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GP appointment for 18 month old not walking?

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oaktree79 · 16/04/2025 07:52

Would I be unreasonable to book an appointment to check all is well? DS is not walking yet, so I’m torn between getting him checked or just waiting it out (he’s just turned 18 months). I’m wary of ‘wasting’ a slot someone else may need, but also know the NHS advice is 18 months.

For context:
-DS pulls to stand confidently and easily
-cruises along various furniture
-squats to pick up toys (whilst holding furniture for support)
-Is a very speedy ‘typical’ style crawler
-stands for a few seconds independently
-will take a few steps whilst holding our hands
-has very good language (maybe a ‘talker not a walker?!’)

He clearly wants to walk so it’s such a shame for him! What would you do in this situation?!

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LuluDelulu · 16/04/2025 08:03

My DD was also a late walker and now at 20 months walks great — alongside speaking in full sentences and holding a full conversation. I really do think some do focus on language first over movement.

BogRollBOGOF · 16/04/2025 08:03

I'd get it checked as a precaution. It's probably fine, but if there are other issues down the line, a paper trail can be useful.

DS spent 4 months looking ready to walk- pulling up, cruising, climbing but just would not let go and walk solo. Then suddenly he took 16 steps across the room at toddler group, nice and steady.
I think it was one small dot of what eventually led to his autism and dyspraxia dignoses years later. He is also hypermobile which I think explains why he wasn't a keen walker as a toddler- years later he explained that his knees hurt.

What did help him was getting a very flimsy dolls buggy to push. He would walk with the sturdy baby walker, but the buggy gave him the illusion and security of holding something but in reality was too light to give support. He was walking within days of getting it.

MagAmberson · 16/04/2025 08:02

My son was 20 months before he started walking, I was worried but I just don't think he was bothered when he could crawl everywhere

oaktree79 · 16/04/2025 08:02

TheBlueShark · 16/04/2025 07:59

first, see your Health Advisor. They can refer you to physio if there’s an underlying issue. If they think it’s more serious, send your GP so they can refer you to an orthopedist. My son was slow to walk and his nursery were more concerned than we were. He was doing all the things your little one is now and started walking at 18.5 months. I also recommended getting walker or push along toys to encourage them a little more

Thank you! I did mention it to the Nursery as they’ve obviously seen a lot more babies than me. They weren’t concerned at all but I wasn’t sure if that was just them being kind!

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Lascivious · 16/04/2025 08:00

I’d leave it for now.

Neither of mine walked until 17 months. Eldest was a bum shuffler, younger a speedy crawler.

And both were speaking in full sentences. So
maybe it is one or the other 🤷‍♀️

oaktree79 · 16/04/2025 07:59

Thank you everyone, that’s reassuring! My brother and I were both very late walkers too. In fact my brother went for all kinds of tests before the doctor confirmed he was just a ‘lazy git.’ 😂 So I’m trying not to get too anxious!

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TheBlueShark · 16/04/2025 07:59

first, see your Health Advisor. They can refer you to physio if there’s an underlying issue. If they think it’s more serious, send your GP so they can refer you to an orthopedist. My son was slow to walk and his nursery were more concerned than we were. He was doing all the things your little one is now and started walking at 18.5 months. I also recommended getting walker or push along toys to encourage them a little more

Pottedpalm · 16/04/2025 07:58

To walk independently arms are needed for balance, so holding hands doesn’t promote that, though it gets them
moving. Just my observation, not a professional 🙂

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 16/04/2025 07:58

He is walking if he is cruising just hasn't worked up the confidence to let go yet. That will come. My dd2 started walking holding toys in the air think she thought it was holding her up, she did that for ages before finally going it alone. The squatting suggests his legs are strong

Lostworlds · 16/04/2025 07:57

He sounds exactly like my little one, some times they just need a bit more time. If he wasn’t standing at all and doing some of the things you’ve mentioned then I would take him but right now I’d wait a little bit longer.

SummerIce · 16/04/2025 07:57

Sounds like he is very much heading there so a GP appointment would be premature. Just give it time. DS is 17 months and very much in the same boat and I have no concerns about him, he’s just a few months behind, that’s all. Don’t worry too much about milestones and ages.

oaktree79 · 16/04/2025 07:57

noworklifebalance · 16/04/2025 07:54

Sounds like they are doing all the right things so just a matter of time. I would have been concerned if they were not pulling to stand, cruising etc. Were all other physical milestones ok? Do they show hand preference?
If yes and no, then maybe a chat with the HV would be enough?

Edited

Thank you for replying! He was on the later end of rolling, sitting and crawling but not to this extent. He doesn’t have a hand preference as such yet, but his grip and mark marking are much efficient with his left!

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Loup19863 · 16/04/2025 07:57

I’d wait it out. I don’t think this requires a GP app in the kindest possible way. If he’s able to stand, cruise, walk holding hands etc I’d say very soon he’ll be off walking, sometimes it’s just a confidence thing. I’ve had 2 nephews who haven’t walked until 20 months and 22 months. If you’re really worried you could contact your health visitor? My guess is though he’ll do it when he’s ready 🙂

Bushmillsbabe · 16/04/2025 07:57

I would give it another couple months, and then ask gp for a referral to paediatric physio if no progress. And definitely avoid sit in baby walkers, but push along ones can be helpful to gain confidence

pinkdelight · 16/04/2025 07:56

I’d give it a bit longer yet.

underhedges · 16/04/2025 07:55

I wouldn't worry. My ds crawled for ages. He knew he was much quicker crawling so didn't want to slow himself down by walking. Your ds is showing all the signs of progress and I would just encourage walking with him by holding hands. He'll get it very soon!

Genevieva · 16/04/2025 07:55

Give it a few months. My eldest wasn’t walking at 18 months either. Like yours, he had other ways of getting around.

noworklifebalance · 16/04/2025 07:54

Sounds like they are doing all the right things so just a matter of time. I would have been concerned if they were not pulling to stand, cruising etc. Were all other physical milestones ok? Do they show hand preference?
If yes and no, then maybe a chat with the HV would be enough?