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Losing my mind and considering homeschooling

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Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 18:17

Moved house to get into a specific school.
The policy is that children in catchment are prioritised. Found out today that we didn’t get in despite living in catchment when other children out of the catchment have got in. I’m genuinely unsure if there has been an administrative error or we have no choice but to appeal which is going to cost £250 . The school we have applied for is the closest and is 0.4 miles from home. The school we have been allocated is on the other side of town, almost 2 miles each way and will take 45 minutes of walking due to hills and driving would be about the same. I’m going to appeal but would I be unreasonable to homeschool and potentially change my work hours as I feel that the stress of a 3 hours of walking too and from school would be too much? I have health issues and chronic illness and couldn’t manage it guaranteed every day.

Feeling so broken and haven’t stopped crying all day.

AIBU to homeschool rather than commute if the appeal fails.

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AquaPeer · 16/04/2025 20:01

Sorry also to add- I guess it’s too soon for the local authority to publish their admissions stats?

AquaPeer · 16/04/2025 20:00

Reading the admissions criteria you’ve posted the only way the child 6 miles away could’ve got in is if they are LAC or previously LAC. I mean I guess you may not know whether they are?

unlike Other posters i think it’s v unusual for a 20 form entry to be filled after allocation to LAC and children <300m away AND there are 24 people ahead of OP on the waitlist who live closer?

according to the posted criteria distance comes before siblings. They haven’t even taken any siblings

rainbowsandinfinitesparkles · 16/04/2025 19:55

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 18:59

  1. I’m trying
  2. they have correct address and we made the application on time.
  3. The policy below

I'm local and know this school. It won't take you 40 minutes in the morning once the roadworks are done. It's a perfect storm of roadworks at the moment for the power cables for the new prison.

ThunderSnacks · 16/04/2025 19:39

Are you 0.4m towards the town centre? Could it be that the child 6 miles away is from one of the villages served by the primary school?

netflixskivving · 16/04/2025 19:39

@NowGetUp the OP said she is under category b...

homeedmam · 16/04/2025 19:36

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:05

£250 fee correct as know there are x6 out of catchment appeals to be taking place.

That's what it costs the school, not you.

Did you not get offered any of your choices?

Enko · 16/04/2025 19:36

Find put what their last distance was for your criteria. Also ask what criteria they offered out to. If they offered to the one below you. Then there was a mistake and they should rectify without an appeal.

If they offered beyond your distance. Again a mistake and they should offer without an appeal.

I would love to know the specialists comment on the charge. Never seen that before.

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 16/04/2025 19:36

Bikergran · 16/04/2025 18:56

If you have chronic health problems, you really are unlikely to be able to adequately homeschool. See if your GP will give you a letter of support citing your health issues.

This is completely untrue. I'm disabled with chronic health problems and perfectly capable of home educating my daughter, who is thriving.

NowGetUp · 16/04/2025 19:32

Looks like they only take 20 children and distance from the school is the last criteria. So if all applicants are within the catchment and some also have a sibling at the school or an EHCP or medical condition stipulating the school, or are LAC, they will be ahead of youm

So being in the catchment is a priority, but you don't appear to have any other special needs so this in combination with distance from school will have placed you behind others with higher needs.

I expect the child who lives 6 miles away is either LAC (in which case they trump everyone else and are placed top of the list, rightly so), or they are within the catchment and have some additional need (sibling, EHCP, medical need) that places them ahead of people just applying on distance.

20 places isn't many!

At my son's secondary school, which is 8 form entry (so about 250 kids per year), quite a few children living around half a mile away, did not get in.

toomuchcarrotcake · 16/04/2025 19:32

Parents don't have to pay for appeals. I think the charging information you found refers to what the school have to pay for appeals.

I'm not sure what year you are applying for year - you should be aware that for R,Yr1 and Yr2 there are Infant Class Size Rules that mean it is harder to win appeals.

If it is not an ICS Appeal then the appeal panel will be weighing up the difficulties the school face in taking an extra pupil against the reasons why you want a child to have a place at this school.

Emanresuunknown · 16/04/2025 19:30

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 18:59

  1. I’m trying
  2. they have correct address and we made the application on time.
  3. The policy below

What criteria do they apply if there are not enough places for all those who qualify against any of these criteria?

Usually it's distance?

If you genuinely think someone you know of is out of catchment and got in but you are in catchment and haven't, and there are no other circumstances at play (adoption? Ehcp?) then appeal. Nothing to lose, genuine mistakes are sometimes make. The basis of your appeal will need to be that they have not applied the admissions policy correctly.

NC18264 · 16/04/2025 19:28

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:17

Thanks so much for your advice. Already started FOI. Parents offered £250. At least I know I’m giving it everything I can.

I feel your pain. DC1 didn’t get into our catchment primary (0.4 miles away) on offers day. Our LA prioritised siblings in catchments and it was a bulge year, then other kids just happened to be closer. He did get in in the end, but we were top of the waiting list. It was a horrible few months though.

