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For thinking that you shouldn't impose your celebrations on the entire street?

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Tryinghardtobefair · 16/04/2025 00:29

We had a letter through the door yesterday from a house on our cul-de-sac. It informed us that they will be having wedding celebrations from the 14th-21st April, and that there may be increased cars and loud music but they will try to keep disruption to a minimum. They apologised in advance for any inconvenience caused. They've left their number so people can let them know if they have any concerns.

The music and bad singing is so loud that I can hear it in every single room of the house including the back bedrooms, despite the fact that they live at the top of the cul-de-sac and I live at the bottom so our gardens face in completely different directions.

My husband is sleeping downstairs because it's the only way to somewhat escape it and he has to work. As I've typed this the music has been ramped up so high that I can hear it word for word through closed double glazing. I'm at least 5 houses away.

If it was one night I wouldn't be bothered about it, but there's another 5 nights to go, and clearly the party isn't winding down because the music keeps getting louder. I just don't think it's fair that this is being imposed on the entire street for a week.

AIBU?

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NeringaCS · 16/04/2025 00:52

Redglitter · 16/04/2025 00:36

I think I'd bite the bullet tonight and contact them tomorrow & tell them it was way too loud. The fact they've contacted you would suggest they'll be reasonable

Who needs a weeks worth of celebrations tho

Possibly an Asian wedding? They’re often a week long with multiple events, so there may be a cultural aspect.

Mykittensaremyfriends · 16/04/2025 00:51

Just go and speak to them tomorrow and ask if they can reduce the noise levels after a set time. They have done the decent thing already so should be approachable.

For those commenting who celebrates a wedding for a week it's common in some cultures and no different to any other traditions in this country or others where things are celebrated by sectors of the community.

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Tryinghardtobefair · 16/04/2025 00:50

PinataHeeHaw · 16/04/2025 00:45

You can contact an out of hours noise nuisance person at the council.

We don't have one - Our councils noise complaints says we should try to sort it amicably and keep a noise diary for two weeks before contacting them. There's no out of hours team.

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PinataHeeHaw · 16/04/2025 00:45

You can contact an out of hours noise nuisance person at the council.

MissJoGrant · 16/04/2025 00:44

This sounds like a great reason to have your own party!

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Tryinghardtobefair · 16/04/2025 00:41

PermanentTemporary · 16/04/2025 00:36

No I don't think it's fair and tbh if I were you I'd arrange to go and stay elsewhere for a week.

We don't have the money to just up and leave for a week. DH is working and DD has Easter clubs that she's really excited to do so I also don't want to pay to stay a couple of miles down the road. I will likely contact them tomorrow, because I don't really want to deal with this for 5 nights. They have ongoing issues with their neighbour and I saw her sticking her head out of the window a couple of times when I went to the bin earlier so I'm secretly hoping she will address it first because they're constantly arguing about something or other.

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Tryinghardtobefair · 16/04/2025 00:37

Newmeagain · 16/04/2025 00:33

No, that’s not really reasonable for one night, let alone multiple nights. I would definitely make a noise complaint asap.

I checked my council and they say we have to try to resolve it amicably and then do a noise diary if it carries on. Our police don't deal with it and are very clear they don't. There doesn't seem to be a way to report excessive noise when it's actually happening 🤔

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Redglitter · 16/04/2025 00:36

I think I'd bite the bullet tonight and contact them tomorrow & tell them it was way too loud. The fact they've contacted you would suggest they'll be reasonable

Who needs a weeks worth of celebrations tho

PermanentTemporary · 16/04/2025 00:36

No I don't think it's fair and tbh if I were you I'd arrange to go and stay elsewhere for a week.

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Tryinghardtobefair · 16/04/2025 00:33

Redglitter · 16/04/2025 00:32

So have you contacted them to let them know

DH won't let me because we're relatively new on the street. I also suspect that the groom won't be checking his phone.

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Newmeagain · 16/04/2025 00:33

No, that’s not really reasonable for one night, let alone multiple nights. I would definitely make a noise complaint asap.

Redglitter · 16/04/2025 00:32

So have you contacted them to let them know

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