I hate having two kids

This troubles me. Do you have postnatal depression?
The reason your post troubles me, is you are truly not happy having two children.
So what does this mean for those children. Children are sensitive to their parents moods. They look to you for guidance and instruction.
If you hold these thoughts then they will come out in you even if you try really hard for them not too.
So the importance here is to perhaps seek therapy to work on where this is coming from.
It's only a thought and you can take or leave it.

Sounds like u need a parenting class if u can’t cope with 2 children, speak to your GP.

It’s tough when they’re that age. I’ve got three who are now 7, 8 and 13 and it’s a lot easier. They do still bicker but not nearly as much as they used to. When the little ones were 2 and 3 it was hellish some days. Hang in there, I always said I’d never miss their younger years but I really do. You’ve got this. We also have no family around to help on either side. It didn’t happen much when they were younger but we now can have nice family meals out and trips out without it nearly ending in divorce.

We’ve got 3 under 4 and it’s really tough every other weekend one of us takes all of them unless it’s over babies nap time for 2 hours it makes SUCH a difference

Thanks for the compliment. I enjoy your posts too.

You must have led a very sheltered life.

My boys are now 6 and 4 and much less fighting and now play together.

we are away this weekend and only but of toddler equipment is a sippy cup!

it gets easier

Nah I've done London and it's not for me.

Do you have an actual clue how people live?!

I suppose you are in London too! 🙄

Yeah right, London. And everyone's in London, sure!

There are no such agencies where I live. Expand your mind a little.

Mine are 6&7 and it's still difficult but somewhat better now. You've almost made it to school age lol, trust me it improves. Mine fight and act like they despise each other 99% of the time and it's always MUMMYYYYY. But my sons autistic/has verbal apraxia which makes it difficult too lol. You'll get there, I promise. I wasn't sure id make it out the toddler trenches but we are all still here!

I mean my aunty tells me to have another child incase my only dies. People have always got opinions! Hope you're OK op

Newsflash.... It will be because that's what siblings do.

Im sorry you're not enjoying both of your children.

It is hard.
We never used to get any date time.
Now we use someone we knows daughter who our DC really like it we do go out which is rare!!

Yes life is easier with one (especially as both of mine are ND as am I) and yes they're stressful at times but you learn to adapt and pick/choose your battles.

The joy and love these little people have for you .... Your their while world!!

I hope you can find peace in your head x

There used to be a nationwide one called Sitters. Not a clue if it's still going as been 15 years since used hgem

You can't dump one roadside so are rather stuck. Get a diary and use that to vent in, keep it an re read it if you ever consider another.

Realistically if you are finding it so overwhelming then something needs to change and I include his job in this. If it doesn't work for your family, in that you are left picking up the slack and feel overwhelmed then you need to have a sit down conversation about it.

The situations you have described weren't ones that would get to me as a parent and are quite specific to their ages. However you are doing lots of solo parenting which is tough! It won't always be this way however siblings do squabble. Currently you are in the trenches and at a stage where they demand a lot of you physically snd mentally. That part does change as they get older, there will be less physical demands on you.

You’re the one continuing to argue about something which is utter nonsense.

Of course there are babysitters during the day. You’re just wrong, stop trying to double down.
It’s not a London thing for godsake.
You apparently never having heard of it nor knowing how to book one is hardly relevant.

@mainecooncatonahottinroof @PyongyangKipperbang I'm sorry for being an immigrant in the UK and only ever living in London. Is everyone born or living in London mega privileged? If so, sounds like you need to move to London.

I've just done a 30 second Google search for babysitting agencies in Newcastle and I found 5. I couldn't be arsed to read further. There are babysitters everywhere. If you don't want to use them, fine. But it's not some London specific benefit.

Well in fairness, its hard to set up a babysitting agency when we are dodging Zombies and trying to restart life in our post apocalypse wasteland.....

Definitely this. You’re still in the trenches OP, hang in there and it will become a lot more manageable and even enjoyable in a few short years.

I know! Some people seem incapable of comprehending that we are not all in fucking London!!

I did live and work in London many years ago, and going on replies on here, people were a lot more polite back then!!

There is that privilege again.

I thought as much. I am not in London. I don't think they are common elsewhere but as my youngest is 21, it's not something I've had to think about for years, but I've never come across such a service, even with people I know who have young children.

Thank you for being civil about it x

You're being extremely rude. You could have said that in a much nicer way. Do you think it makes you look clever to post snark?

I'm not looking for a fucking babysitter in 2025 because my children are adults.

It's just not something I have ever heard of.

I'm sure you are perfectly capable of being polite but...

One of the highlights when my older three were all pre-schoolers: dh phoned from the lovely bar of the 5 star European city hotel he was in to tell me Robbie Williams and Kiri to Kanawa were both in there so they'd shut the bar but were giving mere mortals free drinks/snacks. I believe I hung up on him.

Another time he called to say he'd had the best lunch ever and proceeded to go into detail about it. Again, I hung up!

One time he was in a bar and Slash from Guns n Roses came in to do an impromptu unplugged set. Wasn't happy at that one!

We're still married (!) and have four lovely adult children. It honestly gets so so much better, As an only child I count myself so lucky. I look at them together and realise however different they are, they have such a strong bond.

I thought that , then I cry when I see photos of my 45 year old daughter and just want to hold her as a small child again when at that time I just wanted her to grow up a bit because when you're in the middle of it all it seems so hard and endless.xx