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‘Adult baby’ dumping their soiled nappies at nurseries

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Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 15:17

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14609809/Adult-baby-diaper-lover-dumping-soiled-nappies-nurseries.html?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR4isT17l9DRFfhCfuCOID-LPbqIS-vsae81UTcA9SxXomJlcyVrfS1ZVg-lVQ_aem_ijbhBrMir7K5T02tpTJNPA#

And guess what..

Is this individual safe to be in public and around children ever again? Willing to bet this comes from the same mental place as paedophilia?! Any psychologists here who can comment? It’s one of the sickest and most bizarre things I’ve ever read!

'Adult baby diaper lover' admits dumping soiled nappies at nurseries

An 'adult diaper lover' terrorised nurseries in Newcastle by dumping soiled nappies outside the gates. Abbi Taylor, 46, also known as Martin Tarling, identities as a woman and sleeps in bins for comfort.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14609809/Adult-baby-diaper-lover-dumping-soiled-nappies-nurseries.html?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR4isT17l9DRFfhCfuCOID-LPbqIS-vsae81UTcA9SxXomJlcyVrfS1ZVg-lVQ_aem_ijbhBrMir7K5T02tpTJNPA#

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TheKeatingFive · 15/04/2025 20:18

CrazyOldMe · 15/04/2025 20:15

I cannot believe that on a parenting website, there are posters defending a MAN who smeared feces on babies’ milk bottles.

If this is you then please stay away from children. Please.

I know right.

What the hell? What are people thinking? 🫠

CrazyOldMe · 15/04/2025 20:15

I cannot believe that on a parenting website, there are posters defending a MAN who smeared feces on babies’ milk bottles.

If this is you then please stay away from children. Please.

BundleBoogie · 15/04/2025 20:15

alloutofcareunits · 15/04/2025 15:49

I posted about this on the feminist board yesterday, it happened really close to where I live. Sentencing will be interesting as apparently they’re too ‘vulnerable’ to be in a male prison 🙄

In this unbelievably mad world he could potentially be placed in a women’s prison that has a mother and baby unit, like at least one male paedophile was and a worrying number of male rapists.

ArabellaScott · 15/04/2025 20:15

TheIceBear · 15/04/2025 18:14

Definitely shouldn’t be in a women’s prison. Imagine subjecting women in prison to this. Sends a shiver down my spine thinking about it.

He hasn't, as far as we know, committed a violent crime against a woman.

Therefore he may be put in the women's estate if jailed.

theothersideofmidnight · 15/04/2025 20:13

MinistryofThyme · 15/04/2025 15:21

Oh ‘identifies as a woman’. What a fucking surprise.

This. A million times, this.

TheKeatingFive · 15/04/2025 20:13

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 20:03

It's OK @MrsOvertonsWindow , you'll get no argument from me about the corruption of crime statistics, it's nonsense that so many sexual crimes are being recorded as women's crimes, especially rape. As I said, I don't believe this man is trans, he's using that as a way to try and make his weird behaviour acceptable

But according to the TRA position anyone is trans if they say they are. It would be transphobic to deny this person's identity.

So what would you say makes someone genuinely trans and how can we tell the difference?

BundleBoogie · 15/04/2025 20:12

Dramatic · 15/04/2025 15:38

Yes I think you're right, if he kept this fetish behind closed doors then it wouldn't be akin to paedophilia, still weird AF but I suppose it isn't hurting anyone. But in his case he's actively going near children.

I don’t think it’s as clean as that. According to psychologists, paraphilias tend to cluster, hence his trans identification as well as nappy fetish. If he isn’t an active paedophile atm, I would bet that he is at least fuelling the market for child sex abuse images.

The huge mistake of society and government is to stop us shaming and excluding these men. The number of active participants in ‘LGBTQ’ (and I’m not referring to gay people) activities who have been caught for sex crimes against children is worryingly high.

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 20:03

It's OK @MrsOvertonsWindow , you'll get no argument from me about the corruption of crime statistics, it's nonsense that so many sexual crimes are being recorded as women's crimes, especially rape. As I said, I don't believe this man is trans, he's using that as a way to try and make his weird behaviour acceptable

viques · 15/04/2025 20:03

Screamingabdabz · 15/04/2025 19:37

See I totally disagree. There is no such thing as gender. It is a social construct with no clear definition so I think we should use it interchangeably with biological sex. We need to reclaim it from this fantasyland of ‘gender identity’ and double down that gender and sex relate to the same thing. The binary - male and female.

