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Delivery · 16/04/2025 22:27

Just read an article about the Supreme Court judgement today. It repeatedly refers to Cis women. I get so unbelievably annoyed by that term.

I am not a ‘Cis’ woman. I just hate the term. If you want to be a trans woman, fine. That’s what you are. Don’t make me the other side of your imaginary coin. Don’t make me call myself something I’m not. Don’t make me part of your ‘We’re all just at various points on the woman spectrum’ nonsense.

There are women. And there are trans women. Two entirely different things.

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Helleofabore · 17/04/2025 11:42

Instructions · 17/04/2025 11:31

Cis is meaningless. Some people insist that Imane Khelif is a cis woman because their dsd means they were incorrectly recorded as female at birth. (I have the receipts so the tiresome "no one has ever said that" comments will be pointless if anyone feels the need to make them).

People can use cis if it makes them happy but I will continue to think them ridiculous and not use it myself.

I have those receipts as well. There were plenty of posters on mn declaring that Khelif and Semenya are cis women.

I got to the point of even drawing a diagram because I was posting the same thing over and over after seeing that. Because those insisting cis is harmless and should be accepted don’t seem to understand what it actually means and does.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 11:39

Surely if you declare yourself as non-binary, you then actually become binary? Non-binary and binary, which is binary. No?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:36

thefirebird · 17/04/2025 10:39

Ah, so you’re non-binary? Non-binary people don’t identify with gender.

Because if you’re calling yourself a woman that means you’re identifying with that word and therefore have a gender identity.

it’s a biological definition, babe, not a social one. It was a ruling on the definition of sex. And gender is social.

Almost everyone in the world is "non binary", babe.

Because almost nobody except trans people actually identifies with gender, which is regressive made up nonsense.

Everyone in the world, including the 99%+ of the human population who are, according to your definition, "non binary", is in fact binary in the sense that they come in two varieties: male and female.

Male and female are not identities; they are scientific categories.

Instructions · 17/04/2025 11:31

Cis is meaningless. Some people insist that Imane Khelif is a cis woman because their dsd means they were incorrectly recorded as female at birth. (I have the receipts so the tiresome "no one has ever said that" comments will be pointless if anyone feels the need to make them).

People can use cis if it makes them happy but I will continue to think them ridiculous and not use it myself.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 17/04/2025 11:29

So what is the definition of 'identify' in this context? Does it mean 'to think that one is something'? I don't 'think' I'm a woman - I just am one.

Does it mean 'to feel like something'? How do I know what it 'feels like' to be a woman? I only know what it feels like to be me. Other women might feel completely different.

I also don't 'feel' specifically 5'6", 53 years old or British. I just am those things.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:24

AlphaRadiationIsHeliumNuclei · 17/04/2025 08:41

Not the point of the thread, but this is where the terms come from.

So trans woman means "the opposite of woman" then.

In other words, it means "man".

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:21

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 08:36

And yes. Cis makes me want to rip my knitting. I won’t take anyone seriously who uses it and will judge them to fuck.

Yes, whenever I hear someone use this word I revise my estimation of their IQ down 20 points.

Helleofabore · 17/04/2025 11:21

Bogginsthe3rd · 17/04/2025 10:55

Because the feelings you have are innately you. But you can describe them as you have and cannot separate yourself from them. Therefore your feelings are part of you and those feelings are those of a woman by definition. You identify as being a woman.

No. feeling feelings as a woman is not coherent with ‘identifying as a woman’.

One is a state of being and the other requires active processing and analysis against set criteria as a positive action to ‘identify’ as something.

It is more accurate to say ‘I feel like me and I am female/ a woman’. No ‘identifying as a woman’ needed.

ProtectAndTerf · 17/04/2025 11:20

TheBerry · 17/04/2025 11:14

You feel like a woman, right? That’s your gender identity, then. You’re also a biological woman.

I agree that cis isn’t really necessary. I guess it adds a bit of clarification. But basically I don’t see why biological women can’t be just called women, and transwomen just called transwomen.

But honestly it’s not something I can get het up over at all. It’s just a descriptor.

I don't feel like a woman. Except possibly when in the throes of severe period pain, but then I am very painfully aware I am feeling a FEMALE thing in my female body, nothing to do with how I feel as a person.

In some situations I am treated "as a woman" and it always takes me by surprise a bit, as I just see myself as a human (often this is around sexism/men making assumptions about me).

I really wrestled with the fact that I don't "feel like a woman" as a teen and in my early 20s. As I couldn't pin down what the hell that meant, aside from sexist expectations, I eventually stopped pondering it. I have since had so many friends and other women say they felt the same thing at that age, it seems pretty normal.

DuckieDodgyHedgyPiggy · 17/04/2025 11:16

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:08

I haven't RTFT and assume you have been corrected about this by multiple people by now.

But you've just perfectly illustrated the problem with adopting all this confusing terminology.

Who knows how many women, when saying that they're OK with trans women using women's spaces, think they're talking about women who identify as men rather than men who identify as women?

The term "trans man" refers to a woman who wishes to live and be referred to as though she were a man.

I asked DH what he thought transwoman meant, and he said a woman who is now a man. So yes, confusion reigns.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 17/04/2025 11:15

Cis is a slur.

