours untenable noise ?"

There is no medication to stop banging on walls and respite care would be a couple of nights a month (if you are lucky). Many LAs now provide nothing.

No, I don't think so but having a child with very complex needs I also have a lot of first hand experiences with the system that is meant to support us and - newsflash - there is next to nothing. I am just realistic. I would consider moving as I know that there won't be much that can or will be done. The child cannot control it's behaviours. There is nothing that can be done. The LA won't fund a detached house. Adaptations can only do so much and will likely try to wiggle out in any case... not sure what you think actual help the family with the disabled child can access which would make a difference to the OP? I feel for the oP and would not want to live like that but I am also painfully aware that in reality (even though this doesn't appear fair) the only one who can make a change that will make a difference is the OP herself - by moving. It's not about what's right or wrong but about what is realistic and achievable. You clearly do not have much (or any) experience caring for a child with severe needs and fighting the system for support. I don't blame you. If I wouldn't have to fight the system myself, I couldn't possibly imagine how difficult things are these days. HTH.