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I told him our daughter was in hospital - no message from him

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Purplerose248 · 16/04/2025 21:09

I just feel so much anger as me & my DC(1) are away and she ended up in hospital yesterday with bronchitis, I told my DP this and he just said “ oh she is in good hands then”, no follow up no asking how she is doing nothing- for two days.

He rarely asks how we are doing, he literally acts like a distant family member since we left.

He is not interested - for those thinking he is busy - he is not as he is probably just gaming all day long.

I just don’t understand how a parent can act like this.

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KarCat · 16/04/2025 21:26

If one of your good friends acted in this way would you be disappointed?
Of course you would.
And this is your child’s FATHER??
Absolutely selfish and shameful behaviour, I could never get over this personally.
I hope your little girl gets better very soon.

CoastalCalm · 16/04/2025 21:24

So he hasn’t joined you on a family holiday and is instead gaming at home and not doing any of the things he said he would do ? Tell him to pack his bags - fucktard

justanotherchangeofname · 16/04/2025 21:24

Are you asking for advice on how to leave him? Because surely that is a deal breaker

Bananalanacake · 16/04/2025 21:23

Why isn't he at work or does he work from home. Hope your little one feels better soon.

pilates · 16/04/2025 21:22

Hopefully this has given you the wake up call you need to get rid!

Seawolves · 16/04/2025 21:22

Poor little poppet, I hope she feels better soon. It's horrible watching them struggle isn't it (mum of two chronic asthmatics, spent many an hour watching my two struggle with their lungs).

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 16/04/2025 21:19

He’s a dick.

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Purplerose248 · 16/04/2025 21:18

Seawolves · 16/04/2025 21:12

I don't understand it either. How is she doing now?

Thank you for asking 🥹

Her little lungs are filled with mucus and they are inflamed.
She had fever and her coughing must be very painful for her. She has been unwell for a week now.

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Chocolate85 · 16/04/2025 21:18

Your 1 year old is in hospital and your husband is doing nothing? Not dropping everything and coming to join you? DISGUSTING behaviour and not something I could ever get past.
Im sorry OP. Do you have other support? Hoping your baby recovers quickly.

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Purplerose248 · 16/04/2025 21:14

PlumFairies · 16/04/2025 21:10

Are you separated? If not, sounds like you should be.

We are not separated - he makes me feel like we are honestly with this behaviour.
I feel like he couldn’t wait for us to leave so he can just do gaming all day long as he said he will do “projects” when we are away and guess what - he did none.

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Seawolves · 16/04/2025 21:12

I don't understand it either. How is she doing now?

gamerchick · 16/04/2025 21:11

He's your ex?
Poor bairn, I hope she's alright and you're looking after yourself.

Mrsttcno1 · 16/04/2025 21:10

Well he wouldn’t be my “DP”, he’d quickly have become an ex.

PlumFairies · 16/04/2025 21:10

Are you separated? If not, sounds like you should be.

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