TheBerry · 17/04/2025 11:14

InfoSecInTheCity · 17/04/2025 00:13

Just to check my thinking on this,

it would be bad if I were to presume to know the gender identity of a TW, TM or NB person right? At least that’s what the message seems to be.

But it’s OK for others to presume to know that I have a gender identity and to call me cis, even if I don’t like that and don’t feel like I actually do have a gender identity, I know I’m a woman because I’m female, not because I feel like one. I have no idea what ‘a woman’ feels like, I just know what I feel like.

Is my understanding of this logic vacuum correct? I can’t presume to know other peoples gender identity, but they can presume to know mine.

You feel like a woman, right? That’s your gender identity, then. You’re also a biological woman.

I agree that cis isn’t really necessary. I guess it adds a bit of clarification. But basically I don’t see why biological women can’t be just called women, and transwomen just called transwomen.

But honestly it’s not something I can get het up over at all. It’s just a descriptor.

ProtectAndTerf · 17/04/2025 11:13

Helleofabore · 17/04/2025 11:02

It is supposed to mean ‘someone with a gender identity that matches their assigned sex at birth’

Edited

And this, in a nutsack nutshell, is why so many of us object to the term. (Including you, I know!)

If used about me I simply say I am not cis. If further explanation is needed I say I don't have a female gender identity, but choose to use she/her pronouns. They can't really argue with that, in case it's "transphobic".

Bogginsthe3rd · 17/04/2025 11:12

ProtectAndTerf · 17/04/2025 11:08

Cheese and jam sandwiches?

As if this thread wasn't controversial enough - now we are onto the real hard hitting stuff!

"I think therefore I jam"

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:09

Helleofabore · 17/04/2025 11:02

It is supposed to mean ‘someone with a gender identity that matches their assigned sex at birth’

Edited

And nobody can explain WTF any of that means.

ProtectAndTerf · 17/04/2025 11:08

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 17/04/2025 10:52

How do you know that I feel the same as you though? I'm a mixture of likes/dislikes, thoughts and feelings which are probably unique to me. I love cheese and jam sandwiches, my DH hates them so is a love of cheese and jam sandwiches what makes me a woman? Or perhaps it's my love of football? DH and Ds hate football, DD and I love it so is that what makes us identify as female?
I identify as me not as a woman or as a human or as fan of cake. These are things I just am

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Cheese and jam sandwiches?

As if this thread wasn't controversial enough - now we are onto the real hard hitting stuff!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:08

Bogginsthe3rd · 17/04/2025 00:28

Yes I can understand that. My feeling is that a man who was born male but now identifies as behind a woman is called a trans man rather than just a man or cis man, no?

I haven't RTFT and assume you have been corrected about this by multiple people by now.

But you've just perfectly illustrated the problem with adopting all this confusing terminology.

Who knows how many women, when saying that they're OK with trans women using women's spaces, think they're talking about women who identify as men rather than men who identify as women?

The term "trans man" refers to a woman who wishes to live and be referred to as though she were a man.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:03

Bogginsthe3rd · 16/04/2025 23:45

I guess if you were born a woman and you are a woman you are a cis woman. It's a just a term which you don't have to use if you don't want.

It's a term which you should only use about other people if you know that they consent to being referred to in this way.

EasternStandard · 17/04/2025 11:02

We don’t need ‘cis’ we don’t even need the term ‘biological woman’ anymore.

Woman is only that, how great is that ruling

Helleofabore · 17/04/2025 11:02

EasterParadeHats · 17/04/2025 11:00

What does cis stand for

It is supposed to mean ‘someone with a gender identity that matches their assigned sex at birth’

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 17/04/2025 11:01

Thankfully the judgment itself does not use this absurd term.

#cisoff

EasternStandard · 17/04/2025 11:00

Bogginsthe3rd · 17/04/2025 10:48

You won't get the job with a cover letter like that I don't think. Did you do DoE award ?

The pp is a clear post on mn, what has a cover letter got to do with it?

EasterParadeHats · 17/04/2025 11:00

What does cis stand for

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 17/04/2025 10:59

Bogginsthe3rd · 17/04/2025 10:55

Because the feelings you have are innately you. But you can describe them as you have and cannot separate yourself from them. Therefore your feelings are part of you and those feelings are those of a woman by definition. You identify as being a woman.

No I don't. Not in the way a man may identify as a woman. He is male, he has thoughts and feelings so they are male thoughts and feelings because they are being had by a male. But some men claim their feelings are women's feelings. So what are these feelings? The women's ones that most women and a handful of men have. This separate to being a woman feeling that one can have regardless of one's sex?

AnSolas · 17/04/2025 10:59

thefirebird · 17/04/2025 10:42

“Being” something is quite literally a part of a person’s identity. It’s how you would describe yourself and how others would describe you. It’s quite sad to get so hung up on this. You’re a cisgender woman. Get over it.

So you are translating the word woman to be subsitute word for human.
Can you explain what "cisgender" means if applied to humans or even other animal specie eg an elephant.
Define what puts one human into your classification but not other humans or one elephant your classification but not other elephants?