So my partner’s friend’s girlfriend is due to give birth next month and they have asked partner if he would watch their DS during the birth and for a few days after.
It wouldn’t be partner watching watching the child it would be me as OH works full time whilst I look after our kids and work part time.
Usually I would have no qualms about helping but I don’t like this particular friend at all.
When we moved in we paid him well to help us move, we always clear that he would be compensated for his time.
There were jobs that needed completing around the house and as the friend is a builder he offered to help.
My partner was adamant that instead of putting the money in someone else’s pocket to help this friend out instead.
I ended up paying a professional company to do the jobs in the end, OH was furious.
I told OH that his friend had no intention of doing the jobs as it had been going on for 8 months now and I don’t know why he just didn’t say he didn’t want to do them etc. I don’t even know why he offered if he didn’t want to do it.
All this has caused me and the kids massive issues like incomplete laminate flooring which has caused little spiders and things to come up, OH seemed fine to let our kids live like this.
I told OH I feel as if his friend mugged us off so why should I help him?
I don’t even know his DS and have never met the child, and OH is expecting me to buy them a gift for the baby to show that I’m friendly and no hard feelings, I told OH “no chance”.
Is it me AIBU genuinely to feel like this and putt foot down?