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Bumcheeks fully on show at family attraction

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 20:34

Today I was at a local attraction aimed at young families. It's an outdoor attraction with a zoo, a few tame rides, a soft play, that sort of thing. Aimed at kids under 10.

There were two teenage girls there, probably about 16, didn't appear to be with anyone else, who were wondering around looking at the animals. One of them had on the shortest "skirt" imaginable. When I say bum cheeks were on show, I don't just mean a peek or a little glimpse. I mean the "skirt" ended almost at the top of her arse. It's truly was like a belt. Not only that but she was wearing a thong and fishnet tights. You could see her entire bum, and things were only just decent around the front.
She and her friend must have noticed quite a few shocked glances and maybe whispered comments because her friend said loudly "well that's THEIR problem isn't it"

Is it? AIBU to think its entirely inappropriate?

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Nowdontmakeamess · 15/04/2025 21:31

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:02

Honestly, my first thought was "I can't believe they let her in"

Basically naked from the waist down is right. There was just about enough cloth to stop her being arrested.

There was genuinely more material on her footwear.

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I think that’s what needs to start happening, places need to have a clear dress code and enforce it. Seems to be getting more common eg swimming pools, family parks etc Few months ago there was a porn star thrown out of Disneyland, she’d done it to get a video/views - girls will want to follow the trend/push boundaries etc but there have to be clear rules. Nothing wrong with them having to learn acceptable behaviour in public.

MrsSunshine2b · 15/04/2025 21:31

It's a bum. Your children will doubtless go on to lead happy and productive lives with no lasting effects. They probably won't even require therapy to overcome their ordeal.

Galaxybisc · 15/04/2025 21:30

Many teenagers are just gross. I’ve seen a lot of them this past week….vaping, swearing, wearing chavy looking sweats and being crude. Ugh.

Firenzeflower · 15/04/2025 21:30

Are you the g string swimming person?

TheBuffetInspector · 15/04/2025 21:28

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:23

Yeah, but I signed up to see animal arses 😄

I expected the human ones to be covered.

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I so wanted to edit that so it only said

Yeah, but I signed up to see animal arses

I'm not sure they should have let you in. Knickers or no knickers 🤣

I've heard about that sort of thing. I don't like that either!

JoyDreamer86 · 15/04/2025 21:26

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:24

“up to the point when it crosses the line of public decency.”

This doesn’t mean anything though does it? We don’t live in Iran where they have decency police (thank god)

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So your ok with people walking around naked? You say there should be no line of decency. And people having sex in public, at the zoo in front of kids, is that ok for decency?

Calliopespa · 15/04/2025 21:26

Are you sure it wasn’t a baboon?

ThisFluentBiscuit · 15/04/2025 21:25

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/04/2025 20:49

Yuk. I don’t want to see the arse crack of anyone I’m not either sleeping with or changing the nappy of.

Why do people think it’s remotely attractive?

It makes me want to sing this song:

This is absolutely brilliant! I love Amy Schumer!

EveryOtherNameTaken · 15/04/2025 21:24

A club yes. A zoo, no.

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:24

Duckyfondant · 15/04/2025 21:18

So can men get their arses out at the kids zoo too?

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Men do all the time

Onleemoi · 15/04/2025 21:24

Men often walk around topless and/or with their trousers down so their arse is showing. Stop staring and go about your day.

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:24

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:22

They should be free to dress as they like, up to the point when it crosses the line of public decency.

Honestly, even just a decent pair of knickers would have been enough.

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“up to the point when it crosses the line of public decency.”

This doesn’t mean anything though does it? We don’t live in Iran where they have decency police (thank god)

TheBuffetInspector · 15/04/2025 21:23

Duckyfondant · 15/04/2025 21:18

So can men get their arses out at the kids zoo too?

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Men have their arses, bellies and hairy backs out whenever they fancy.

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:23

TheBuffetInspector · 15/04/2025 21:22

Probably turn around to find a big baboons bright red arse in your eye line.

I don't like those either 🤣

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Yeah, but I signed up to see animal arses 😄

I expected the human ones to be covered.

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:22

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:16

It’s only a bum, let’s not blame young women for our own lack of comfort with what they’ve chosen to wear. They should be free to dress as they like

They should be free to dress as they like, up to the point when it crosses the line of public decency.

