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Are you a crap friend?

28 replies

ForBreezySloth · 14/04/2025 22:18

Not malicious or toxic - just not great at replying, not always emotionally available, or you fall off the radar when life gets busy? I’ve been thinking lately about how hard adult friendships can be to maintain and whether we’re more crap at it than we like to admit.

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Tallyrand · 14/04/2025 22:25

Yes I don't see my best friends for months at a time. We all have kids and jobs plus prioritise different hobbies. At this stage we're still just mates because we've been mates for 20 years.

We talk almost daily on WhatsApp but not sure that counts.

When we are together it's always good though, which is why we've been friends for so long.

A lot to be said for low maintenance friends, I'd say I am one such.

NoKnickerElastic · 14/04/2025 22:22

I think it depends on the friendships for me. My closest circle I'll show up whatever, I know they would do for me too. But honestly, the peripheral friends (school mums I don't have much history with as an example), I probably do dip in and out and wouldn't think twice about cancelling plans if I didn't feel like doing something.

whatkatydid2014 · 14/04/2025 22:19

I try and be a good friend but agree sometimes life gets a bit crazy and you just aren’t available when you’d like to be.