To be annoyed at work colleagues

What I find most baffling is the Op thinking that her manager putting their name down would have "added more weight to it".

It happens so often with sponsor forms that people. Just ask family I would think? I wouldn’t be able to afford to give money to every friend with a child never mind work colleagues.

It’s just not the done thing in my workplace. In the 20 yrs I’ve worked there only once has a colleague asked me to sponsor their DC.
Imagine if everyone with DC brought a sponsorship form in every time there was something similar with their dc? It would be every week.
It is too much OP to ask at work, just bung in £10 from you, job done.

'Nobody'? Maybe a slight exaggeration there...

I very strongly believe bringing sponsorship forms into work and asking colleagues for money should be banned. If you know colleagues well enough outside of work, ask them privately otherwise, no.

Hmmm... I think you need to look up the definition of 'charity'.

I absolutely hate sponsored events. I can’t explain why but hate them.
I also agree that contributing to a work colleagues retirement leaving gift is completely different to this.
I contribute all the time to leaving gifts, special birthdays etc. I have never received any type of gift or present from work. I worked at my last place of work for over 10 years, and the only gift I ever got was when I left.
I would not contribute to a sponsored event.
I support lots of charities btw.

To be blunt, like other PP's have said, why would anyone be interested in what someone else's kid is doing at nursery?

It’s not appropriate to bring this sort of sponsor form into work. The only sponsorship you can ask colleagues for is if you are doing something big yourself e.g. you’re running the London marathon.

You can’t expect colleagues to give a shit about little Jess’s sponsor form.

Sorry OP think you’re in the wrong here. It’s hard now to donate to everything so people have to pick and choose. If you’re worried, do the money yourself

Had to think about this.... once had a colleague who did EVERY "day" that's recognisable as a chance to donate in some way. Cost of living is tricky now, and people should be left to donate to their CHOSEN charities only with no judgement. YABU. BTW - colleague eventually had to be asked to stop, as it was embarrassing people who couldn't afford to donate.

If you were a colleague of mine I would consider you a C/F of the highest order, and forever avoid you as much as possible

I always had a rule for any sponsorship ds was asked to do by his school or sports clubs.... family and friends were asked only.
It NEVER went round work.
So yes yabu, very

We can put out a donation request for Dave’s retirement gift or to sponsor Debbie who is representing the Department in the charity marathon, but we can’t use work communication to sponsor little Theo’s school fundraiser. Of course Sally and Tim from work might donate a few £s because they sit near you and know it’s coming up.

At my work we can’t use official communication methods (group work chats, emails, teams etc) to ask for personal, non work donations. So no fundraisers, charity sponsors etc. So glad we have this rule. We can ask people personally if they want to help out but it has to be done informally. Saves us all a lot of money because people are less brave to ask in person.

No reaction from her.

Wow- can’t believe what I have just read!

How can you compare contributing to a colleagues retirement collection to sponsorship for a child's nursery event?

I think you need to get a grip- do you feel ok after returning to work? PND manifests in many ways OP x

I have always discouraged these sorts of personal initiatives in the workplace. Many years ago the team hosted a trainee social work student on placement. She was generally a bit pushy and one day she was going around trying to raise money for her adult daughter who "needed serious surgery that the NHS would not fund.". We were quite moved and generally felt sympathetic. and positively disposed. I did eventually have to ask though what the surgery was for.......' breasts reduction'. Our attitude altered very quickly. Personal fundraising should be no-go in the workplace

I'm assuming this is your first child if she's at nursery. Wait until she's at school. Things like this are a regular occupancy. It's relentless and you end up sending a tenner in and putting a few family members names down.

I bet in all the time you've been working there people haven't bought their kids sponsorship forms in? It's because everyone feels the same.

Wait until school when it's Comic Relief day, Red Nose Day, World Book Day, Wrong Trousers Day.....

Just not the done thing in my opinion, fair enough if someone is running a marathon or skydiver something that requires real effort for a bonafide charity ,but not for a little sponsored event at school or nursery, otherwise folk would be constantly putting their hands in their pockets, we all have kids, grandkids or someone doing something like this, I personally only ever put mine and other halves names down, their siblings, grandparents and occasionally the dog!!

kindly, @justanotherimperfectmum2025

why would I donate because a child is doing an Easter egg hunt. Even if it were for a cause I support, I channel all my charitable donations via payroll giving, which my employer boosts by 50%

why do you think I should divert any of that for a colleague’s child doing an egg hunt.

Yes, YABVU! Generally, colleagues do not want to give their hard earned cash to other colleague’s kids. They probably get asked by family members already anyway. And comparing it to someone’s retirement is laughable! Don’t get caught up in trying to keep up with the Jones’, I’m sure the charity will appreciate whatever you donate.

There are so many sponsors for everything so people have to prioritise. It's no longer fill a form for a few quid, everyone assumes minimum of a fiver and the donations all show publicly.

With my DC I just ask around with gamily and friends and even then not often, we usually just put the money in ourselves. Xx

Good! How did she react?

Covid put a stop to a lot of sponsored charity things. Just realised I rarely get emails now from
colleagues or friends asking for donations.

The only one I give to is a colleague who works with a children’s hospital. I

A charity raffle would work better I think.