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When you are told you look exactly the same as many many years ago

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StrawberryCo · 15/04/2025 13:30

Is it a compliment?

I’ve had this comment numerous times over the years from people I haven’t seen in a long time. Some not since college or school!

(Not a boast) Most people say I look exactly the same and haven’t aged at all (I definitely have!)

I’ve remained a similar weight(slim) and I’ve never dyed my hair any mad colours so I guess my look has never really changed, does that make me very boring?!

It’s still nice to be told I haven’t aged although it’s amazing I don’t look like a haggard 100 year old with all the kid stress 🤣

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BarneyRonson · 15/04/2025 13:39

Some people maintain the same vibe all their lives, others lose or gain glasses, change hair length and colour, lose or gain weight, gain or lose confidence. Men get generically pink round and bald as they age. I’ve got old friends that are unrecognisable from weight gain, or girls that were pretty at school and plain now, and vice versa. It isn’t about wrinkles.

BeaAndBen · 15/04/2025 13:38

Your face shape hasn’t changed, and your hair is similar.

LivesinLondon2000 · 15/04/2025 13:38

Yes I think that’s a compliment definitely. I often say it to people - I don’t mean they literally haven’t aged at all - just that they have aged well, haven’t put on loads of weight etc.

owlexpress · 15/04/2025 13:37

I think it's just a thing people say after a long time apart? Either 'oh you've not changed a bit!' or 'ooh I wouldn't have recognised you, your X Y Z is so different'.

Toastandjam16 · 15/04/2025 13:36

I've been told this. I see it as a good thing. I know in part it's because I haven't changed my hair in many years - but I like my hair as it is, and can't be bothered to fiddle with it. Take it as a compliment!