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Just a couple of pints....

31 replies

Oldmouse · 15/04/2025 22:28

My OH went to the pub at half 4 and is still out now, clearly drunk.

It's his first day off of some leave and we've come to visit my family for a couple of days. Didn't come home after 'a couple of pints' despite my family member cooking dinner for us all.

Not the first time he's done this, can't stand it when he's drunk and he talks crap and is obviously going to be useless tomorrow when we're meant to be having a day out somewhere with family and our children.

I'm a teacher and just feel like I'm treated like free childcare during the school holidays.

I'm having to wait up for him because he doesn't have a key to get in the house. I don't mind him going out but why lie about going for a couple when he literally cannot have a couple and has to have 10+ pints?! He could have taken a key...if we were at home and he did it I'd leave a key under the mat but can't do that at someone else's house!

Just a rant really. I could quite easily have gone to get an hour ago. FFS.

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FrazzledHippy · 15/04/2025 23:10

He's out alone drinking to excess? I think he's got a problem OP! I don't know anyone who loves a drink that much they'd stay in a pub for several hours - and pints - alone!

Waterlilysunset · 15/04/2025 23:07

So he’s drinking solo or with strangers. How bloody awful for you OP

Maitri108 · 15/04/2025 23:05

I'm sorry OP, it's an awful situation and there's no pain like being treated with contempt. It's obvious that this is just scratching the surface.

Oldmouse · 15/04/2025 23:02

We all went to the pub for a drink at half 4.... literally one drink. My dad stayed with OH for a second pint and then he came home. OH has been out on his own since then.

Tried to get me to drive to pick him up now, I've told him to get a taxi. He sounded so drunk.

He made me feel shit for a whole day over the weekend because I had £100 less than him left of our individual disposable monthly money. I bet he's spent nearly that this evening.

Think I've finally had enough.....I could list dozens of things I'm not happy with.

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DDivaStar · 15/04/2025 22:51

Who is he out with if you're visiting your family ? Very rude. But I'd leave a key under a plant pot. Or just tell him to not bother visiting you're family and just go home.

Maitri108 · 15/04/2025 22:41

I wouldn't wait up for him. I've got no patience for some selfish arse spending family money down the pub. I doubt this is his only flaw.