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CF's have been using my mums house as a hotel!!

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CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 18:07

My dm died last year. Her house is currently empty and we're in the process of selling it (on the market but no buyer yet). The house next door is owned by a couple. I knew that DM was friendly with them, but (apart from first names) I don't really know them at all. I'll call them "Jean and John" for this

I went round yesterday to check on the property (we live about 45 mins away) and to do some gardening. When I entered the house I noticed immediately that there was a strong smell of cigarettes. Dm didn't smoke so I thought that was very strange.. 🤔

I went into the kitchen and there's dirty dishes in the sink!? My next thought was that squatters must have moved in. I went back to my car and called Dh and then 101 for advice. The police said they could come out but it would likely be a few hours (at least) before they turned up.

Dh arrived and went into have a look. Nobody appeared to be in the house. No obvious signs of a break in, though there's clothes and stuff everywhere. So we decide, ok fine - let's take this as a warning and get the locks changed before the squatters come back.

I called a locksmith and he's in the process of changing the locks. As he's doing this another neighbour from across the road (let's call her "Anne") comes over to ask what's happening. I explain that I think we've had squatters in the house.

Anne then proceeds to tell me that Jean and John (from next door) have currently got family visiting from abroad at the moment.

But it seems rather than pay for a hotel, The CF's been letting them stay in mothers house!!! 😡😡😡 Anne has seen them coming and going since they arrived on Friday. She didn't have our contact details to check with us, but assumed we'd given permission because they seemingly had a key. We had no idea that they had this key.

When the police eventually turned up we explained all this. They went round to speak to Jean and John but they weren't at home. Said they would try again later in the week. We've bagged up the relatives things and left them on their doorstep (I wanted to burn them but DH talked me out of it). 🙄

Will they police be able to charge them with trespassing or something similar? Or are we just going to have to accept that we were (admittedly) stupid for not changing the locks in the first place and move on? I'm beyond angry with them. 😡

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MartinAynuss · 15/04/2025 21:09

suburberphobe · 15/04/2025 21:06

^
I say jail's too good for them, they should be sent to the electric chair! That'll teach them not to do it again. We've lost sight of what real punishment is^

Are you American?! We don't do Trump here. FFS!

Which is exactly why people keep taking over other peoples houses.
Ok maybe I was being too harsh and we should just bring back hanging?

GoodVibesHere · 15/04/2025 21:08

OMG imagine if you'd arrived there late at night, planning to stay over, only to find them sleeping in the bed! Can you imagine the shock?! I'm disgusted at the neighbours giving them a key.

GirlWhatHaveYouDoneYoureAPinkPonyGirl · 15/04/2025 21:08

God I thought the Mexican house thief was bad enough, this is terrible, what kind of people are they?!

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 15/04/2025 21:07

Wow! Utter CFers.

Garlicchillilime · 15/04/2025 21:07

Let the police take the lead, the neighbours haven’t a leg to stand on.

Strictlymad · 15/04/2025 21:06

What have I just read! You have denied them access to your house (perfectly correctly) and they are trying to kick the door in! Can Anne video for evidence! Who do they think they are?!? My ghast is flabbered…

suburberphobe · 15/04/2025 21:06

^
I say jail's too good for them, they should be sent to the electric chair! That'll teach them not to do it again. We've lost sight of what real punishment is^

Are you American?! We don't do Trump here. FFS!

AhBiscuits · 15/04/2025 21:04

The absolute cheek of them. Fucking hell.

CleaningAngel · 15/04/2025 21:04

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 15/04/2025 21:00

What the….!

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Omfg

MartinAynuss · 15/04/2025 21:04

Momtotwokids · 15/04/2025 21:00

I hope the police put them in jail.

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I say jail's too good for them, they should be sent to the electric chair! That'll teach them not to do it again. We've lost sight of what real punishment is

Hurryuphumphreygeorgeiswaiting · 15/04/2025 21:04

CF's. Can't believe what i am reading. Using your DM house as a hotel and trying to kick the door down when you have change the locks. Entitled fu*kers.

