This is my first time using Mumsnet!!
For quick context, my ex husband was put away for committing a crime against one of our children. I filed for divorce and had to move closer to my family for support, since then I have been solely caring for my kids and have had no contact with him. I have told him that if he wanted access to the children he would need to go down the correct channels and it would be supervised due to the nature of his crime. I have heard nothing for a year and a half then out of the blue I had a call which I hung up on followed by a message through a friend stating that he will have full access as of the 5th May and he wants to see his kids. Further to that he said there is no “correct channels” that it would need to be sorted between us!? This scared me so much as unfortunately he was extremely narcissistic during our 15 year marriage and mentally abusive! I’ve only just built up our lives from scratch and I’m afraid this is going to affect my kids negatively.
He currently does not pay any maintenance and hasn’t done at all!
please help me I don’t know what direction to go!!