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To report this as benefit fraud

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ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 15:08

A relative is claiming benefits, can’t work due to health but is one of those who is always complaining about something wrong with her but is always able to do the things she wants to do. Can holiday abroad, always down the gym, etc. When she was working she was always making complaints against employers- one of life’s victims.

She sold a property a couple of years ago and has squirrelled about £40k away through investments. I think has got her mother to do this for her.

I’m so fed up of seeing people like her take the piss. I 100% support a welfare system and it really pisses me off to see it abused like this. And meanwhile we are working our arses off and not able to afford the foreign travel and gym memberships.

I’m so tempted to report her secret savings to DWP.

OP posts:
Almost18 · 15/04/2025 23:03

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 23:02

Do you know her? No? In that case you have no idea if she is physically or mentally unwell.

And even if you do know her you wouldn't necessarily know either. That is why they are called 'hidden disabilities'.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 23:03

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 23:00

RTFT, yourself.

I've read your ever more ridiculous responses. And I've read everyone else's who all can see the jealousy a mile off.

We can agree to disagree then as I can see that someone with your mentality is part of the overall problem🤷‍♂️

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 23:02

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 23:00

Aware of that, this woman is getting benefits when she is neither physically or mentally unwell, she also has a blue badge…..does that not annoy you in the slightest 🤷‍♂️

Do you know her? No? In that case you have no idea if she is physically or mentally unwell.

tillyandmilly · 15/04/2025 23:02

I agree with you !

Sameoldsameoldsame · 15/04/2025 23:01

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 16:51

Hiding money by putting it in someone else’s name so you can claim benefits you’re not entitled to is very deliberate, pre planned fraud.

This.

The country cannot afford this. Just report her. Then forget her and move on.

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 23:00

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:55

RTFT

RTFT, yourself.

I've read your ever more ridiculous responses. And I've read everyone else's who all can see the jealousy a mile off.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 23:00

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 22:45

PIP is not an out of work benefit.

Aware of that, this woman is getting benefits when she is neither physically or mentally unwell, she also has a blue badge…..does that not annoy you in the slightest 🤷‍♂️

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:55

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 22:47

I'm afraid you are very naive if you believe that. She mentions a holiday and going to the gym....what has thar got to do with fraud? She is clearly jealous as she says herself she cannot afford those things.

RTFT

Almost18 · 15/04/2025 22:47

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 19:13

No, she has made it very clear that she is very anti fraud which everyone should be…..where does jealousy come into it?

Are you not anti fraud?

I'm afraid you are very naive if you believe that. She mentions a holiday and going to the gym....what has thar got to do with fraud? She is clearly jealous as she says herself she cannot afford those things.

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 22:45

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:43

Are you going to report her,
Think about it, if you don’t, you are actually part of the problem, people like her are getting away with it as no one is reporting them even when they are fully aware that fraud is being committed
That woman sounds fit and able bodied and should be working instead of sponging

PIP is not an out of work benefit.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:43

beesandstrawberries · 15/04/2025 22:00

Yep, I would. My ex’s mum claims her mental health is so bad that she can’t leave the house. She told pip that she hadn’t left the house in 2 years due to her mental health. There is nothing wrong with her, she openly admits to conning the system. She spends all her day in the pub or coffee shop and of a weekend she is at festival or club, she is NEVER home. It grinds my gears because she has a blue badge for this ‘mental health’ too.

Are you going to report her,
Think about it, if you don’t, you are actually part of the problem, people like her are getting away with it as no one is reporting them even when they are fully aware that fraud is being committed
That woman sounds fit and able bodied and should be working instead of sponging

HelloPossible · 15/04/2025 22:23

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:58

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits

That comment and mentality is another reason why suspect fraudulent cases are not being reported as it is only seen as ‘a few grand’, when an awful lot of people are doing it it amounts to a hell of a lot of stolen money which could have been diverted to much better causes

I always think the people who think like this are going to get a terrible shock when they find out how little the state thinks you can live on. The huge fraud cases I have seen are organised crime often with insiders helping and multiple identities. The amount of information I had to give when I had to fill in the attendance allowance form was astounding including all medical details and the name of the consultants and hospitals. I was told unless someone has medical equipment at home they don’t usually get it.

Truth is this person has no idea what is wrong with their relative or even what they are telling them is true. Most disability benefits are not dependent on income.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:23

beesandstrawberries · 15/04/2025 22:00

Yep, I would. My ex’s mum claims her mental health is so bad that she can’t leave the house. She told pip that she hadn’t left the house in 2 years due to her mental health. There is nothing wrong with her, she openly admits to conning the system. She spends all her day in the pub or coffee shop and of a weekend she is at festival or club, she is NEVER home. It grinds my gears because she has a blue badge for this ‘mental health’ too.

