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18 year old son asked for lunch by family member

359 replies

EWAB · 15/04/2025 15:49

i didn’t know how I should title the thread.

My son is 18 so an adult. A man. He lives at home and will go to university in September.

If a kind of family member, a woman, I imagine in her late 60s/70s told him she was going to be in London over Easter and would he meet her for lunch, would you be tempted to tag along?

OP posts:
Spirallingdownwards · 15/04/2025 15:51

No.

Comedycook · 15/04/2025 15:51

I wouldn't go unless I was specifically asked...seems like a nice thing to do though unless there's a backstory

W0tnow · 15/04/2025 15:51

It’s impossible to say. There’s clearly a reason you’re not comfortable with it. What’s the backstory?

Obvnotthegolden · 15/04/2025 15:50

Have you been invited?

How was he invited, directly contacted by the relative?

In which case no I wouldn't tag along.

If it's your dm I'd ask if I'm expected to be there as well.

McSpoot · 15/04/2025 15:50

Why? Because you’d enjoy lunch or to “protect” your son or??

Quiceinalifetime · 15/04/2025 15:50

Do you have reason to think she means him some kind of harm? It seems a harmless enough thing to do, if your DS is willing.

5foot5 · 15/04/2025 15:50

No. Why would you?

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 15/04/2025 15:49

What are you worried about?

Soontobe60 · 15/04/2025 15:49

Why? Have you been invited?