For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

From what you describe, the wedding is part of a wider symptom of this family and their unreasonable behaviour. So inaction will mean another issue further down the line if you just ride it out.

OK, I think this changes things somewhat.

You should speak to your other neighbours and all of you should get together and keep a diary of all their antisocial behaviour.

Include the complaint about them blocking your neighbour out of and then into their drive, and their abusive language when asked to move.

Include all the details of the wedding every night, when it started, when it stopped, how loud the music was, how many cars were parked in the street, any litter, any angry exchanges with the neighbours.

Make a note of every single time the groom goes zooming round the block in his boy racer at 2am.

That way you're not just one person complaining about a wedding, you're a whole group of neighbours complaining about a consistent pattern of antisocial behaviour.

The council probably have their two week rule so they don't have to deal with anything that resolves itself within two weeks. This wedding will be over by next week but your neighbours will still be there and they still still continue to behave like arseholes, so fight fire with fire.

Don’t go round there, dont complain to the council, don’t do anything. Just ride it out. It’s 4 days. Sounds so defeatist but honestly it’s the best way to maintain your stress levels and health longer term.

Saying this after 4 years of hell with a neighbour that ended up in court.

Unfortunately @Tryinghardtobefair your DH can’t have it both ways. Either he steps up and rings the number he’s been given to ask them to keep the noise down after 10pm, or he sucks it up including the impact on his health (and the impact on you).

No one gets a prize for being a martyr. It sounds terrible and over the top (and not like any Hindu wedding I’ve been to, though admittedly they were 35 years ago).

We had one of these on our street a few yrs ago. It's a Cultral thing and that's just how they do it. I kind of liked the vibe of it, there was glitter all over the roads loud thumping music till 3am with very loud singing and stomping. One of the songs sticks in my head it goes something like this : THE FLOOR THE FLOOR THE FLOOR IS ON FIRE! at 3 am 😆 went on about a week.

You're far more tolerant than me OP. I'd have been looking for a way to cause a power cut 😂

For one night I would grit my teeth and use ear plugs, but a week is insane.

I lived in Hounslow for decades and most of my neighbours were South Asian. Lots of weddings and parties but very few with that level of noise that late. There was one once where we got the same sort of note about a week long event but in the end it was one long night. One shorter night and then quiet.

Even their family will have older people and children who couldn’t tolerate a week of all night partying.

My Asian neighbours were generally wonderful. Sorry yours are arseholes.

We live in a predominantly South Asian Muslim community and have never had loud partying through the night for a wedding. There’s often late night fireworks (some woke me at 1am last night) but our neighbours are very respectful and hire venues for their festivities.

They’ve given you a note about noise so I’d use the details on there first. If you feel able to go round, try and go when some of their guests are present - it doesn’t look good disrespecting your neighbours in front of your new family.

Absolutely nailed it here. So selfish of them.

They won't mind been told.

Possibly embarrassed by the impact. If you don't tell them they won't know.

Well they’ve provided their number and asked people to contact them if any concerns so why wouldn’t your DH want you to do that? I’d be polite but ask they stop the music by 11pm, which is perfectly reasonable as you have work and cannot sleep. Entirely unreasonable to disrupt a whole street for a week.

Oh my God OP what a nightmare.
At first I was on the fence and thought hmmm, it's a week then it will end, they are probably lovely people, let them enjoy their week long happy celebrations.
But after reading your updates about them shouting and arguing with their neighbours, blocking their neighbour out of their driveway, then blocking them IN to their driveway (imagine if the neighbour had an emergency and needed to urgently drive somewhere but was blocked in by them?), and driving a loud sportscar around your cul de sac late at night, they actually sound like inconsiderate nightmares.
Go round there now, at 7am, and stand there banging non stop on their door as loudly as you can until they wake up and answer the door. Then tell them you are going to bang loudly on their door at 6am every morning until it wakes them up.
Do it every day.
I mean it.
Given the description of their characters, I really would be round there waking them up at 6am daily.
They should have hired out a hall or pub room every night for a week.
Your poor DD! It must becwaking her up at night and it is spoiling her Easter holidays! And your poor DH. And poor you. Tell your DH that being a people pleaser allows CFs to get away with shitty behaviour.

This is a really sensible and balanced response OP. Try this, no one could be upset by this approach (including DH)

Get some earplugs. I can't believe you're looking into speaking to the council before you speak to them?!

This! You can't use the "Oh, but this is how we do it" excuse when the behaviour is disruptive and antisocial.
OP I would go over and talk to these cf. Are there other neighbours who could come witj you? Our local police would definitely go over to tell them to calm down.

I’d be annoyed re noise and traffic, but also I love a wedding and people watching so I’d be looking at people coming and going/different cultural practices and the music.
I think I’d cope for 5 days. Earplugs and doing my own thing.

Wow

Has to e OP actually said the music has been going on for more than 1 night?

Utterly ridiculous comment

I’d go round with a wedding card, congratulate them on their marriage, say you hope they enjoy their celebrations but it was supper loud last night and you hope, for your health, it’s not quite so loud every night. Be nice, but let them know the music was disruptively loud. Then buy some ear plugs in preparation for them being selfish all week, just incase.

An Asian myself - and family weddings are a week long affair

They are being ridiculously selfish: if they want to party late into the night they should be hiring a venue!

It is likely that night 1 will be loud (the kickoff/invitations), there will also be a sangeet (singing /dancing night, probably night before the wedding) and the actual wedding: but these should be in a venue you would hope!

I think you should go round & say that your family have been unable to sleep so ask what their plans are and agree a reasonable cut off time

I agree that disrupting a whole street is unreasonable but this sounds like a selfish family, not all Asians are like this !

Their note asked you to notify them, but you’ve still tried to go around them to the council. Message them in the morning, and if it’s loud past 11 message them.

I’ve left those notes for neighbours when I was in an apartment hosting and always glad when someone knocked/happily told my guests to tone it down. I see you’re worried about them getting aggressive but that doesn’t seem likely from a single polite
message

I am Asian. There is no reason to have loud celebrations for a week that disturb neighbours. They are being selfish. I would contact them asap. No excuse for this. Sending a nice letter in advance doesn’t get them off the hook.

As a one-off I’d let it go, but a whole week is ridiculous. You are totally not being unreasonable.