Thanks for admitting that, some people on here seem to be in complete denial ( ignorance) that benefit fraud is being committed at all when it is actually going on all over the country and people are getting away with it

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:19

Anothercoat · 15/04/2025 22:02

Are you actually that daft????

I could ask the same question of you🤷

HÆLTHEPAIN · 15/04/2025 22:19

May have been pointed out but although PIP is not means tested, if the OP’s relative is going to the gym then that potentially would against what she’s claiming PIP for.

I’m not saying people on PIP can’t go to the gym of course.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 22:18

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 21:59

That stolen money would never have been diverted to other causes though.

You don’t know that

Anothercoat · 15/04/2025 22:02

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:58

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits

That comment and mentality is another reason why suspect fraudulent cases are not being reported as it is only seen as ‘a few grand’, when an awful lot of people are doing it it amounts to a hell of a lot of stolen money which could have been diverted to much better causes

Are you actually that daft????

beesandstrawberries · 15/04/2025 22:00

Yep, I would. My ex’s mum claims her mental health is so bad that she can’t leave the house. She told pip that she hadn’t left the house in 2 years due to her mental health. There is nothing wrong with her, she openly admits to conning the system. She spends all her day in the pub or coffee shop and of a weekend she is at festival or club, she is NEVER home. It grinds my gears because she has a blue badge for this ‘mental health’ too.

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 21:59

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:58

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits

That comment and mentality is another reason why suspect fraudulent cases are not being reported as it is only seen as ‘a few grand’, when an awful lot of people are doing it it amounts to a hell of a lot of stolen money which could have been diverted to much better causes

That stolen money would never have been diverted to other causes though.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/04/2025 21:59

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:58

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits

That comment and mentality is another reason why suspect fraudulent cases are not being reported as it is only seen as ‘a few grand’, when an awful lot of people are doing it it amounts to a hell of a lot of stolen money which could have been diverted to much better causes

It could be a million pound and the seriousness would be infinitesimal compared to the harms done to one child.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:58

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/04/2025 21:44

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits (which it's not established other than in the mind of a relative who hates her is actually happening and she hasn't been living off the savings to pay for holidays and gym memberships in advance) is exactly the same as a man who rapes a baby?

Really?

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits

That comment and mentality is another reason why suspect fraudulent cases are not being reported as it is only seen as ‘a few grand’, when an awful lot of people are doing it it amounts to a hell of a lot of stolen money which could have been diverted to much better causes

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/04/2025 21:44

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:06

Just because someone is a relative, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are close or that person is a good person

If you suspected that one of your cousins were a paedophile but you were not 100% sure and there was no way of being 100% sure would you report them?

Totally different crimes but the point is still the same

You think somebody claiming a few grand in benefits (which it's not established other than in the mind of a relative who hates her is actually happening and she hasn't been living off the savings to pay for holidays and gym memberships in advance) is exactly the same as a man who rapes a baby?

Really?

HelloPossible · 15/04/2025 21:42

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:35

And yet another person discouraging the reporting of suspect fraudulent behaviour,
It’s no wonder the reported figures are so low compared to what is actually going on, it seems the majority of cases go unreported due to this kind of mindset

The poster has no idea that they are committing fraud. Most disability benefits are not dependent on income. I had to fill in a 30 page form to claim attendance allowance for a loved one. The bar is incredibly high to get these benefits. If anything most people who should be getting help aren’t getting it. I have no doubt there are some dodgy doctors saying people are ill when they aren’t but this person has no idea what is wrong with their relative.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 21:35

HelloPossible · 15/04/2025 21:29

I wouldn’t if I were you, not all benefits are dependent on income especially disability benefits and you don’t really know her medical history.

It’s the kind of thing that will almost certainly come back to you in one way or another. If she is committing crime with her mother, then how comfortable will you be if they end up in prison? Is this a family you can be estranged from permanently? I would try and concentrate on improving your own life. So that things like this don’t bother you especially when you don’t really know what’s going on and what you are being told might not even be true and designed to wind you up.

And yet another person discouraging the reporting of suspect fraudulent behaviour,
It’s no wonder the reported figures are so low compared to what is actually going on, it seems the majority of cases go unreported due to this kind of mindset

HelloPossible · 15/04/2025 21:29

I wouldn’t if I were you, not all benefits are dependent on income especially disability benefits and you don’t really know her medical history.

It’s the kind of thing that will almost certainly come back to you in one way or another. If she is committing crime with her mother, then how comfortable will you be if they end up in prison? Is this a family you can be estranged from permanently? I would try and concentrate on improving your own life. So that things like this don’t bother you especially when you don’t really know what’s going on and what you are being told might not even be true and designed to wind you up.

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