To be annoyed at work colleagues

Easter egg hunts are fun in and of themselves and kids get chocolate at the end.

Why on earth would that be a sponsored thing?

This is really just 'please give me some money for this random charity so I don't look bad at my daughter's school'.

Most people give a portion of their income to charities of their choosing and would not give extra to a colleague's daughter for doing an Easter egg hunt (which most kids do, and are rewarded with chocolate!)

You mention they are doing a raffle, but this is totally different if it is for a work chosen charity and organised by work colleagues.

If it was sponsoring you personally, then I could see why you might feel a little peeved. However, it is for your child who most of your colleagues will barely know (if at all!).

The only time I have sponsored a work colleagues child is where I am close friends with the colleague and also know the child. I'm impressed you got two to be honest!

YABU

I am surprised you were allowed to ask at work when it's not you directly who is doing the thing being sponsored.

I spent 7 years doing nursery runs and our nursery never asked parents for any kind of sponsorship. If they had I would have just put money in myself, there's no way I would have taken it to work for colleagues to sponsor some random-to-them child !

I don’t understand why you thought this was appropriate.

My husband and I were once away working, and our daughter forgot to bring her form home in plenty of time and instead brought it home that night, when we weren’t there (she was with Granny). Suggestion from her friend was not to worry ‘just get your Granny to put in £100 or £200 from her business’. Her Granny doesn’t have a business, and we laughed quite hard at the assumption that everyone has businesses to sponsor them (it is a private school). We told her to put £20 on the form, transferred said £20 to Granny, sent it in and that was that! To the best of my knowledge, my child’s prospects have not suffered (however if she doesn't get into Oxbridge then I will fully blame the £20 lowly sponsorship for influencing the quality of reference school give her).

My son had a sponsored Easter event this yr too - I got a couple of pounds sponsors from my parents / sister / his dad and my self. £10-£15 is fine.

To be honest unless it was something later in my sons life and he was doing something that was actually difficult / where had to really put some effort in and for a good cause, I don't think I'd ask my work colleagues to sponsor him, and even then probably the 2-3 people who I would consider a friend rather than just a colleague.

Are you being unreasonable? Yes.

You are being unreasonable on all counts.

It’s really not the done thing to seek sponsorship in the workplace. It’s a hard no
Colleagues quite rightly don’t care that little Jess is doing a sponsored whatever

I don’t think you can compare a collection for a colleagues retirement sponsorship for a colleague’s kids nursery

Your colleagues will have had a relationship with the person leaving. They don’t have a relationship with your child and so when times are tough people will prioritise their money. A retirement gift would rank a lot higher than a sponsorship

I only sponsor my own children and God children. It wouldn't occur to me to sponsor a colleagues child, who let's be honest probably haven't even met your child. Regardless of whether it's for charity or not. Life is expensive, and you sound as though it's more about saving face with the other parents than the actual charity itself.

This!!

Do your work colleagues have kids ?
Just if you start sponsoring one child you have to do it with others
The amount of sponsorships that come from school and clubs you cant possibly sponsor everything
We don’t do it at our work for that reason your hand would never be out your pocket

YABU. People can choose whether to donate to charity, and they can choose which charities they want to support. I don't understand why you think they should donate to yours, no matter how much warning you've given them.

YABVU and entitled here. You may think your child is the sunshine of your life and that this is an extremely important thing but to your work colleagues this is just some random child they’ve most likely never met and it doesn’t mean anything to them. If everyone did this imagine how often people would be asked to donate to stuff.

Stick to asking people who actually know your child.

You have just come back to work from maternity leave and immediately asked your colleagues to sponsor your nursery child? How many of their children have you sponsored in the past?

I don’t understand why you’re insisting on an equivalence between asking people to chip in for a colleague’s retirement present — I mean she actually works with you all, shes not an unknown pre-schooler doing a fun activity! Just admit to yourself that you got the protocol wrong, chalk it up to experience, and chuck a tenner into nursery.

A colleague's retirement is nothing like your pre-schooler's charity egg hunt!

YABU.
This is a fun activity your child is doing, not a massive challenge or hardship. If you have other colleagues who are parents they are likely to have this thing come home too (and I doubt they bring it into work).
If you want other people to sponsor your child you need to ask family and friends.
I find these things so trivial and I generally just put in a tenner from myself and DH or occasionally if it is something a bit more challenging, ask the grandparents.
I would be totally embarrassed to ask work colleagues to sponsor my child for taking part in an egg hunt and am cringing on your behalf.

Yep, you don’t take things like this into work. Family only.

I think you are over thinking this. Honestly some parents will forget to do the sponsor form at all. Staff won't notice or carecwho raised what. It's not that big a deal, and I defo wouldn't expect colleagues to be contributing.

I think you’re really overthinking this.
You gave people the opportunity to contribute, few did. That’s life.
It’s not about who you’re friends with, the loud people, the extrovert people and if anyone compares donations at a child’s nursery they’re not worth giving headspace to.
You’re contributing £20-£30 the charity wouldn’t have otherwise and they’ll be glad of that. Job done.

YABU.

I worked in a school. I was sick and tired of being asked to sponsor pupils/teachers/teacher's children.

OP this is just not a done thing . Is it your first child ?
When you receive sponsorship forms they are only for family .
You don’t ask others to pay money .

Echo what others have said. Not something for work colleagues.

also, for future fundraising (this may have been said) nobody has cash, you need a qr code for this type of thing.

Stick it on your FB page. That type of audience.

one of my twins cut 18 inches of her hair for princess trust and raised about 2000. I think cash donations at work were maybe a fiver. It’s really not a huge donation event.