For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

Weird derail about OPs husband.

It's not reasonable that the neighbours have basically said we're going to be antisocial for a week, if you dont like it, text.

Unlike these neighbours, most people don't want to potentially get into conflict with neighbours so are unlikely to complain despite the impact it will have on them because who knows what will happen?

Are they going to adjust their behaviour or are they going to think 'no 44 have complained, well they were warned so tough shit'. Because that's often why people post those letters, not because they give a shit or will change anything but just so they can say 'well we did our bit and warned them, it's their problem now'.

I'm a woman living alone and would never feel safe complaining about neighbours to them.

And when I lived with a partner and had horrifically antisocial noisy neighbours and DP politely knocked on the door they'd say yeah mate we'll turn it down then turn it up and you could hear the party-goers cheering and laughing.

Why don’t you get a grip and have a go at being remotely intelligible? There is no excuse for keeping people awake for days on end. Plain selfish and entitled. So what if it’s a wedding? A wedding doesn’t negate other people’s right to a peaceful life whether they inform you or not. You can’t just break laws because you’ve told everyone you’re going to do it first. What an idiotic comment. How about we pop round and keep you awake for the same duration of time - it’ll only be a one off so I’m sure you’ll be delighted and more than accommodating.

OP I second ringing your council and explaining this is planned and deliberate with many people involved. This goes beyond the normal scope of noisy neighbour complaints. I would also get advice from 101.

Really hope for your sake it's not like the Asian weddings we get in our area OP because it will be fireworks that sound like WW3 next if so. The police did eventually come out to the last one but we'd already had 3 nights of loud music, speeding sports cars doing laps at 2am and the aforementioned fireworks by then and think the volume of calls they received must have forced them to attend as the whole neighbourhood was raging about it.

For one night, I'd suck it up, but a few nights, no. I had my own wedding in the back garden and my neighbours were nothing but lovely.

what - crash someone else's wedding and "enjoy it"? I am sure if they wanted OP and her family there, they would have invited them.

Enjoy 5 nights of broken/ no sleep? What a stupid comment

It would be difficult for me, I don’t like excessive noise, I do empathise. BUT you have been given the option to let them know and seem to be being a little strange saying you will not contact them because you doubt the groom will look at his phone. That is assumption otherwise why would he have offered. You say your husband will not let you approach the groom, it does not need to be a complaint just an “ oh my gosh it was loud and the singing is a bit much!”. Do you always let your husband decide on anything you do? It sounds perhaps as though your husband is less concerned than you say he is. Could he not use ear plugs upstairs?

Five days is over the top and it's unreasonable for the council to ask you to sort it out amicably. Some people are afraid to approach neighbours about this kind of thing contact you neighbours and ask them to reduce the noise for the remainder of the time and see what they do. Good luck. I'd have said one night is ok, two at a push but NOT FIVE!

Obviously YANBU. The selfishness of some people is almost unbelievable at times.

We had neighbours who did this sort of thing all the time and we had the same issues from the police and council not getting involved. In the end I called the police and told them they were doing drugs in the garden and when they came out they stopped the party. Also turned out that they were growing weed in the attic and had bypassed the meter to get free electricity so they got done for that too. I enjoyed watching that out my window.

How is this relevant? Yes, they should ask for the noise to be at a minimum after say 11pm, but stating that it’s an Asian wedding in the UK doesn’t mean anything.

Seriously. Get a grip. It's a wedding. They politely informed you of what was happening and a contact in case it was a problem. It's a one off. Get a grip

Some of the posts here are very’pick me’ try hard to the point of embarrassment and also sound a little bit condescending.
Reminds me of a very right on well off white middle class aunt of mine that used to fall over herself with delight whenever she realised one of our friends was black or gay. She had a Pakistani cleaner that she referred to as if they were mates and used to encourage her to bring her kids like some little social experiment for her culturally closeted kids.
I know it’s well intended but seriously these people do not sound like nice people at all based on OP updates and antisocial behaviour is exactly that and has the same negative impact whoever is the perpetrator and whatever their reasons.

I agree with PP that it’s manipulative to send a note putting all responsibility on the neighbours to complain and try and manage as if they have no control whatsoever of the noise they are making.

Ring the police tonight OP if it was a 15 year old having a house party they’d attend and shut it down.

I wonder how many other neighbours are going to complain?

I think this is very fair on your part

Someone’s race isn’t an excuse for antisocial behaviour, which is what this is. They should’ve chosen a private venue (not their house) if they wanted to party all week. Speak to the council today and say that there’ll be parties all week lasting to the early hours of the morning.

1 or 2 days I could manage but a week is abit long… I’d just be polite and contact them just airing your concerns and that you don’t wish to spoil anything but could they be more considerate

Why is 'Asian" (whatever that is supposed to mean as if Asia is a mono-culture) anti- social behaviour acceptable when any other plain old anti-social behaviour isn't?

If it's not about partying then they don't need blaring music at all times, do they? 😉

11pm seems like a very reasonable time for the music to be quieter, especially on a week night (or consecutive week nights)

Ooh I love Asian wedding celebrations, they really do know how to party lol

I know it's inconvenient and frustrating for you guys, however, it is 5 days and other than talking to them to try to reach some compromise there's not much you can do

It's certainly worth asking - it may be less noisy after the first night - I'm sure even the party goers will get tired. If not, definitely get earplugs or noise cancelling headphones so you can get some sleep.

Agree, OP this family sound aggressive and violent unfortunately so this might be the best way

YANBU OP I would report to the council or police, depending which is best in your area.