LurkyMcLurkinson · 15/04/2025 21:04

The absolute audacity of these people is unbelievable. Thank god for Anne and her reporting. I hope the police do something, although I fear they won’t.

jumpintheline · 15/04/2025 21:04

Bloody hell

suburberphobe · 15/04/2025 21:03

We had the same at my parents' house after they died. We all lived abroad.

They used the garden as a drink and drug free for all. Was a nightmare.

CleaningAngel · 15/04/2025 21:03

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 18:07

My dm died last year. Her house is currently empty and we're in the process of selling it (on the market but no buyer yet). The house next door is owned by a couple. I knew that DM was friendly with them, but (apart from first names) I don't really know them at all. I'll call them "Jean and John" for this

I went round yesterday to check on the property (we live about 45 mins away) and to do some gardening. When I entered the house I noticed immediately that there was a strong smell of cigarettes. Dm didn't smoke so I thought that was very strange.. 🤔

I went into the kitchen and there's dirty dishes in the sink!? My next thought was that squatters must have moved in. I went back to my car and called Dh and then 101 for advice. The police said they could come out but it would likely be a few hours (at least) before they turned up.

Dh arrived and went into have a look. Nobody appeared to be in the house. No obvious signs of a break in, though there's clothes and stuff everywhere. So we decide, ok fine - let's take this as a warning and get the locks changed before the squatters come back.

I called a locksmith and he's in the process of changing the locks. As he's doing this another neighbour from across the road (let's call her "Anne") comes over to ask what's happening. I explain that I think we've had squatters in the house.

Anne then proceeds to tell me that Jean and John (from next door) have currently got family visiting from abroad at the moment.

But it seems rather than pay for a hotel, The CF's been letting them stay in mothers house!!! 😡😡😡 Anne has seen them coming and going since they arrived on Friday. She didn't have our contact details to check with us, but assumed we'd given permission because they seemingly had a key. We had no idea that they had this key.

When the police eventually turned up we explained all this. They went round to speak to Jean and John but they weren't at home. Said they would try again later in the week. We've bagged up the relatives things and left them on their doorstep (I wanted to burn them but DH talked me out of it). 🙄

Will they police be able to charge them with trespassing or something similar? Or are we just going to have to accept that we were (admittedly) stupid for not changing the locks in the first place and move on? I'm beyond angry with them. 😡

You should of sat and waited for the cf to come home. And asked the wtf they were playing at.

Momtotwokids · 15/04/2025 21:00

MesmerisingMuon · 15/04/2025 20:59

How stressful for you!

Don't forget to send them the bill for the locksmith!!!

What CFs!! I can't believe they had the audacity to try and break back in! I hope the police arrest them for damage!

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I hope the police put them in jail.

suburberphobe · 15/04/2025 21:00

OMG, the fucking cheek of some people.

i'd be getting a locksmith in first thing in the morning. And no keys for anyone else.

Isn't this called "cuckooing"??

Lunchwoes · 15/04/2025 21:00

What???

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 15/04/2025 21:00

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 20:37

Anne's just called. They are back and not happy! Lots of shouting and John trying to kick the front door in 😡 Police have been called and we're on our way. Will update later

What the….!

MesmerisingMuon · 15/04/2025 20:59

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 20:37

Anne's just called. They are back and not happy! Lots of shouting and John trying to kick the front door in 😡 Police have been called and we're on our way. Will update later

How stressful for you!

Don't forget to send them the bill for the locksmith!!!

What CFs!! I can't believe they had the audacity to try and break back in! I hope the police arrest them for damage!

maddening · 15/04/2025 20:59

Kicking the door and shouting- god you would think that they would have been mortified and crawled away!

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pizzaHeart · 15/04/2025 20:58

WearyAuldWumman · 15/04/2025 20:50

Why on earth are they trying to kick in the door? If their belongings are on their doorstep, they have no need to enter.

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Maybe not all of their belongings on the door or they don’t have physically space to accommodate family plus (more likely) they are stupid and arrogant hence them using the house in the first place.

HellsBells67 · 15/04/2025 20:57

Wow! But the house is on the market, for all Jean and John knew, there could be people and estate agents turning up to view it as they tucked into dinner. How utterly mad!

ilovemyhamster · 15/04/2025 20:55

I actually can't believe what I'm reading. I'm outraged for you OP. It's absolutely disgraceful behaviour!!