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Photo on sideboard

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Darknessorlighy · 14/04/2025 20:57

Have three photos on my daughter graduation on sideboard , tonight my partner said ‘ he puts up with those photos ‘ I said I am really hurt by that and he said it was a throw away comment . Aibu to think he was so rude ?

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thepariscrimefiles · 18/04/2025 10:30

CommonAsMucklowe · 18/04/2025 10:17

My mother's now deceased partner (👏🏻) didn't allow any photos of me either.
He was an absolute c**t. Get shot now!
Ps: How does anyone afford to do three degrees if only the first is funded? Genuine question.

One daughter has two degrees and the other daughter has one.

There is SLC funding for Postgraduate Taught degrees. PhD studies are often funded by Research Councils for Home students.

CommonAsMucklowe · 18/04/2025 10:17

My mother's now deceased partner (👏🏻) didn't allow any photos of me either.
He was an absolute c**t. Get shot now!
Ps: How does anyone afford to do three degrees if only the first is funded? Genuine question.

Lavender14 · 17/04/2025 16:42

Is your ex partner in the pictures or are they just of your dds? If your ex is in the pictures I can kind of see his point even if it's childish but if it's just of your DDs then tbh I think I'd struggle to stay with a man who has an issue with seeing my children's faces.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 17/04/2025 16:42

Ruse and uncalled for and unless he was 'joking!'*, I'd be dumping his arse.
He's jealous.

*Clearly a shit joke

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 17/04/2025 16:40

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Probably would!

FeetLikeFlippers · 17/04/2025 14:16

Darknessorlighy · 15/04/2025 05:51

It is 3 photos of two daughters and one has two degrees . He has a strained relationship with his children one doesn’t speak to him for months at a time and there is always drama . Never drama with mine and I think I put up with all these dramas and he has to put up with some photos which I am so proud of .

It sounds like he is jealous of your relationship with your daughters which is a bit of a red flag. If somebody can’t be happy for other people’s success or happiness in life and instead gets eaten up by jealousy, they are generally not a nice person to be around.

FeetLikeFlippers · 17/04/2025 14:13

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

You just made me spit my coffee out in public!

Bernadinetta · 17/04/2025 07:09

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

Even if they were nursery or primary school graduation photos, so what? Why would that make it a problem? If they’re nice photos of the OP’s DC that bring back a happy memory then why is there some sort of rule as to whether an occasion is deemed appropriate to display a photo? And if it was a nursery graduation photo, in what way does the OP’s parter need to “put up” with the photos being displayed?

EdgyGreyUser · 17/04/2025 06:38

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

The OP had said that her daughter has three degrees.

DeedsNotDiddums · 16/04/2025 23:20

Unless these are "nursery graduation" and "primary school graduation" type photos, YANBU and he's being a prat! Or is he obsessed with interior decor (eg do the colours clash with the room).

EdgyGreyUser · 16/04/2025 22:50

GettingMySpringOn · 14/04/2025 22:14

Well he's a catch isn't he ? If someone said that to me I'd be inclined to add more . !

Lol.

Wtafdidido · 16/04/2025 22:10

They remind him of what a total and utterly shite parent and shite relationship he has with his own kids and the fact that your have turned out happy and successful and. In a good relationship with you makes him cross because he has failed his kids! Put up a few more !

FitAt50 · 16/04/2025 21:56

Moveoverdarlin · 14/04/2025 20:59

I assume she’s not his daughter? I assume it’s not his house? I assume he’s an utter cock?

I assume you smell of Bisto? I assume you look like a tortoise ? I assume you are a cat worrier?

Ilovecleaning · 16/04/2025 21:46

Tell him he’s only jealous because he’s thick…
I assume he has no children and has zero understanding of parent/child relationships. He’s crass, rude and childish.

MillieMinx · 16/04/2025 21:39

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Jealously is not a nice colour to wear. Try a different one

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 16/04/2025 20:25

I wasn’t going to say it. Really wasn’t.

BUT….. LTFB!!!!

He sounds awful OP, you deserve better 💐 (and your daughters achievements praised)

Nikki75 · 16/04/2025 19:20

I've just read your replies after posting a minute ago.. yes this screams of his issues with his own family .
I knew someone like this get rid of him and find someone with respect for you and your daughters.
Leave him to his dramas it won't change x

Nikki75 · 16/04/2025 19:16

He sounds like a jealous man-child.. does he have children if his own that he feels he didn't do well enough by.. I wouldn't put up with that it's not a comment you come out with .. I'd be fuming.

BewilderedPiskie · 16/04/2025 18:56

Such an unnecessary and unpleasant thing to say!! I hope this is out of character and he realises he's been totally out of order and sincerely apologises.

pollymere · 16/04/2025 18:54

I only have one graduation pic in a double frame with one of my husband's.

I'd be saying that you'll put his there when he gets his degree (or Masters or PhD...)

Buffs · 16/04/2025 18:43

TennesseeStella · 14/04/2025 22:15

To be fair to him, three different graduation photos is excessive. If she'd had three wedding ceremonies I doubt you would have photos from each of them up in the house!

Three degrees is an achievement, three weddings less so.

PotatoLove · 16/04/2025 18:41

He sounds like an utter twatwaffle.

consistentlyinconsistent · 16/04/2025 18:30

He sounds really stupid and unhinged... not a great combo.

Fuzzykins · 16/04/2025 18:30

Coming from someone whose mother would happily display photos of everyone else except her daughter, I would ignore him. If he makes an issue, I would be having serious concerns as this is not right. The pictures are of your daughters at a very special time. You shouldn’t have to explain why you have them on display to anyone. X

Ferniefernfernfern · 16/04/2025 18:29

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