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Mum won't accept I don't want someone seeing my child so now I've said my mum can't either.

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RachCmomma · 14/04/2025 16:19

For context I don't have a great relationship with my mum anyway.

I have fallen out with my brother and SIL and in retaliation they made a malicious social services report accusing me of physical abuse of my 1 year old. The police checked him over, spoke to childminder and his father ect and it was un founded.

It transpired that SIL had sent social services doctored photos of my child and a photo of him having a bruise on his eye- luckily I had a video of his injury happening as it was his first walk outside and he got too excited and fell....
Anyway understandably I have said I don't want the around my child since this happened.

My mum keeps manipulating me into letting my child see them- for example inviting them out on days when she has my son I've made it clear thst I do not want this to happen under Amy circumstances.
I've told her she needs to respect my decision and stop trying to guilt trip me into doing what she wants.

She has my son on a Tuesday and today she rang me to tell me she's planned a family day out tomorrow at a park...but SIL amd her child will be there...I've said no.. she's started shouting at me and we've had a row I've now said that as she clearly can't respect my boundaries and she isn't willing to tell them what they did was disgusting she won't be having my child on her own, as I don't trust her not to do it anyway.

Obviously now I feel awful and she's making me out to be the vilan
.. what do people think?

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PivotPivotmakingmargaritas · 14/04/2025 16:26

Nope your brother and SIl are evil - to manipulate a photo to report to social services is disgraceful

If your mum can’t respect that then keep away from her too !!!!

PinkyFlamingo · 14/04/2025 16:26

Is your brother the golden child?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 14/04/2025 16:25

My mum was like this

We've been estranged for five years now

I'm thankful every day for the choice i made- when you don't have supportive family, you're gonna find yourself in the situation where you have to keep your child away from people

Do right by your child and fuck everyone else ❤️

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 14/04/2025 16:24

I wouldn't want my child around someone who would do that either. However bad an argument, making up a story about child abuse and wasting social services and police time is horrendous and unforgivable.
It sounds like your mum will try to sneak in visits with SIL and can't be trusted to do as you ask. I'd not allow her to have DS either.

Cardiganwearer · 14/04/2025 16:24

You’re absolutely right of course! Who cares if you’re the villain? SIL seeing your dc again gives her chance to do it again. Of course you should protect your family from someone so malicious. Is your brother the golden child and you the scapegoat because that would make perfect sense.

Summertimeblahness · 14/04/2025 16:24

What does your mum think about what they did?
She doesn’t sound like she’s taken it very seriously.

She wouldn’t be near my child if she couldn’t keep them safe.

NancyJoan · 14/04/2025 16:23

She sees your child with you, or not at all. Nothing to even debate.

Spirallingdownwards · 14/04/2025 16:23

That is a hell no from me. Stand your ground. What does your mother say about them making the false and malicious claim?

WhatNoRaisins · 14/04/2025 16:22

I wouldn't trust any of these people. Maybe your mum does have some very misguided good intentions about mending the fall out but this isn't the way to go about it.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 14/04/2025 16:21

She sounds awful, the distance will do you good.

Acc0untant · 14/04/2025 16:21

I'd feel the same as you.

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