Risky behaviour for the larger mumsnetter

I know!

I use a stick and I'm of a larger build (size 22-24). I went to rugby game recently and applied for a disabled pass so I didn't have to deal with this or the stairs/standing for any length of time . I was out in the wheelchair area. Something to maybe consider for the future if you go again?

I thought it was obvious but maybe not. I was mocking the condescending and unpleasant attitudes on MN towards plus sized women and the rampant pro-ana culture on here by suggesting that MN can be an unsympathetic place to be if you’re fat.

This - just make it factual, quoting measurements and directions to larger gates. Then people can either measure themselves or just head for the larger gates if they know they're likely to have problems. No mess, no fuss, no drama.

I’m about a size 10/12 and went to a concert at emirates stadium and the seats were tiny and luckily I was next to me dh on one side and a friend on the other as it was very cosy!

I have found a way to beat the system......just be tall!
I am 5'10 with a larger middle and slimmer legs, usually if I stand briefly on my tip toes to lift my belly up I can squeeze my legs through 😂
I hate roller coaster rides but the few times my kids have managed to drag me to a theme park I seem to just about fit in, I think its because I have relatively small boobs for a big un!!!
So, to summarise, if you are short stand in fertiliser until you grow and if you have larger bossom strap them down tight before you go anywhere!!!

I really think it’s down to you to look into it before you go, you are aware that you are larger than most and you have come across these issues in the past so you need to prepare yourself
Seats in planes / theatres cater for the vast majority of people but they can’t make all seats / turnstiles bigger just to accommodate a small number of people

Its just a sad reality of being a larger person

I go with someone who is a size 30 and we have to get aisle seats so she can at least spread a bit but it’s very cosy even for me as a size 12

Yo😐u struggle at 8stone 9lbs? Sorry but how? How must be tiny. Sorry, I'm not being unkind I'm genuinely baffled

It sounds like you could have done with knowing the dimensions of the turnstile in advance. “Please note, max width of turnstile is XX cm. Alternative accessible gate of XX cm available”

I think you’ve completely mis read this message

Hellyes. I’m 5’3” 125lb and I struggle. I have no idea how anyone bigger copes. There is nowhere for the body to go whilst closing the door. You end up sort of straddling the loo to shut the door

Except by that point they are there?

Last time I went to Alton Towers I noticed that there was a “trial seat” (not sure of the correct terminology!) in an unobtrusive corner near the ride. I saw some “people of size” trying it out in a very matter of fact way. I thought it was a good idea. I regularly go to the theatre (it’s 100 years old) and see some very large people looking quite uncomfortable.

I guess the issue is, how do you make any signage useful to people? Your ability to fit though the turnstile depends on your girth. Someone could be heavier / larger than you but due to their shape might fit through just fine. They could put the width of the gap I suppose. Would that have been useful do you think?

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Would it not to better to trust people to use their eyes and judgement than to risk the humiliation and potential uproar of literally having signs up saying 'please don't attempt to squeeze into these seats or those turnstiles as you are too fat'?!

Sorry that you had to experience that! It is important that this is discussed and brought out into the open.

Did you contact the venue and make them aware? They do have a duty to provide access and seating to everyone but if people don’t contact the venue every time this happens nothing will change.

Some airlines do have ‘customer of size’ policies.

You could try the seat review website to see what people say about that particular theatre? Some are very uncomfortable for anyone with longer legs etc.

Was it the turnstiles at Luton?

I recently went to the theatre, quite an old one. It’s not my thing at all but a relative had free tickets so asked me to go. I’m a size 22ish and I only just fit into the seat😱

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you OP. I agree that there should be some notice on the website informing people that there are alternative entrances if you are over a certain size. They should have these for cinema, planes, theatre and other places which can only accommodate up to a certain size.

I can see your point OP but it would be abit awkward to mention. Maybe venues don't want to be accused of fat shaming.
And the further back you go the smaller people were....just look at a spiral stair in a medieval castle! Built for dormice!

I think the responsibility to find out if something is suitable for you lies with you, not the venues you want to use.

Oh I see, sorry!