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CF's have been using my mums house as a hotel!!

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CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 18:07

My dm died last year. Her house is currently empty and we're in the process of selling it (on the market but no buyer yet). The house next door is owned by a couple. I knew that DM was friendly with them, but (apart from first names) I don't really know them at all. I'll call them "Jean and John" for this

I went round yesterday to check on the property (we live about 45 mins away) and to do some gardening. When I entered the house I noticed immediately that there was a strong smell of cigarettes. Dm didn't smoke so I thought that was very strange.. 🤔

I went into the kitchen and there's dirty dishes in the sink!? My next thought was that squatters must have moved in. I went back to my car and called Dh and then 101 for advice. The police said they could come out but it would likely be a few hours (at least) before they turned up.

Dh arrived and went into have a look. Nobody appeared to be in the house. No obvious signs of a break in, though there's clothes and stuff everywhere. So we decide, ok fine - let's take this as a warning and get the locks changed before the squatters come back.

I called a locksmith and he's in the process of changing the locks. As he's doing this another neighbour from across the road (let's call her "Anne") comes over to ask what's happening. I explain that I think we've had squatters in the house.

Anne then proceeds to tell me that Jean and John (from next door) have currently got family visiting from abroad at the moment.

But it seems rather than pay for a hotel, The CF's been letting them stay in mothers house!!! 😡😡😡 Anne has seen them coming and going since they arrived on Friday. She didn't have our contact details to check with us, but assumed we'd given permission because they seemingly had a key. We had no idea that they had this key.

When the police eventually turned up we explained all this. They went round to speak to Jean and John but they weren't at home. Said they would try again later in the week. We've bagged up the relatives things and left them on their doorstep (I wanted to burn them but DH talked me out of it). 🙄

Will they police be able to charge them with trespassing or something similar? Or are we just going to have to accept that we were (admittedly) stupid for not changing the locks in the first place and move on? I'm beyond angry with them. 😡

OP posts:
CantStopMoving · 22/04/2025 06:57

So sorry this has happened. What an utterly bizarre and unexpected situation

ChocolateBiscuitsandaCuppa · 22/04/2025 06:48

Sorry this happened. Wishing you lots of luck with it all.

ZepherinDrouhin · 22/04/2025 05:33

He sounds like a 50s plus man who's behaved appallingly because he's been caught out red handed.

Rather than face up to his crime, he's gone on the defensive and damaged the property of the deceased owner.

How utterly shameful and there's no going back from this.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 22/04/2025 05:16

Thanks for the update. It must be a lot for you to sort out.

Boreded · 22/04/2025 02:59

CustardCreamsfortea · 22/04/2025 01:13

Hi guys - Sorry for the silence over the last few days. An awful lot has happened and has had to be dealt with. As some of you guessed, because the police are now involved and charges (hopefully) pending I can't say a lot with regards to the police investigation and such like. It's in hand and I will try to come back to this thread with the full story when able to do so.

We've taken the house off the market whilst sorting the insurance claim and subsequent repairs. Thanks for all your messages and support

Thanks for the update. Can’t wait to hear how it all turns out. Hope they get what they deserve

KhakiOrca · 22/04/2025 02:12

How old is john? Can you say that. Because the way he's behaving is like a teenager

ResultsMayVary · 22/04/2025 01:22

Sorry you've been put through so much and I'm glad the police are taking it seriously

GarlicSmile · 22/04/2025 01:21

Thanks, @CustardCreamsfortea. Good to hear it's all in hand - and well done! What an utter pain. Wishing you steady progress and a satisfactory outcome.

CustardCreamsfortea · 22/04/2025 01:13

Hi guys - Sorry for the silence over the last few days. An awful lot has happened and has had to be dealt with. As some of you guessed, because the police are now involved and charges (hopefully) pending I can't say a lot with regards to the police investigation and such like. It's in hand and I will try to come back to this thread with the full story when able to do so.

We've taken the house off the market whilst sorting the insurance claim and subsequent repairs. Thanks for all your messages and support

OP posts:
Catchewer · 21/04/2025 22:43

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/04/2025 12:43

That's what she was told. It's possible it wasn't true but it makes no difference really. It was wrong.

Yes very wrong. But let’s stick to the actual events instead of making up scenarios. OP was told by a separate neighbour that it was ndn family visiting from abroad. There is no mention from separate neighbour that this has happened regularly, therefore unlikely Airbnb. I’m not sure why posters start changing the stories as threads go along 🤔

PinkyFlamingo · 21/04/2025 12:47

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/04/2025 12:43

That's what she was told. It's possible it wasn't true but it makes no difference really. It was wrong.

I did wonder . His reaction kicking the door in is so OTT!!!

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/04/2025 12:43

Catchewer · 21/04/2025 11:38

Did you read the OP? 😵‍💫 The neighbours have family here from abroad ..not random people from Airbnb 🤷‍♀️

That's what she was told. It's possible it wasn't true but it makes no difference really. It was wrong.

Catchewer · 21/04/2025 11:38

Fraaances · 19/04/2025 10:21

My guess is that they were renting it out on Airbnb

Did you read the OP? 😵‍💫 The neighbours have family here from abroad ..not random people from Airbnb 🤷‍♀️

Emptyandsad · 20/04/2025 10:45

outerspacepotato · 18/04/2025 00:42

It depends how long the screws are.

Short screws, very easy to kick in.

This little side-thread is such a male take! OP experiences a traumatic dispute with the neighbours at a very emotional time and suddenly we're discussing the relative strengthens of composite vs uPVC doors and how long your screws should be 😂

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/04/2025 08:17

1dontunderstand · 19/04/2025 22:20

Is there an update op?

The police have been involved. If there has been an arrest and the neighbour is being charged then it would be inadvisable for the OP to post any more much as I'd like to know the outcome myself.

allotmentgardener · 19/04/2025 22:29

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1dontunderstand · 19/04/2025 22:20

Is there an update op?

PruthePrune · 19/04/2025 17:42

@CustardCreamsfortea

Any updates?

RhododendronFlowers · 19/04/2025 13:12

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/04/2025 13:03

The same could happen if they let relatives stay and the OP obviously did turn up when they weren't expecting her. I wouldn't be surprised if it had been a money making scam. Either way they won't be doing it again.

My point is it's surely risky to do either? As we know, the OP turned up.

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/04/2025 13:03

RhododendronFlowers · 19/04/2025 11:02

Why? It's up for sale. People could come round and view it at any time. The OP could come round and check at any time. That makes no sense.

The same could happen if they let relatives stay and the OP obviously did turn up when they weren't expecting her. I wouldn't be surprised if it had been a money making scam. Either way they won't be doing it again.

RhododendronFlowers · 19/04/2025 11:02

Fraaances · 19/04/2025 10:21

My guess is that they were renting it out on Airbnb

Why? It's up for sale. People could come round and view it at any time. The OP could come round and check at any time. That makes no sense.

Fraaances · 19/04/2025 10:21

My guess is that they were renting it out on Airbnb

ReesesCupcake · 19/04/2025 09:43

Wow.

They just took being a CF to a whole new level, didn’t they?! 😮

carly2803 · 18/04/2025 18:52

any update OP?

Bimblesalong · 18/04/2025 14:45

Really sorry to hear this update. Glad the police got there quick time. How distressing after your loss too.

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