To find this bizarre? Friend and soap

Oh my god. She’s not asking her to look through her toiletries, she directed her to it… on the side of her bath. People on here are getting battier by the day

If that was to me, could you perhaps read my post properly before you ring the ‘shame’ bell.

I very clearly said that I wouldn’t use bar soap at other people’s houses. I use smol products at home, if you’re that curious. HTH

Fair enough. Yours was one of multiple posters who seem to have got entirely the wrong end of the stick. Or the wrong end of the bar of soap. I picked the wrong one to quote, there were many to choose from!

. I think I would have shouted that we're out of hand wash, just use the shower gel!

This

Ok you’re the odd one here!
Yes it’s all the same probably and no I wouldn’t care about washing my hands with shower gel BUT why would she think to look for shower gel? She was looking for hand wash and couldn’t find it! It’s odd you’d think she would know to grab the SHOWER GEL to wash her hands! If it was in an unlabelled bottle behind the shower screen then yes maybe!

Exactly. My laundry detergent, washing up fluid, shampoo, shower gel and handwash are all soap and yet all are formulated slighly differently and have different price points. Even if I wasnt fussy, I wouldnt expect guests to make do with anything they find in the bathroom. OP is unreasonable.

I wasn't responding to OP; I was responding to the PP whom I quoted, who seemed to be scoffing at the idea that anybody might buy both products, as they're both chemically similar.

Yes this, its ok to use shower gel, it is soap, but I'd think that you were pointing me to something called soap, I wouldnt think of using your shower gel, I might think you didnt want me to use your shower gel

YABU

Shame on you for not using a bar of soap - please tell me you at least take your single use plastic bottles to be refilled?

I would just use whatever I could find but do have hand soaps by the edge of each sink.

Having only one bottle of washing type liquid that you have to move around the bathroom is odd, but you’ve already explained that it was an oversight that the dispenser had run out. I am finding (mainly at work tbh) that people are reluctant just to take a bit of initiative and instead expect a clearly itemised list of exactly what to do, and then seem to take pleasure in pointing out any slight inaccuracies in your instructions. I mean, she needed something which had washing capabilities and you’d given her permission to use what was by the bath, how difficult is it?

I wouldn't think you meant shower gel.

Shower gel isn't a communal item for day guests popping to the loo, I use oil based scrub not gel but its wildly different to hand soap.

Your thinking is very much the same as my father who used the same bottle of fairy liquid for the dishes, floor, his hands, shampoo, clean the dog, to clean the van etc... 'its all just soap'.

You touch the pump dispenser, but you don’t usually roll the dispenser in your hands…

Also, not everything is aseptic. Most clinical procedures I perform aren’t. The aim is clean, but infection control would quite rightly read us the riot act if they discovered a bar of soap in a clinical area. Current IPC guidelines (you can look them up for yourself) explicitly state that bar soap is not acceptable.

This. She didn't want a shower, she wanted soap to wash her hands after using the toilet. I have shower gel on the side of bath a d hand soap on the side of the basin.

😂

You're probably a highly practical person who doesn't not subscribe to doing things the way other people do them, just to fit in.

That's ok, but I can tell you with certainty that most people would find it odd that you use shower gel as hand soap. I totally get why you do (because actually, I've found that shower gel is gentler on the skin as most hand soaps), but other people don't think in that way and they would see using shower gel as hand soap as unconventional.

Her reaction sounded a bit much though as there was no need to be patronising in response to you.

Totally with you that it is fine to wash hands with shower gel, if no soap. I would help myself to some if there was no hand wash / soap left by the sink.

I'm with your friend on this one, it feels too intrusive to start looking through someones toiletries in the absence of soap!

I suspect she found you condescending and patronising (in a “look- it was here all along, silly!” way)
when it was actually you calling it soap when it was shower gel

and it irked her that you were trying to make out she wasn’t looking properly when it was you not communicating properly

so I reckon she just responded in kind.

I always love these threads where "AIBU?" is such a rhetorical question.

OP: AIBU?
Posters: Yes
OP: No, I'm not.
Posrers: Yes
OP: No, I'm not.
Posters: Yes
OP: No, I'm not.
Posters: Yes
OP: No, I'm not.
One poster: No
OP: FINALLY! See, I knew I was right.

I’m pretty sure I would have known you were on about the shower gel lol but then again I have no problem washing my hands with a bit of shampoo if there’s nothing else.
Loving all the posts that are saying that it would never occur to them to use shower gel to wash their hands lol

What do the people who are worrying about bum bacteria from bar soap do about using liquid soap? Everybody touches the pump dispenser, but unlike bar soap the pump is not routinely rinsed clean by shedding a layer of soap.

@hereismydog They also have aseptic techniques and foot or elbow operated taps. Not things that are usually found in household bathrooms or public conveniences. Because people using household bathrooms generally aim for clean, not asepsis.

This isn't the set up at all.

OP does not only use shower gel and expect herself or guests to go hunting for it every time. It was instead of the normal soap dispenser, by the sink, which was unexpecdly empty.

Cancel the cheque, cancel the bizarre misreading that she doesn’t have soap as standard

I get that shower gel does the same job as liquid soap but Yabu. If I asked a friend for soap to wash my hands and they said there’s some by the bath, I’d never in a million years assume that they meant for me to use their shower gel!

They don't generally use soap in hospitals, restaurants, etc. They use detergent.