I agree to an extent. That is how gender/ sex used to be understood, but suddenly the understanding that gender could change was confused by people shouting very loudly “Well , if I change my gender, and my pronouns, that means I can I can change my sex too”, and other people believing them. So I think until that ridiculous idea is pushed out of the window I think it is best to keep them separate.

NC28 · 15/04/2025 19:51

Fucking freak. I can’t say what I wish would happen when it’s relaxing and finding comfort inside one of the industrial bins, MN will ban me if I do.

Depraved cretin that it is. Can’t stand this bullshit society that allows things like that to feel it’s acceptable to behave in this way. Creep.

TheWorminLabyrinth · 15/04/2025 19:48

DaphneduMaureen · 15/04/2025 18:35

RTFT. That’s what the thread is about. It’s the same tedious, boring commentary about women’s prisons, changing rooms and “female spaces”. The OP intended it that way and none of you disappointed.

I have read the entire thread, thank you.

I find it bizarre that you could read about the disgusting acts this man has committed, particularly given that they seem to centre around a place where very vulnerable young children are, and jump on to seemingly defend him.

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 15/04/2025 19:47

heathspeedwell · 15/04/2025 19:19

Here's the link to the article. To be clear, this is the official government figures - it's not just a study or an opinion - it's unequivocal fact about the men who identify as women in our prisons.

More than 70 per cent of transgender prisoners are in for sex offences or violent crimes

And this is what needs pushing out into the public awareness.

BelfastBard · 15/04/2025 19:47

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 19:45

Does this fall under a sexual crime? Because I think only if it does, he can be put on the sex offenders register? Or is it being dealt with as a criminal damage type thing?

I don’t know that it does fall under a sexual offence. Despite the fact that every one of us knows that it was sexually motivated.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 15/04/2025 19:46

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 19:38

To me the trans identity is a smokescreen, people like this weirdo have worked out that they can hide behind the trans rights agenda, then when they're arrested for their excesses they can say they're fragile and only trying to be their authentic self. The trans activists have painted them all into a corner, if saying they're female is enough then they have to accept all the people who say their authentic self is a furry, a child abuser or someone obsessed with nappies.
Some small, very small, part of me feels sorry for this strange little man whose not capable of seeing past their own sexual hangups but I'm much, much more sorry for the people who have to deal with him.
I'm sure there are trans identifying people out there reading the DM who are upset and disgusted that this man is suggesting he's just like them

And I'm sure that the majority of women are upset and disgusted that this man is suggesting he's a woman. And the courts and police go along with his claims to the extent that his lawyers will demand special exemptions for his crimes which will be recorded as a woman's crime.

Take a look at the Sullivan Review's expose of the massive harm that's happened in society because of the corruption of data for crime, health, national stats etc since institutions stopped collecting accurate sex based data:

https://sex-matters.org/posts/updates/why-the-government-must-act-on-the-sullivan-review/

Why the government must act on the Sullivan Review and fix the sex data problem urgently - Sex Matters

Healthcare  Policing Organisations do not understand the law Key recommendations Sex and the Data Bill  The long-awaited report of a review of data, statistics and research on sex and gender commissioned by the government has been published. The 226-pa...

https://sex-matters.org/posts/updates/why-the-government-must-act-on-the-sullivan-review/

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 19:45

Does this fall under a sexual crime? Because I think only if it does, he can be put on the sex offenders register? Or is it being dealt with as a criminal damage type thing?

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IDontHateRainbows · 15/04/2025 19:43

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 15:27

Yes I know I just didn’t want the thread deleted for misgendering or whatever! I knew you’d all draw your own conclusions!

If misgendering him is wrong, I don't want to be right.

BelfastBard · 15/04/2025 19:42

Peony1897 · 15/04/2025 17:36

I don’t read the DM but saw this in my news feed on FB so clicked on it. It’s reported elsewhere. I think some of the lefter leaning papers are under pressure not to ‘draw too much attention’ to these cases.

I’m willing bet this is a far bigger problem than only the individuals reported on. They’re reported on as they’re actively engaging in the behaviour but I’m willing to bet there is a seedy underworld where many men enjoy videos etc of these behaviours because they’re not at the stage of dipping their own toes in.

There is. I’m sure there are darker corners of the internet but there are numerous Reddit subs devoted to these “adult baby diaper lovers”. It’s utterly utterly depraved. And there are tens of thousands of them there alone. With a huge crossover over trans identified males also sharing the “diaper fetish”.

BlossomBlanket · 15/04/2025 19:41

YouFetidMoppet · 15/04/2025 15:30

Surely theres a chance these people get a kick out of being named and shamed online though? You can't always assume they would be ashamed. It always worries me that threads like this give weirdos like that attention.