I can’t see anything on what you’re shared about straight line distance playing a role. If distance was a criteria, even for those in catchment, they’d have to state it. It’s worth looking at your school or LA admission page as to what the ‘tie break’ clause is. Sometimes, if there are more children then can be accommodated in the same priority group, it’s done on random allocation, irrespective of distance. You need to find this out.

netflixskivving · 16/04/2025 19:20

lived

netflixskivving · 16/04/2025 19:20

20 spaces. We are 25 on the priority list. Child 6 miles away has gotten in.

25 considering you are 2nd category is high. The child who loved further could be 1st category.

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:19

OP here. Just wanted to also state 6 mile away child is lovely and is main reason DC will be devastated not to get in said school.

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Aussiebear · 16/04/2025 19:19

If someone 6 miles from any school has got in they're not in the catchment criteria so just focus on your own family. They should publish how many people your distance haven't got in and sounds like you already know you're in a queue with them. I'm sorry but I think it's just how it is

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:17

NC18264 · 16/04/2025 19:15

You need to find out more information. You may have been the furthest away in catchment so missed out. As someone up thread said, it may be the children who got in out of catchment named the school on an EHCP or were previously looked after. You can request the breakdown of admissions from the LA via an FOI and it’s worth doing before you spend that money and time and emotional effort appealing. If there are no EHCPs or looked after children you will have a strong case as it appears no priority is given to siblings at all, even siblings in catchment, (which is a bit unusual).

A PAN of 20 is very very small though, I suspect you may have been unlucky even being in catchment.

Edited

Thanks so much for your advice. Already started FOI. Parents offered £250. At least I know I’m giving it everything I can.

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NC18264 · 16/04/2025 19:15

You need to find out more information. You may have been the furthest away in catchment so missed out. As someone up thread said, it may be the children who got in out of catchment named the school on an EHCP or were previously looked after. You can request the breakdown of admissions from the LA via an FOI and it’s worth doing before you spend that money and time and emotional effort appealing. If there are no EHCPs or looked after children you will have a strong case as it appears no priority is given to siblings at all, even siblings in catchment, (which is a bit unusual).

A PAN of 20 is very very small though, I suspect you may have been unlucky even being in catchment.

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:15

motheroreily · 16/04/2025 19:13

Do you know how many spaces are offered each year. It seems weird you didn't get a space as you must have been in the second category.

20 spaces. We are 25 on the priority list. Child 6 miles away has gotten in.

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motheroreily · 16/04/2025 19:13

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 18:59

  1. I’m trying
  2. they have correct address and we made the application on time.
  3. The policy below

Do you know how many spaces are offered each year. It seems weird you didn't get a space as you must have been in the second category.

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:12

NowGetUp · 16/04/2025 18:33

The people who live further away may be LAC, SEN etc.. and have been prioritised.

What is the info on the distance from school that the furthest away child lived last year. If it's more than about .8 miles then there may have been an error with them processing your application so I'd advise you to check. However, if it's a v small area and small number of kids that get on, you may simply be furthest away(?)

Know for a fact child 6 miles away got in but we didn’t. Just praying this whole thing is a mistake.

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Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:10

Aussiebear · 16/04/2025 19:02

Not all kids in any catchment get in and sadly 0.4 isn't a safe zone for a lot of schools. Why would a 2 mile drive take 40 mins? Is it really a terrible school? It's a shame but I know lots of people who waited and got their school in the end so don't panic and try the waiting list

I’d have to drive past a busy one way market town shopping area. Real ‘tourist’ spot - think Jo malone and the white company ect on the high street. Took me that time to get to swimming lessons yesterday and thought this isn’t worth it- now this.

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Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:05

NC18264 · 16/04/2025 18:42

What’s your LA’s admission criteria? Are the children that have got in out of catchment siblings of children already in school? Are there definite catchment areas or are you using that term to mean the average distance year on year?

If your LA uses set catchments and/or if siblings out of catchment are lower priority then first borns in catchment then it sounds like there has been an administrative error and you have a high likelihood of winning and appeal if you are certain you applied correctly and at the right time

Appeals are usually free. Where have you got £250 from?

£250 fee correct as know there are x6 out of catchment appeals to be taking place.

Losing my mind and considering homeschooling
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Aussiebear · 16/04/2025 19:02

Not all kids in any catchment get in and sadly 0.4 isn't a safe zone for a lot of schools. Why would a 2 mile drive take 40 mins? Is it really a terrible school? It's a shame but I know lots of people who waited and got their school in the end so don't panic and try the waiting list

Pinkjellyunicorn · 16/04/2025 19:01

Sirzy · 16/04/2025 18:29

Did you move before the cut off date for applications?

You need to check the admissions criteria for the school and can appeal if you believe there has been an error. Most schools will have looked after children, those with EHCPs and siblings before any proximity rules. Some will also have separate criteria based on religion depending on the school.

Get yourself on the waiting list for any schools locally that would be more suitable. There is often a lot of movement between now and September

Moved in time for cut off and application in on time. Posted the policy image further up. Catchment is higher up on the priority than siblings.

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