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To ask if you have a velcro cat?

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Imgonnapopsometags · 16/04/2025 14:49

I have a 7 year old female cat who I love, she's got a very gentle and affectionate nature however she is incredibly clingy.

She has outdoor access but only goes out if the weather is warm, and even then it's a couple of hours at most. She was out this morning but was meowing to come in after 10 minutes.

She likes to sit on my lap and sit next to me at all times and be petted at all times, which is lovely usually but occasionally I feel I need a break. She has toys, cat tv and so on.

Occasionally I just shut myself in my bedroom, she cries at the door for a bit but eventually stops. I can't afford a second cat, I mean yes I can afford food etc. But living on my own I can't afford two lots of insurance, pet sitter fees and vet bills.

Has anyone found other techniques for their cat? It can be tricky if i WFH too.

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declutteringonedayatatime · 16/04/2025 15:31

My male cat has turned into a part-time velcro cat now that he is a bit older. He likes to sit on my shoulder if he can and sometimes just follows me about. It is lovely sometimes but annoying if you just want to go on your laptop.

To ask if you have a velcro cat?
NImumconfused · 16/04/2025 15:26

Yes, I've got one of those, can't give you any advice though as I've never found any way to change her behaviour, I just accept being used as a human cat bed!

JoanOgden · 16/04/2025 15:23

Yes, though not quite as much as yours! I've written many papers and attended many virtual meetings with her asleep on my lap (I shut her out if it's a really senior meeting). And I'm very used to waking up with a cat asleep on my head. So I have no advice really Grin

UndermyShoeJoe · 16/04/2025 15:16

She’s not ginger is she. My ginger is a people cat not a cat cat 😅

wishiwasupahill · 16/04/2025 15:15

feel so strange reading this.

my cat is totally aloof. He can take me or leave me.

tolerates the occasional rub and seems to enjoy it but when he’s had enough, he’s had enough.

Generally likes to be alone.

he is an outdoor cat, maybe that makes a difference, I’m not sure.

i do think he likes us though. We were away in March for a long weekend, neighbour was popping in to feed him.
I lifted him up when we got back, usually he will tolerate it for a minute or two then wriggle to get down but this time I stood there holding him and stroking his fur for 15+ minutes Smile

BlackCatsAreBrilliant · 16/04/2025 15:13

My old cat was a velcro cat. She would perch on whichever part of my body was most horizontal - lap, shoulder, back, calves, etc.

I never found a solution other than accepting it.

I still miss her.

Springhassprungxx · 16/04/2025 15:08

My cat is like this op - drives me mad!!! Sorry no advice cos he is happy to be outside too.

Ponderingwindow · 16/04/2025 15:00

We have 3 cats. One of them is absolutely bonded to my dd. The cat sleeps on her, follows her around the house, and cries if she leaves the house other than to go to school.

we all try to give the cat attention. She likes playing fetch so we do that a couple of times a day.

Really though, we just accept it. My dd loves her cat and her cat loves her. That they are together almost every second dd is home just seems normal.

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Imgonnapopsometags · 16/04/2025 14:57

I just can't financially commit to a second cat sadly, I live alone and have no financial support. Also worried they may not get on.

Ive just shut the door for a little bit and she's outside crying.

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Imgonnapopsometags · 16/04/2025 14:56

Djchickpea · 16/04/2025 14:56

What is cat TV!??

It's basically birds, insects, mice etc. Appearing on the screen! It's a YouTube channel, seems quite entertaining for cats.

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CowTown · 16/04/2025 14:56

I did. I got another cat for her to hang out with.

Djchickpea · 16/04/2025 14:56

What is cat TV!??