Honestly, even just a decent pair of knickers would have been enough.

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TheBuffetInspector · 15/04/2025 21:22

LindtDorLabrador · 15/04/2025 21:12

You notice it and it doesn't even register because who cares? You're at the zoo, duvet your eyes to the tigers.

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Probably turn around to find a big baboons bright red arse in your eye line.

I don't like those either 🤣

Duckyfondant · 15/04/2025 21:18

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:16

It’s only a bum, let’s not blame young women for our own lack of comfort with what they’ve chosen to wear. They should be free to dress as they like

So can men get their arses out at the kids zoo too?

TheBuffetInspector · 15/04/2025 21:18

EmeraldRoulette · 15/04/2025 21:13

Agree
The poster who mentioned the Kylie Minogue video, that's not a valid comparison. It's a music video.

Nowadays, if it's school holidays, I see a lot of arses! put them away. Kind of like "no shoes, no shirt - no service" in the USA.

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So you completely missed my point about music now (and videos) and the Kylie video being old and tame in comparison.
Although I know a lot of men who still look back fondly with a glazed look on their face.
Sorry? What?

CleaningAngel · 15/04/2025 21:17

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 20:34

Today I was at a local attraction aimed at young families. It's an outdoor attraction with a zoo, a few tame rides, a soft play, that sort of thing. Aimed at kids under 10.

There were two teenage girls there, probably about 16, didn't appear to be with anyone else, who were wondering around looking at the animals. One of them had on the shortest "skirt" imaginable. When I say bum cheeks were on show, I don't just mean a peek or a little glimpse. I mean the "skirt" ended almost at the top of her arse. It's truly was like a belt. Not only that but she was wearing a thong and fishnet tights. You could see her entire bum, and things were only just decent around the front.
She and her friend must have noticed quite a few shocked glances and maybe whispered comments because her friend said loudly "well that's THEIR problem isn't it"

Is it? AIBU to think its entirely inappropriate?

Are you sure they weren't hookers !!??

AquaPeer · 15/04/2025 21:16

It’s only a bum, let’s not blame young women for our own lack of comfort with what they’ve chosen to wear. They should be free to dress as they like

LindtDorLabrador · 15/04/2025 21:14

SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:11

So you're just OK with bare arse cheeks in public? Any time, any where?
You'd be OK with your child's class teacher wandering around the school with her bum fully out, would you?
Because what harm is she doing, really?

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God you sound unhinged to be honest, why are you this worked up over two teenagers wearing skimpy clothes? Yeah I literally don't care at all what literal teenage girls show off, it's up to them and they're not the first or last to make a fashion faux pas at that age. And lmfao my child's teacher wouldn't be a 16 year old at the zoo in the holidays would she? daft...

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SpringSunshineanddaffodils · 15/04/2025 21:14

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/04/2025 21:00

I wouldn’t want to sit on a cafe seat after her, for a start 🤢

I know right? Sweaty arse crack on the seats. Nice.

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Duckyfondant · 15/04/2025 21:14

If they're old enough to choose to wear that outfit in public, they're old enough for me to tell them to put their arse away.

It is trickier with the wider acceptance of those ugly thong bikinis now though. Bum cheek exposure is becoming normalised.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/04/2025 21:13

LindtDorLabrador · 15/04/2025 21:12

You notice it and it doesn't even register because who cares? You're at the zoo, duvet your eyes to the tigers.

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Most people care. It’s how our society works.

There’s even a metaphor “To cover one’s arse.”

Because having it hanging out is embarrassing.

EmeraldRoulette · 15/04/2025 21:13

BlueEyedBogWitch · 15/04/2025 20:58

We’ve always covered our secondary sexual characteristics when out in public. It’s normal. I don’t want to be seeing anyone’s arsehole when they bend to tie their shoelaces. That doesn’t make me a prude. It makes me a person who doesn’t like seeing strangers’ arses.

Agree
The poster who mentioned the Kylie Minogue video, that's not a valid comparison. It's a music video.

Nowadays, if it's school holidays, I see a lot of arses! put them away. Kind of like "no shoes, no shirt - no service" in the USA.

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