Only in a society as permissive as this would they get their kicks from being named. In many societies throughout the world they'd feel the cold chills of knowing they were going to get their head kicked in. I'm definitely not suggesting I agree with violence like that, I'm just wondering.

Helleofabore · 15/04/2025 19:40

DaphneduMaureen · 15/04/2025 18:37

Is this at me? Please, as I previously asked, link this horrific behaviour to a real world example of “boundaries being eroded”. Please show me what you mean. Demonstrate how “this is what happens”, I’m dying to see you prove causation

In addition to society, court and media being coerced into acting as if this was a female.

If the woman this male person asked for a ‘same sex’ carer (and I don’t know these details at all, this is discussing it as a hypothetical), then this is a direct boundaries breach. A significant breach at that.

Daleksatemyshed · 15/04/2025 19:38

To me the trans identity is a smokescreen, people like this weirdo have worked out that they can hide behind the trans rights agenda, then when they're arrested for their excesses they can say they're fragile and only trying to be their authentic self. The trans activists have painted them all into a corner, if saying they're female is enough then they have to accept all the people who say their authentic self is a furry, a child abuser or someone obsessed with nappies.
Some small, very small, part of me feels sorry for this strange little man whose not capable of seeing past their own sexual hangups but I'm much, much more sorry for the people who have to deal with him.
I'm sure there are trans identifying people out there reading the DM who are upset and disgusted that this man is suggesting he's just like them

Themaghag · 15/04/2025 19:37

DaphneduMaureen · 15/04/2025 17:34

Can you give an example where that is true?

Yes. The fact that choking and anal sex are now considered to be everyday sexual activities as is various forms of 'rough' sex. Violent porn is now so widely viewed that it is redefining sexual norms much to the detriment of young women, many of whom feel they have to go along with it.

Screamingabdabz · 15/04/2025 19:37

viques · 15/04/2025 16:23

Yes I knew what you meant. But a lot of people get very confused about the difference between gender and sex. Not least because certain groups like to confuse the issue because it suits their agenda to make what is something actually very simple, and fixed, appear not to be.

Gender is a social construct, you can call yourself any gender or gender variant you want, but it doesn’t change your sex.

Sex is biological, fixed at conception, we are mammals so for us ( like the overwhelming majority of life forms on our planet) sex is binary, you are either male or female. Ask Professor Lord Robert Winston, he is very clear about this!

So I think it is important to be very clear what is meant when the words gender and sex are used descriptively, they are not interchangeable.

( The nonsense about “intersex” needs mentioning too, when people with indeterminate external genitalia (DSD) are examined on a cellular level they are found to have XX or XY chromosomes. If there is a Y in the mix then however much you might not want to be , you are biologically male. There are a whole heap of chromosomal differences, many of which are extremely rare, but by and large this is the way it works. )

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See I totally disagree. There is no such thing as gender. It is a social construct with no clear definition so I think we should use it interchangeably with biological sex. We need to reclaim it from this fantasyland of ‘gender identity’ and double down that gender and sex relate to the same thing. The binary - male and female.

EnfysPreseli · 15/04/2025 19:34

cramptramp · 15/04/2025 19:07

He’s a disgusting pervert.

Sadly the response to this in some circles would be "Stop kink shaming, you bigot!"

I know I'm guilty of this too, but somehow we've allowed ourselves to become cowed about calling out the unacceptable and asserting boundaries. We're even being gaslit into denying reality in order to "be kind". Facts are just facts, it's ridiculous that pointing out the truth is being policed by a tiny, ill-informed minority who claim it is hateful or phobic. Being prepared to pretend you believe things which are patently untrue in order to appear cool, kind, sophisticated or inclusive doesn't make you a good person.

The erosion of boundaries, the bending of truth and attempting to defend the indefensible isn't new. It's ended badly before and it's going to end badly this time.

Lolapusht · 15/04/2025 19:32

For anyone not familiar with these things, this guy falls under the + in LGBQTIA+. Maybe also the Q and the T.

This is what the LGB is being force-teamed with.

Yes, not all trans identifying people, but how are we meant to know?

I do not want the nappy wearing, medical waste hugging, nappy wearing pervert in SSS.

heathspeedwell · 15/04/2025 19:19

Here's the link to the article. To be clear, this is the official government figures - it's not just a study or an opinion - it's unequivocal fact about the men who identify as women in our prisons.

More than 70 per cent of transgender prisoners are in for sex offences or violent crimes