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Can I choose how my bridemaids have their hair?

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walliceandme · 16/04/2025 11:49

Genuine question, getting married and want my bridemaids to all have the same hair - all of their hair is long so it'll be easy but one has a thick fringe and would it be rude if I asked her to have a hairstyle that clips it back? I want them all to have their hair like this but unsure how it'll work with a full fringe? AIBU?

Can I choose how my bridemaids have their hair?
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MrsDThaskala · 16/04/2025 11:51

Can’t see why not. I think it would work with a fringe. Just to be fair though, you can suggest it, but it’s quite nice to allow some individuality, assuming they all have the same dress. I like it so I’d say yes.

missedtherainbow · 16/04/2025 11:50

Are you paying for them to have their hair done?

Maddy70 · 16/04/2025 11:50

Ask them if they would be ok with it. Individually, they many have an issue eh very conscious of big forehead or something.

AnotherHappyCamper · 16/04/2025 11:50

It's rude and also very silly.

PoorPhaedra · 16/04/2025 11:50

Does it really matter how they have their hair???

andtheworldrollson · 16/04/2025 11:50

Think you are getting carried away with it all

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 16/04/2025 11:50

It would be rude to ask her to pin back her fringe.