Can I choose how my bridemaids have their hair?

They're presumably your friends, not your barbie dolls, you are being completely unreasonable.

You are being unreasonable in wanting cloned bridesmaids. Show the hairdresser what mood you're aiming for and a good one will create variations to harmonise. It'll look much nicer and it won't make the fringe wearer miserable.

I think it's pertinent to ask though. A destination wedding is an almighty pain for most people to attend, I'd hope that Op is paying for their flights and hotel.

If not then the suggestion to clip back a fringe may send the bridesmaid over the edge!

Come on now.
There's no need to pick apart this person's whole wedding.

She's asked a question, and I suspect, got the message 12 pages ago or more, that overwhelmingly people think this is an unreasonable request.

I think we can leave it there.

@walliceandme I hope this thread has been helpful, and that you have a lovely day when your wedding comes round.

There really, really is quite a lot wrong with someone dictating how everyone has their hair done, to the level of having to disguise a fringe to look the same as the other clones bridemaids.

All this ‘it’s your day’ is such a cliche, it’s enabling Bridezilla behaviour.

Ultimately it’s one day, a party.

Why are you getting married in Italy? Are you paying for thier flights and hotel?

If you are paying I’d say it’s fine you could buy a clip so they all match

YABU. Step away from Bridezilla mode.

as a stylist I have done many wedding hair ups over the years. Yes you can ask for them all to have it up a certain way. BUT you can’t ask them to pin the fringe back! That is a little too far. Also you can only pick the hair style if you’re paying for it. As the stylist does what the client wants. If the bridesmaids paying the stylist will give whatever she asks for.

Bridezilla alert

I remember being asked to pin back my hair for a wedding. I was very uncomfortable ans never wear my hair like this as I have a long face. The requests of this particular bridezilla were endless and we were expected to pay for it all so i opted out and attended as a guest. The husband even made reference to the bridesmaids being good sports and supporting his now wife despite her controlling and aggressive attitude. She was determined in my opinion to make her bridesmaids look average at best so she would look better in comparison. Needless to say, We are no longer friends.

The only photo I can see from OP is the back of someone's head. So a fringe is a non-issue.

Also trying to figure out how you would enjoy your day more as a result of a friend wearing her hair in a way that she isn't comfortable with...

Rude, rude, rude and unnecessary.

How about 'doing with' and not 'doing to' your bridesmaids. Actually talk with them and ask their views. They need to be comfortable and happy on the day. It's not ok to tell people how to wear their hair. Relax and have a lovely wedding ☺️

First of all just ignore all the people who are calling you a bridezilla, or saying you’re rude. There’s nothing wrong with you asking all the bridesmaids to have their hair the same. I wouldn’t ask the fringe to be clipped back though.
At the end of the day it’s Your wedding and if you know all the bridesmaids well enough to ask them to be there on the day I’m sure they’ll be happy to have their hair done the same. Also it’s how you approach it, my daughter sent her bridesmaids a photo and said “I’m thinking of this for your hair, is it ok with you?”
Hope it all works out well for you and just enjoy your day

Fine, the fringe request is a bit excessive, however you could ask her and the hairstylist, presumably you will have a hair trial anyway?

If she doesn’t feel comfortable with her fringe clipped back it would be absolutely unreasonable to insist.

Just not sure what hairstyle would suit a very thick fringe

The owner of the very thick fringe' presumably likes the hairstyle they already have?!

I wouldnt clip my fringe back, I also wouldn’t have my hair up. These are styles I never ever wear because they don’t suit me and I’d find it rude that if you asked me to wear my hair in a way that int suit me and I didn’t like.
I told my bridesmaids they could do whatever they wanted with their hair, shoes, accessories. The only thing I had any say in and that we picked out together was the dresses.

Yes, very rude and very unreasonable. A woman’s hair is her crown and your bridesmaid will feel awful all day if you make her change it

I chose bridesmaids with identical hair 😂🤭.
I gave them hair accessories to wear as they chose though. I think you could ask they have the same style but maybe think how a fringe could be put back easily or to the sides. Also don't try to make them all be the same. (Mine were both the same height with similar colouring and only slightly different in size... It was not done in purpose though!)

Let them look like themselves, not like you want them to

Bridezilla’s, like you, can ask for what they want. In the same way people can bitch about you behind your back if they want.

It’s all they’ll be talking about I think.

The number of weddings I’ve been to that were ruined, RUINED I tell you, by a rogue fringe

You beat me to it.

This is another level of bridezilla-ness.

OP. You’re having a day to marry the person you love, and to celebrate that surrounded by friends and family. That’s all that matters in the end. Congratulations and enjoy your day.